Do old dating traditions still apply?

meher

whoever invites ofcourse pays

Saucepot wrote:

I'm happy to pay for a date.

and I'm happy to be your date

Daft_Monkey

I tend to pay when out on a date. I still pay when out with my girlfriend mostly because I know she cannot afford it. She wanted to pay in numerous occassions but I wouldn't let her.
What still makes me laugh is that long time ago, when dating another girl, she had no objections for me to pay the bill at an expensive restaurant (not that I've ever asked her to do so, but she never even tried). However, stopping over at McDonalds after a movie and she wouldn't let me pay for her 99p burger, giving me all this rubbish about her being independent and a feminist etc. It's interesting how some forget their values when the bill is in the region of £50-£70. I know this is not the rule, but it happens and I find it laughable and sometimes annoying.

fififofum

I voted half and half because thats the way I have always gone. I am very independent. Even though I live with my partner of 4+ years we still go half and half or alternate paying ie for food shopping one week, the other the next and he earns more than double i do plus he has no debt. If I go out as a group i expect to pay my share (rounded up to include tip).

littlemissmoney

First date: Woman should offer to go halfs, but man should refuse and pay. Personally I would be SO insulted if he didn't refuse! The only exception would be if the date had gone really badly then I might actually want to pay half so I don't feel so bad about it.

All future dates: Man should offer to pay it all, woman should refuse and offer to pay her half, man should accept her offer

(I'm female)

paddcomp

I do find it amusing that most men think they should pay the whole bill but the women who want to pay only want to pay half!

Have you noticed when women go out as a group they ask for the bill and a calculator. Each one will write out a cheque for the exact amount with no allowance for a tip :mad: , and sometimes for extras such as garlic breads etc.

For those who need to know, I believe that the man should pay for the whole of dinner but women should still offer to pay if they want to. :beer:

pinkfluffybabe

I said whoever asks who.

However, on reflection, if I ask a female friend to meet me for dinner I don't offer to pay so maybe that is a double standard.

I would always offer and would most certainly pay for a second date if he didn't let me chip in for the first. After that it would be half each or take it in turns.

Midget_Karen

If the man asked me out, i'd expect him to pay, but i'd offer to pay some and wouldn't mind if he accepted. if he paid it all, i'd make sure i got us drinks.

after that, i'd expect to share the cost, not necessarily half-half each meal, but taking it in turns to invite and to pay - i paid the full cost of some meals with my ex. when i'd invited us out. he'd always offer to pay half though. I would feel uncomfortable with one person always doing the paying (unless they were loaded )

loracan1

I just wouldn't feel comfortable spending someone's money if I didn't know them well. And why assume he'd be able to afford it? Half and half for me - unless he's loaded and willing to spend it.

Imelda

When I went on my first date with my OH I was worried about how expensive it would be, I knew he earnt a lot of money (he used to work where I work now and went on to a better job) and he had arranged the date. When it came to the bill I offered to pay half, he wouldn't hear of it. I paid on the second date, but then I chose the venue.

puffinmuffin

When I first started seeing OH I was a student and he was making almost 30k. We just went for drinks on our first date so that was pretty even. On an early date he took me for dinner and paid but i reciprocated with a meal i cooked myself. As he still earns double what i do, when it is my turn to pay i seek out deals etc for meals out.