Son split with girlfriend- feel so sad.

POPPYOSCAR

I feel so sad. She has been part of our lives for over 2 years. He has done the right thing as he 'does not love her anymore'.

She is devastated. I know most of us have to go through this - she is young and will get over it- but I keep remembering how I felt when it happened in my youth, and I feel so bad for her.

She is such a lovely girl. It has come as a great shock to her, and she does not deserve to feel such pain. Nothing I can do other than offer them both my support, but I feel so horrible inside.

Plans_all_plans

I think quite a few mothers go through this. I was with a boyfriend for a year and when we decided to mutually split, she was more upset than either of us! Even though we split up 9 years ago and I'm not in contact with him anymore, she sent me gifts when my daughter was born 4 years ago!

Once a year or so she'll email me too. I'm sure she would have loved me as a DIL, but I was only 17 when we split up and there was no way I'd have married him anyway.

She'll be ok. Try not to worry too much.

thorsoak

Been there, done that, got a terrible shoulder now, after all the crying that's been done on it -
I remember the feeling well!

It's very hard for a parent, when daughters/sons break with their boyfriend/girlfriend - especially when you've got to know and like the boyfriend/girlfriend over a year or so - it's like losing one of the family. You are doing all you can.

Gillyx

This is so sweet, shows how nice a mum you are, that you obviously counted her as part of the family. She will get over it, as a wise person one said to me, when we are at our lowest ebb we believe things will never get better, and when we are riding high, we think it will never end. I've felt like that in relationships before and it's part of growing up.

My last boyfriend, who was pretty long term, split up with me the same week my parents separated, it was probably the blackest period of my life, but you get through it, and she will too. You can still text/phone her from time to time to offer your support and let her know you're there for her. I'm sure she'd appreciate it

Also everything happens for a reason, even if it isn't always apparent at the time.

meritaten

It happens hun, my bro broke off his engagement to a girl I would loved to have called sister-in-law and married a beetch! but, it was his life and he didnt love her! better to break it off BEFORE the wedding than go through the pain of an unhappy marraige and a divorce.
The lady doesnt speak to any of us - I dont blame her, but I do miss her. I understand why though. even though she has since married and had children.

sparrer

I stay in touch, via FB and text, with my DS's ex gf. They were together for 4 years and she's the sweetest person, however they fell out of love with each other and went their separate ways. They're both now in other long term relationships, she's marrying next year and I'm so happy she's found someone.

It was devastating at the time but today I'm happy that she's happy. Try not to take sides or speak badly of, or overpraise, one to the other. In fact I never even mention her to him these days, he has a different life. It does ease, like everything it just takes time.

jamespir

aww thats sweet ive been with my gf for 10 years net march and my mums brought her christmas presents and birthday presents since we started dating

MamaMoo_2

Aww.
I can honestly say, I wish my MIL was half as lovely as you!
Heck, I wish my mother was that nice!
It's nice that you care so much about her and her feelings. It's such a shame when relationships end, at least it sounds like it wasn't too messy x

pinkshoes

It was hard enough when I broke up with my ex after nearly 5 years together, as he decided he wasn't sure how he felt about me any more, and I couldn't continue being with someone who wasn't sure after that long.

What made it worse was my mum saying what a nice guy they thought he was, so what a shame it was! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! How to kick a girl when she's down!

(and she was wrong! He was an ar*ehole!)

gratefulforhelp_2

Well done your son for being brave and not letting her "dangle".

Amyrose

It’s sad and it is very painful but it is also a very important growing experience the benefit of which will be felt when the healing starts.