Home schooling child

LondonDiva

If these threats are coming from children known to you, rather than waiting for school to start, I'd have expected you to urgently contact their parents and arrange to meet with copies of the messages.

Then, depending on the outcome, I'd contact the police and also report it to Facebook. Either way, I'd advise the school that the matter has escalated again over the summer holidays and provide them with copies for the record.

I do think that it is important to give the parents a clear idea of what's been going on as many of them would not be aware of the extremes their child is going to.

merlin68

My DD was bullied at 3 different schools, until I pulled her out for a year and a half. Till she got a place in a special school.
You do not have to follow the national curriculum at all. Your DD can always take GCES's as a home study course. It will just cost you money as you don't get any funding for H'ED. Just do one at a time.

Spendless

You can remove these people as your daughters facebook friends block them and report them to facebook for bullying. I'd then take the printed remarks to the head/kids parents/police as you deem appropriate.

thegirlintheattic

I would strongly advise against going to the other children's parents without this being done through school/police. I have seen this go badly wrong both personally and professionally.

No parent likes to think that their child is a bully and will often get very defensive even with proof.

Amanda65

I feel so sorry for your daughter but please don't beat yourself up about this - you have tried your best to deal with it in the past and now that you know it has started up again will, I am sure, support her again from here on in.

I would contact the school today and ask for an emergency meeting - GCSE results are out on Thursday so someone will definitely be in school tomorrow and Thursday. Take the print outs with you and don't be fobbed off by them saying that as it has happened off school premises there is nothing they can do - I accept that it's not their responsibilty per se but they do have an obligation to ensure that their pupils are safe and these girls are threatening your daughter. If nothing else, the head teacher may have some sway with other schools to persuade them to take DD if she chooses to change. There will also be people in other schools - phone them and explain the situation and enquire about places - someone could have moved and a space be available.

Secondly this link shows you how to report abusive messages and texts on FB
http://www.facebook.com/help/?faq=13247&ref_query=how+do+i+report++

If necessary, they will suspend the other girls FB site.

Finally I would take the print outs to your local police station and ask for advice as to what action is available to you. Unfortunately until these girls and their parents (although to be fair the parents may know nothing about it at the moment) realise you mean business then it will continue.

Really good luck to you both - I am sure your daughter feels much better now you know.

confused3791

Thank you all so much for the time you have all taken , and for all the advice given, I have decided against going to the bullies parents directly that will just make things worse I think.I am going to see a member of senior staff at the school on Thursday , I logged onto my daughters facebook account this morn just to make sure I had copies of everything and there was 3 more messages, one telling her that she was a s l ag and a dirty w hore :eek::eek: the other 2 were just more of the same insults .Have printed out and added to the pile, Where as these are not threatening violence they are really hurtful , also found one from months ago slagging me off, I am a fairly large lady who struggles to loose weight and they were calling me a sumo to say the least, now where as I am not bothered what the silly girls say to me my daughter must have been devastated.Am also waiting on a return call from the education dept of out council to see if there is a placement at a different school that she could go to from September.Will keep battling through this and will come back to let you know and no doubt seek further advice.Many thanks

balletshoes

How old is your daughter OP? I have to say, if I ever found out my school-age daughter had been sending messages with that kind of language to anyone in any format, she'd be getting the telling-off and grounding/removal of privileges of her life!

confused3791

balletshoes wrote: »

How old is your daughter OP? I have to say, if I ever found out my school-age daughter had been sending messages with that kind of language to anyone in any format, she'd be getting the telling-off and grounding/removal of privileges of her life!

Hi balletshoes, she is nearly 14, I am with you totally there, if my daughter did this to anyone she would be punished in exactally the same way as you have described.

Annie021063

confused3791 wrote: »

Thank you so much for the speedy reply.My head is all over the place at the moment due to the evenings revelations, hense the late night. I think we will need to sleep on it and discuss it in length over the next few days or weeks even. Obviously I want what is best for my daughter and I know that from enquiring towards the end of the last school term that there was very few places in her year at any of the schools in our area , I know the teachers are back in school next week so I think I will leave an email for the school to contact me to discuss the problems.
Facebook has been stopped and I have printed out all the messages as they are threatening and I am at the moment in two minds whether to speak to our local neighbourhood officer to see what he thinks

Hi, I can only agree with the previous poster about home schooling, as a teacher myself please tread with caution and make sure you are well informed about it. In the case of threats please please contact your local officer. We had 2 years of nightmares which stemmed from an issue and ended up with criminal damage and a whole heap of problems but our local officers were fantastic and sorted it out for us. We have had the best summer, I can't praise them enough. Good luck with everything.

Anacrusis

I suggest caution and making sure you're well informed whatever you do - which I think you're in the midst of now.

There are lots of differences between schooling and home schooling which you'll find as you look into it more. You might find it helpful to talk to people who are schooling parents/teachers etc. about school experiences and home educating families about home education expereinces.

Best of luck, whatever you do x