How do you start dating again or am I past it?

bluenoseam

ally18 wrote: »

Thanks for all your advice, I'm going to start and have a look tonight and thanks for the laughs as well

No open university course for me I'm afraid, I've done with studying now

I do understand about the 'few frogs' bits as well. The few winks I got were all from men a lot older than me who weren't in my age range that I asked for either, I wonder why they didn't read the profile properly? Mind you, there was one who was a whole lot younger as well which did give me a slight boost until I realised he probably wanted a mother figure :rotfl:. I have to admit its all a bit weird but hopefully fun and won't cost too much!

General hint, stick something in your profile like "if you're gonna get in touch please tell me what your favourite book is" or similar, then that way you can be sure they've read your profile properly.

ciderwithrosie_2

ally18 wrote: »

Do you know, I wouldn't have a clue how to do this. What do you talk about? I don't think I could go on one of those and just start talking to a complete stranger unless I was completely tanked up! :eek:

You can talk about anything you want, depending on your mood Being tanked up is probably a good idea tbh! There are some sad losers on there that just want to webcam for you :eek: but you just ignore or 'no' anyone you don't like the look/sound of. The 30s and 40s rooms are a bit cliquey but people of all ages frequent the 18+ and 50s rooms. Helps if you've got a profile pic or two.
I guess it's not for everyone, the old MSN chatrooms were the best fun, just you can remain fairly detached is all whilst boosting your conversation skills - just don't give out your phone number/address or real name (obvious I know)

carefullycautious

What about a singles holiday. Ive heard of lots of people of all ages who meet in this way.

Also if you go on a coach holiday from your area you are bound to meet another singleton.

Good luck

deedee71

It's not dating but would widen your social circle - www.meetup.com. Depending on where you are there could be lots of different groups you could join.

Mrs_P_Pincher

I've been there myself and my advice would be not to think in terms of dating as such, but as going out and doing things that interest you. I met Mr P when we were both involved in a campaign to save a piece of local heritage. We didn't live far from each other, but I'm sure we would not have met otherwise.

Is there anything going on locally you could get involved in?

I looked at internet dating, but I have to say it didn't work for me and TBH I think a lot of people find that.

Good luck anyway - there is a whole new life ahead of you.

Mrs P P

Errata

Any advice at all?

Yes - try this http://www.nexus-uk.co.uk/nexus-uk.asp and meet real people in real life, make friends, and have a social life. Good luck.

WelshWoofer

I was just browsing when I saw your thread and it has reallly helped me.
I'm recently separated and almost 40 and a lot of my friends are joint friends with exOH. After a few weeks brooding I'm now ready to get on with life again - not dating (no thank you for now!) but expanding my social circle and finding new friends.
I've decided to rejoin slimming club as I was getting to know quite a few people there and they're often doing social things too and I have an induction for volunteering at an animal sanctuary - I love dogs - in 2 weeks time.

I have a few newish friends from my newish job and am making more of an effort to see them outside work.

Its just good to know that life can begin at 40!

[Deleted User]

Hey im two years older than you and im dating.. Ok my 1st date and relationship wasnt great, thats only just ended. I thought oh no im going to be old and alone but within less than a week ive got another interest... not actually dated him yet, im only on the txting stage and im gonna have fun this time. Try not to go looking for Mr Right just try looking for a Mr Ok for Now and just have a giggle. Ive found a man 5yrs younger didnt think that would ever happen. And i know his back ground my friend vetted him haha. So goodbye to Mr I dont know what i want and hello to Mr Cant Wait To Meet Me :j

WelshWoofer

Have just had a look at the www.meetup.com website and have found it quite useful - I found a dogwalking group in Manchester that seems to be mostly women (and dogs!) and have registered and am going on my first outing this Saturday. Its only once a month but its a start:j

Just need to be brave and get on with it now!

Dazi

when I split up from my husband, I went onto a chat room, I loved it, went to a few chat meets made loads of friends. I also had 2 good friends locally who I went out with at weekends. I really didn't want to spend the rest of my life just going out on a Friday night though, so tried a couple of dating sites and met a few blokes, most I have to say were players.

Was still on the chat room telling them about my experiences! made them laugh and got a lot of sympathy and advice, started chatting to a bloke one night, then phone calls, told him I just wanted to chat, nothing else as had had bad experience meeting blokes on the net....well what can I say, been living with him now for just over 8 years