'Making' my nephew homeless

Judith_W

I'm sure he will be able to get a place in an emergency night shelter. They normally give 30 days and give support and advice for getting a longer term place somewhere. Think of your son, out of order others are placing blame on you. Its vital you stop facilitating his recklessness

Violetta_2

This may not be an immediate solution but might be worth him looking into to help him get himself together http://www.csv.org.uk/volunteering/youth , I was a volunteer through CSV when I was younger & they gave me a roof over my head & I think you get a weekly allowance too.
You are doing the right thing, you can't put up with someone stealing from you, does he maybe have substance abuse problem's?

notechno

Thanks for all your replies

He left with me this morning. He was gutted and crying, but I steeled myself. I care, but he's let me down big time so I don't care, if you know what I mean

Yes, I think there is substance abuse - I've found facebook messages talking about 'bubble' which I understand to be what the media call miaow-miaow. And his teeth are in a bad condition, which I believe can be a symptom of drug use

He's emailed me at work (presumably from the library) saying that Shelter have told him he needs to be signing on again, even if he won't receive anything, so he's asked if he can use mine as a care -of/delivery address.

It's the little things as well. Even without the taking things and trouble he's caused, he's just not a positive influence to have around. My son got elected Form Captain last week. When he told my nephew, he replied "It's only school, get a grip" - he got told off for that. Last week my nephew saw an attractive woman outside the shop. I watched her getting into a lovely Audi, and pointed it out, to which he replied "She'll have got a stupid old fella to pay for that" - not positive attitudes to have around, really!

Savvy_Sue

Ah, another possible place if he's willing to get himself straightened out: Emmaus.

What did you say to the c/o address thing?

notechno

I said yes, seeing as it was just a delivery address, but am wondering now if I shouldn't have done - zero tolerance, and all that

I'll email him the links for the organisations you've all kindly offered, and take a full look at them myself so I know what's what

By the way, my family aren't angry with me for kicking him out, they're angry that I've helped him in the first place

Savvy_Sue

He could do worse than register as a Big Issue seller, if that operates in your area. They may well have arrangements for acting as a c/o address.

flutterby_lil

jamespir wrote: »

as a lad of 21 with no benefits or income he is basically screwed you could talk to the council about him going to a homlless shelter but as he does not really have a priority then they may not help

Good suggestion but I would let him talk to the council, let him talk to shelter....he only has himself to blame.

Kay_Peel

He ought to be giving his Dad or Mum's address as his postal address, not yours.

flutterby_lil

Good luck notechno, you have done yourself proud by taking him in, I am proud that you stuck to your word, he might now realise everything you have done for him that he hasn't appreciated.

BitterAndTwisted

Crikey! You have done more for him than many parents would under the same circumstances. I'd have chucked him out for good the first time he stole from you.

He's made his bed and now he must lie in it. I daresay he's got plenty of pals who'd give him a sofa for a bit.

Change the locks and don't look back.