best way to deal with a child touching himself

skintchick

My DD is only 2 and pretty much every nappy change will ask to 'touch my ladybits'. SHe likes to really have a good feel, it's pretty enthusiastic! Currently I just let her and make no issue, will move onto the 'in private' conversation when she's a bit older.

She has asked to touch mine, and offered me hers, and I just said 'no, we don't touch other people's ladybits, they are private' and I am hoping she will grow out of it a bit. I did ask her if it felt nice and she said 'Yeah!' really enthustiastically, lol.

At 2 I think she's too young to have a big conversation about it, but at 4 you should be able to talk through the basics of it being private and personal.

thegirlintheattic

Explain it is private and that he can only do it when alone in his room.

Make it clear he shouldn't show anyone, touch anyone else like that or let them touch him.

Darlyd

Yes It is very natural.

BUT I think a post like this on a public forum is a bit OTT.

rachbc

darlyd wrote: »

Yes It is very natural.

BUT I think a post like this on a public forum is a bit OTT.

OTT in what way?

Op both my son and daughter seem to like a rummage in their pants - we just do the 'in private only' thing

ukjoel

Lets face it - who doesnt love a rummage.

We are a nation of rummagers.

Just dont do it on the bus or you will be asked to get off and walk.

threemuttleys

darlyd wrote: »

Yes It is very natural.

BUT I think a post like this on a public forum is a bit OTT.

why? compared to some of the posts on here, fairly normal id say.

Any

darlyd wrote: »

Yes It is very natural.

BUT I think a post like this on a public forum is a bit OTT.

?????
Exactly why so many people make avoidable mistakes... too many taboos and people like you.

Where better to talk about something like this, then hidden behind a screen, no need to be embarassed and get as many POVs as possible?

babymoo

My younger cousin used to this this when we were all kids. He is about 10 years younger than me so it used to amuse us all greatly when he would get caught doing it at the age of 3.

It is completely normal, cousin was told that he was only to do this in his bedroom with the door shut and in private but was always told that it was perfectly healthy and normal.

He was also told as he got older, before he started school that it was only for him to touch and he wasn't to show it to anyone else or ask anyone else to touch it.

It took him about 12 months to stop doing it all over the house but he's turned our to be a rather respectable young man now

To be fair you walked into his room, where he was doing something in private? Perhaps you need to introduce the knock once before entering rule? You wouldnt expect for him to just walk into your room without knocking anymore so why should his room be any different? I'm not suggesting waiting for an answer, but 3 raps on the door before you open the door, just to let him know that you are about to enter. 4 or not he is allowed privacy, I apologise if this last statement is out of turn.