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Should I move out again? I can't decide on my own.

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  • Yorkie1
    Yorkie1 Posts: 12,750 Forumite
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    To OP, I am going to make some generalisations here which may or may not apply to you, so feel free to accept or reject what you want. I'm not trying to patronise you either, just make some comments from my own experience and that of others who are close to me.

    You've got long-term anxiety and depression and are still a very young adult at only 19 years old. The pressures of holding down a job, living alone, having responsibility for making decisions about how to live your life, and so on, can take a lot of getting used to at any age - but particularly with that ill-health condition, and even more so if its severity comes and goes.

    On top of that, if you own a property, you are tied to it in ways that renting or living with family does not compare to. You have to make decisions about repairs, decoration, furnishing, budgeting etc. You can't easily get out financially if your ill-health flares up, or if your job becomes less secure etc - and the pressure of knowing this can make matters worse.

    My suggestion to you is that you keep on saving for as long as it takes to get a decent deposit behind you, and also take this time to ensure that you are ready on all levels to buy.

    If your goal really is to buy something, then you should be dedicated to making it happen. As things are OK at home, the loss of independence and privacy sounds a price worth paying.
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