grown up child at home

elvis86

pinkclouds wrote: »

The OP has not posted any information about their (supposed) spouse. I can imagine any number of possibilities ranging from being a homemaker and enabling hubby's work patterns to being disabled (before or after having kids) and unable to work outside the home. But it's all pure imagination as no facts have been given. The other adult could even be an elderly parent/grandparent, perhaps requiring additional care. That would be a particularly tough circumstance, placing extra pressure on the OP to find a fast solution.

Being a homemaker is a choice, and one which it sounds like this family can ill afford.

If there are any disabled family members, why is the family living purely on the OP's salary, and not in receipt of disability benefits?

If there is an elderly person in the house, why is the family the family living purely on the OP's salary, and not in receipt of even a state pension?

kazwookie

OP stop feeding them, simples!

looby75

elvis86 wrote: »

I reiterate, based on what the OP has said:



No mention of anybody being in receipt of disability benefits etc.

ok so maybe not disabled, maybe as I said he's lost his job and can't claim JSA because of her income. It happens a lot unfortunately.

My daughters boyfriends dad was in exactly the same position earlier this year, he lost his job and after 6 months wasn't able to claim a penny because his wife worked. He certainly wasn't bone idol he spent hours everyday applying for jobs, sending out cv's and chasing up contacts but it still took him almost a year to find his new job.

Mupette

Never assume youll just make and a ss out of you and me.

elvis86

Mupette wrote: »

Never assume youll just make and a ss out of you and me.

Never post clever quotes if you can't spell/don't have a grasp of punctuation/can't remember how they go. You'll just make an a55 out of yourself.:D

pinkclouds

elvis86 wrote: »

Being a homemaker is a choice, and one which it sounds like this family can ill afford.

If there are any disabled family members, why is the family living purely on the OP's salary, and not in receipt of disability benefits?

If there is an elderly person in the house, why is the family the family living purely on the OP's salary, and not in receipt of even a state pension?

I grant you all that. However, the absence of a fact does not make it a truth. All we know is that the other 5 adults do not have full time jobs and that the OP believes it is unlikely that they will acquire full time jobs.

Supporting 6 people on one income sounds stressful. A little compassion costs nothing. I agree that the kids need to get jobs - part-time if they are still at college or uni - but the OP already knows that this would be the ideal solution.

the_cat

How old are they all? Do they all qualify for and claim JSA? (website says 16-17 year olds do not usually qualify). Assuming they do, each one has over £50 per week, plus free lodgings/food etc etc

They are not paid JSA as pocket money from the government! It is to help with their living expenses whilst they are looking for work. Therefore until they are earning, that money should be yours in lieu of rent (less any essential travel to interviews!)

To not take it is foolish. It will teach them nothing about their adult responsibilities. It will give them no incentive to get a job (an apprentice will earn approx £100 per week. Take off travel and their keep and you get back to about the £50 a week they have now) and it will either mean they and you go without essentials or you have to kick them out!

Of course, you haven't actually stated that you don't take this already..... if you do I suggest you head to the Debt Free Wanabee board and post a full SOA (income/expense list) and you will get help with cutting down and budgeting

One last obvservation. You talk of them 'dropping in' to a job. It ain't gonna happen! Finding a job nowadays takes full on, hard graft, plus a little luck. Are they really doing everything possible to help themselves. Spending all day, every day looking, doing stuff to enhance their CV (eg. volunteering) etc etc. From your post, it doesn't give that impression.........

elvis86

pinkclouds wrote: »

I grant you all that. However, the absence of a fact does not make it a truth. All we know is that the other 5 adults do not have full time jobs and that the OP believes it is unlikely that they will acquire full time jobs.

Supporting 6 people on one income sounds stressful. A little compassion costs nothing. I agree that the kids need to get jobs - part-time if they are still at college or uni - but the OP already knows that this would be the ideal solution.

If the OP knows that, why have they posted here? Oh yes, to see if there's any way they can get the state to cough up more money in housing benefit etc, rather than tackle the issue with his/her own kids.:cool:

elvis86

the_cat wrote: »

Take off travel and their keep and you get back to about the £50 a week they have now) and it will either mean they and you go without essentials or you have to kick them out!

Of course, you haven't actually stated that you don't take this already.....

Yes they have:

green111 wrote: »

I now have 4 grown up children living at home and no longer recieve any tax benefits, meaning that I am now having to try and support 6 adults on 1 persons wage.

Not, "one person's wage and 5 people's JSA". Very different.

pinkclouds

elvis86 wrote: »

If the OP knows that, why have they posted here? Oh yes, to see if there's any way they can get the state to cough up more money in housing benefit etc, rather than tackle the issue with his/her own kids.:cool:

Elvis86, hun, you strike me as a cynic. Personally, I chose to interpret the OP's post as a little rant/sob/moan to help them feel better - it's good to talk.

Too much kindness has it's own costs but pity is free. I don't want to raise taxes to fund more benefits. But I do want to acknowledge my fellow human beings.