Managers including assistant

Sambucus_Nigra

LEEDASH wrote: »

I will report the matter as i dont want my business all over the place

Then don't have your assistant manager's ex being able to find you on facebook. Seriously - all this will do is to make your life harder at work. By all means, go see the assistant manager and tell him what she is doing - but making a complaint will just give him a rap on the knuckles and make him meaner to you. Is it really worth it?

Leedash

To be honest rules are rules and people should not get away with talking about private matters

scheming_gypsy

LEEDASH wrote: »

To be honest rules are rules and people should not get away with talking about private matters

so why did you tell us all that your manager has split up with his girlfriend?

Have you never told your missus about something that's happened at work? sorry but i think you're making a meal out of something trivial; unless of course you've only told us part of the issue so it seems trivial.

SarEl

LEEDASH wrote: »

To be honest rules are rules and people should not get away with talking about private matters

Well for a start off - there are no such "rules". And you actually don't know that he did. She says this that and the other - and being his ex she has utterly no agenda of her own here? We have no idea if she came across the information from him telling her, from someone else telling her, from seeing a sick note on a desk when she popped into the office, or any other reason. And unless she happens to be a "friend" - how did she even know that you are on Facebook?

But I think that you are missing the entire point so I am going to put it very simply. Even if he did this, and even if he admits it, he is going to get away with it! He'll get a slapped wrist possibly. If the employer is very hot on such matters then he might get a minor warning on his record. That will be it. You, on the other hand, are going to have a manager who is !!!!ed off with you. And that is going to help you how? You are off sick. You want your manager on side with you. If the story his ex has told you is true (and there is currently no evidence to say it is) then your complaining about your manager will result in him being less keen to get rid of you, in what way? And if it isn't a true story, isn't it just possible that the managers attitude will be "well Leedash can go to hell if s/he thinks I am going to bat for him/her on anything after this". It is highly unlikely that he has a clue what his ex has done, and I doubt you are the only recipient of nasty messages, and it isn't as though you couldn't have taken this up directly with him.

Leedash

So what's the point if this breach of information rule,remember she don't know me wouldn't even known my name unless ie this manger had told her,

SarEl

LEEDASH wrote: »

So what's the point if this breach of information rule,remember she don't know me wouldn't even known my name unless ie this manger had told her,

Or she saw your name on a piece of paper? Or someone else told her something about you? And from this tiny bit of information (and she must have a great memory) she found you on Facebook how??? How many people could there be with the same or similar names - how did she know it was you? You must have an awful lot of information about yourself on public access for her to be sure that she was messaging you and not some total stranger.

But you still are not getting this. What "information rule"? The employer should keep your personal information private and it should only be shared on a need to know basis, yes. But it is a "should". It doesn't prevent someone from mentioining something like "It been a struggle at work today because Leedash is off with ...." It's the sort of thing that happens. People don't compartmentalise their lives and think, I mustn't ever tell my wife / girlfriend X because of Y. As has been pointed out here - you have pased his private business about splitting up with his ex over a public website, and just because you have done it anonymously doesn't mean he won't find out! Yes, it not likely. But that isn't the point. You can either make a big song and dance about this, and ensure that your manager has utterly no reason at all to support you in the future over anything, or you could have a quiet word about this and say how upset you are about what she has done and stay on his "right side". It's likley that either way, the best you will get is an apology and a promise it won't happen again - but one will likley get you an alienated manager and the other won't.