Home schooling child

skattykatty

What a horrendous situation. Glad to hear you won't be going direct to the parents and going to see someone at school. I have worked in schools for over 15 years and I think, in general, schools are not great at dealing with these situations. More due to lack of time and energy than anything else. It really is up to parents to push and ensure they get results, whether or not this means withdrawing your daughter and sending her to another school.

Aside from the educational issues, I think it would be helpful for you to research counselling for your daughter. What struck me is that you 'thought' the children posting these abusive comments were her friends. I imagine she would have mentioned them as friends, which leads me to wonder about your daughter's self-esteem and resilience. She would have had to 'like' them in order to communicate with them via facebook.

As has also been said - she must stop using facebook now, until she sets up a different account. And check her mobile phone too. Perhaps cancel her current number until you can set up another account.

meritaten

confused? you CAN go to the police you know. what these people have done over the internet and phone is illegal and the police are now prepared to prosecute in these cases. I assume all involved are around your daughters age? perhaps a visit from the constabulary or being hauled off down the station may put the fear of the law into them.
As for home schooling - that would be one solution and there is a lady on here whose grandson was bullied badly and she decided to home school him last year and was telling us a couple of months back how successful its been.
The posters name is reeree and I am sure she would be very helpful to you.

Colincbayley

We have always home schooled our 4 kids (13,10,6,1)

Education other wise is a really good site, plus google homeschooling.

It really is not a hard thing to do, and I think you may find you provide a much better level of education to the child.
It is much easier than you may think.

As for the bullies, I wouldn't give in to them, front up the little !!!!!!'s and watch them p1ss their pants in front of there mates.
That might not be the best approach, but it will make you and your daughter feel better anyway.

Good luck

minimoneysaver

Just a thought, but as you have printed the messages out, have you thought about going round to the parents homes, obviously you'll have to know them and know where they live and also know that they are not the threatening types. Maybe they'd like to know what their children are up to? I know that children aren't perfect and many parents are surprised to say the least when they find out what their children are doing, especially now that the children have the internet & mobiles. Bullying is now 24 hours a day, rather than just 8.

minimoneysaver

Ooops just scan read and saw post 28 saying you won't be going to see the parents... forget my message then.

confused3791

Colincbayley wrote: »

We have always home schooled our 4 kids (13,10,6,1)

Education other wise is a really good site, plus google homeschooling.

It really is not a hard thing to do, and I think you may find you provide a much better level of education to the child.
It is much easier than you may think.

As for the bullies, I wouldn't give in to them, front up the little !!!!!!'s and watch them p1ss their pants in front of there mates.
That might not be the best approach, but it will make you and your daughter feel better anyway.

Good luck

Hi colincbayley
, thankyou for taking the time to reply.I have no intention in letting them get away with it, they have been making her life a misery, If I had got hold of them last night I hate to think what I would have done to them, but that would have made me as bad as them

mumps

I feel for your poor daughter, my daughter was bullied at school and while she is doing really well at university and has a busy life the scars are still there. I found, eventually, that the Education Welfare Officer was a great support whereas the school were useless. It does vary so much, when she started senior school the same problem seemed to be starting and the school were brilliant and jumped on it straight away. Their tactic was the parents were spoken to the day I complained, this meant the head spoke to one father at about 8 pm but he said he would speak to all the parents that day and he did. All the kids involved had 24 hours to write a letter of apology to my daughter and were warned that if anyone said anything to my daughter which indicated that the matter had been discussed with other people then they would be responsible not the people they had told. Hope that makes sense. We never had another problem and it makes me so angry when I think of how she suffered in the previous two years and the school were worse than useless.

Good luck.

meritaten

confused - you have gone the 'school dealing with it route' and got now-where. There are other routes but from what you say I really believe that you should make a complaint to the police. In my experience they really do take notice and want to help. I would withdraw your child from school immediately and write to the school and LEA telling them that due to threats (and if you want to include copies of these threats, DO), your child will NOT BE ATTENDING school until this situation is resolved. As the school obviously cannot guarantee her safety. (this covers your A$$ so you dont get hauled into court for truancy).
I wouldnt be sending her to school - she isnt safe!

Amanda65

Hi confused

I think you are going into your DD's school today. Good luck, stay firm and let us know how you get on . Will be thinking of you.

j.e.j.

sorry, not read all the replies, but home-schooling sounds like a good option.

The trouble with these social networking sites (and I know, they are a bug-bear of mine!) is that it gives people ample chance to be nasty to others safe from behind their computer screens. Teens (and some adults too!) don't necessarily have the maturity to be able to use these sites sensibly. CyberBullying is a huge problem amongst kids in the 13-19 age group.