DD has been diagnosed with ADHD

Darlyd

grey_lady wrote: »

Oppositional defiant disorder is also known as bad behaviour - and you were offered parenting classes but turned them down because?

I have been there done that, wore the t-shirt. During her "tantrum", "fascination", there is no stopping her, all well and good to punish her afterwards, but how do you stop it from happening and during. No one tells you that, except to sit on her to stop her harming someone or herself.

grey_lady

darlyd wrote: »

I have been there done that, wore the t-shirt. During her "tantrum", "fascination", there is no stopping her, all well and good to punish her afterwards, but how do you stop it from happening and during. No one tells you that, except to sit on her to stop her harming someone or herself.

Maybe if you persevered with the classes you could learn useful techniques?

Maybe your own bi-polar / depression is clouding your thinking?

meritaten

darlyd - psychiatrists are so reluctant to diagnose (label) anyone with a mental disorder these days its criminal! your daughter and your family clearly need help. have you shown the gp your films on your Iphone? perhaps he would be prepared to make a house call the next time she goes into meltdown and arrange a Section for her? is he/she sympathetic? I know you distrust the medical profession - but the more people she sees the more chance she will get the help she needs!
I am going to PM you as I want to tell you something I dont want to post on here.

System

From my understanding its pretty rare for psychiatrists/doctors to diagnose anyone under 18 with a mental disorder (bar prehaps depression), it took till i was 23 to be diagnosed with bipolar despite suffering from it since i was 11.


It must be scary for all involved when she does have a meltdown, hell my flatmate is 24 and still didn't know how to deal with my meltdown on friday

Darlyd

grey_lady wrote: »

Maybe if you persevered with the classes you could learn useful techniques?

Maybe your own bi-polar / depression is clouding your thinking?

I don't think so.

Darlyd

meritaten wrote: »

darlyd - psychiatrists are so reluctant to diagnose (label) anyone with a mental disorder these days its criminal! your daughter and your family clearly need help. have you shown the gp your films on your Iphone? perhaps he would be prepared to make a house call the next time she goes into meltdown and arrange a Section for her? is he/she sympathetic? I know you distrust the medical profession - but the more people she sees the more chance she will get the help she needs!
I am going to PM you as I want to tell you something I dont want to post on here.

Thank You.

Darlyd

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

From my understanding its pretty rare for psychiatrists/doctors to diagnose anyone under 18 with a mental disorder (bar prehaps depression), it took till i was 23 to be diagnosed with bipolar despite suffering from it since i was 11.


It must be scary for all involved when she does have a meltdown, hell my flatmate is 24 and still didn't know how to deal with my meltdown on friday

I was in my early 20's when I was diagnosed, but suffered with it since I was 9-11. So buddy frustrating. But I was not half as bad as DD1. My mum would kill me if I smashed windows/doors in my home as well as neighbours. :eek:.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I can't help but think, whatever your daughter is suffering from, that rejecting medication as dismissing it out of hand for being given out like sweets, could be keeping her from gaining a semblance of serenity in her life.

Have you not had the sheer relief of being brought back from a manic episode? When at last, the world slows down and you can breathe freely? The feeling of actually sleeping and not fearing what you might see in the dark?

By trying medication, your daughter might experience that calm for the first time.


After all, nobody stops being bipolar through deciding they don't need medication, do they?

*Robin*

darlyd wrote: »

She seen patrician when she was 8/9 due to puberty at age 6, he knew there was something going on, after many tests, he referred her to a psychiatrist, she seen her once for 20 mins, and told me there was nothing wrong with her (this was done before we moved to England).

Darlyd, there can be other health problems associated with precocious puberty; both physical and psychological. If she hasn't been seen by a paediatrician in the last four years, can you ask your GP for a referral to have your daughter's endocrine function checked? (Did the consultant find the cause of her PP when the condition was diagnosed?).

I suffered from PP forty years ago when the condition was much rarer than it is today. Even in those days, I was seen at the hospital and had blood tests every six months for several years, until the problems caused by my PP settled down.

Something else occurs to me; you said you've wondered if your daughter is showing signs of BP but been told by the doctor that she is too young.
However, BP often first manifests in late teens/early twenties - ie. five to ten years after the onset of puberty.

I could say more, but really think you should be asking the doctor to book your daughter an appointment at the hospital.