Depression

EthelBloggs

Just following on from what Rosie said...

I'm the same with my mum.. I revert to being 10 yrs old as soon as I step into her house, lol

I know that she made mistakes when she was bringing me up... but that's because of how she was brought up.. and it follows on that I've made mistakes.. I don't blame her.. I hope my kids won't blame me...

That's life.. I'm sick of this psychology thing blaming everything on what happened to us as kids.. unless we had a truly horrendous childhood where we were abused/neglected etc.. we just have to get on with our lives otherwise none of us will ever take forward steps and progress. Surely that's the best thing any of us can do, rather than stagnate in self pity and blame everything on others.

Sure, I have problems, I wish I didn't.. but if I let those problems take over then I'd never get out of bed in the morning, I wouldn't achieve anything and I'd be 100 times more unhappy than I am now.

Something I keep thinking about on and off is that if I lived in a 3rd world country.. where survival meant having a bit of food and clean water to drink, would I have time to be depressed? I think probably not. I'd keep on keeping on cos the alternative is to die in the gutter or on some desert plain somewhere...

Human nature is to survive.. and that's what we have to do, in spite of our parents or whatever life throws at us.

EthelBloggs

razorbladekisses wrote: »

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Ethel, Thank you for chatting to me last night. It was much appreciated. How are you feeling now? Headache gone? Any word from your daughter today? :grouphug:


xxx

No probs, sorry if it seemed as tho I was interrogating you. Sorry too for disappearing, my connection started to mess up.. it's somethng to do with the new router :mad:

I feel ok.. headache's still there a bit but I watched the footie in bed and then b/f went to the caff n got bacon n egg sarnies n tea and we had that while watching eastenders, I never got out of bed for that either

Not heard from daughter today which I think is a good thing as it means she's occupied and too busy to think about me..

Hows you today? xxxx

EthelBloggs

beer2006 wrote: »

Tell them you want a lock on your door and some privacy, Tell them you are not going to do anything silly, but you need time for yourself where you can relax.
Think about finding a room somewhere to rent.

We are all damaged goods Rose, you alot less than you think.

Have you told your Mum about this? It will probably hurt her, she wants the best for you and probably thinks she is looking after you. Maybe time for you to tell her you are grown up and show her you can look after yourself.
x

Hiya Beer

You're so right.. we are all damaged one way or another... it's our job to get on with life tho aint it?

How's you? xx

EthelBloggs

CCStar wrote: »

Hi

An update

Bought a car yesterday and waiting on it, should be ready at the end of the month

Trouble is I faxed an order for another car on Friday and sent another fax yesterday to cancel it. I haven't put any money down, but keep trying to ring them to see if they have got the fax and of course the person isn't available:mad:

This is a seriously luxury buy that I have saved up for for quite some time. I still feel jumpy at spending so much tho:eek:

Still nothing on the house. I really hate fake gushing people!! Been a week since a viewing and really feel this place is like a shackle to me now. I hate March, grey, windy, feeling dead and sooooo booooorrrring!

Last time we sold, March was the same, then April got people interested in buying when the plants and weather got better. Trouble is everyone goes out in their garden and is annoying, so here's hoping....

a new car... sooo exciting!! Congratulations and enjoy it

have you heard from Stenny CC? I'm getting a bit worried bout him now

Horasio

EthelBloggs wrote: »

a new car... sooo exciting!! Congratulations and enjoy it

have you heard from Stenny CC? I'm getting a bit worried bout him now

No I haven't seen him online for a few days. He was OK last time we spoke.

We managed to cancel the other car, so it's a matter of waiting now. Not very MS but you only live once:)

Pumpkin_Pie_5

Hi all,

I'm sorry to bother you all again but i don't know where else to go.

I'm back at the docs on tuesday and OH can't come with me as he has a new job . I'm so terrified.
I have to talk about the meds (which are working somewhat) and my sicknote has run out. I definitely don't feel up to going back to work and I'm so scared he won't give me another sicknote. My work have also lost a couple of earlier notes so I have to get new ones - Feel so stupid as I have to ask and I don't know how.

Trivial compared with what everyone else goes through but I am so utterly terrified.

Thansk for reading - Love you all
Pumpkin
xxx

EthelBloggs

Hiya Pumpkin

Tis good to see you.. you're always welcome here... you know that

Your doctor wont make you go back to work unless you're 100% fit and ready to do so.. dont worry about asking for what you need.. doctors are humans too, even if they don't always seem to be, lol

Big huggs, let us know how it goes xxxxx

Pumpkin_Pie_5

Rose

I know exactly what you mean - I was always my dads little girl even in my 30s and I because he woudl treat me like a child I reverted to behaving like one when I was with him.

Its very hard to get out of this cycle but try as hard as you can - Even if you find your mum treating you like a child, try and react like an adult!

hugs and love
Punpkin xx

Sazbo

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Just following on from what Rosie said...

I'm the same with my mum.. I revert to being 10 yrs old as soon as I step into her house, lol

I know that she made mistakes when she was bringing me up... but that's because of how she was brought up.. and it follows on that I've made mistakes.. I don't blame her.. I hope my kids won't blame me...

That's life.. I'm sick of this psychology thing blaming everything on what happened to us as kids.. unless we had a truly horrendous childhood where we were abused/neglected etc.. we just have to get on with our lives otherwise none of us will ever take forward steps and progress. Surely that's the best thing any of us can do, rather than stagnate in self pity and blame everything on others.

Sure, I have problems, I wish I didn't.. but if I let those problems take over then I'd never get out of bed in the morning, I wouldn't achieve anything and I'd be 100 times more unhappy than I am now.

Something I keep thinking about on and off is that if I lived in a 3rd world country.. where survival meant having a bit of food and clean water to drink, would I have time to be depressed? I think probably not. I'd keep on keeping on cos the alternative is to die in the gutter or on some desert plain somewhere...

Human nature is to survive.. and that's what we have to do, in spite of our parents or whatever life throws at us.

Hiya ethel hun! :hello:

I don't think it's a case of 'blaming everything' on our childhood experiences. More a case of acknowledging the fact that we are all, one way or another, affected by our experiences. It is the essence of being human. Yes of course we get on with out lives, we do survive, but sometimes we can be held back - or far worse - by mental strategies that served us well once, but don't any longer, but we cannot access these things in order to deal with them by ourselves. Dealing with things at the subconscious level requires professional help. This is not "stagnating in self pity" hun, least I don't think so. If anything I'd say it takes courage to face up to one's difficulties, the pain, and deal with them. Sometimes problems do indeed take over, depression does stop us getting out of bed - even with the best will in the world, the strongest spirit in the world. And that can happen to the richest person in the world, or the poorest. Depression is blind to circumstances. And it isn't weakness or faliure hun. Just some random Sazzy thoughts hun, feel free to ignore me:D:o:D

Cracking Chelsea fight back today, 3-3 and earned a replay! Still on for the quadruple :j

Sazbomberxxxxxxxx

Sazbo

Pumpkin_Pie wrote: »

Hi all,

I'm sorry to bother you all again but i don't know where else to go.

I'm back at the docs on tuesday and OH can't come with me as he has a new job . I'm so terrified.
I have to talk about the meds (which are working somewhat) and my sicknote has run out. I definitely don't feel up to going back to work and I'm so scared he won't give me another sicknote. My work have also lost a couple of earlier notes so I have to get new ones - Feel so stupid as I have to ask and I don't know how.

Trivial compared with what everyone else goes through but I am so utterly terrified.

Thansk for reading - Love you all
Pumpkin
xxx

Don't be terrified pumpkin hun, and it's not trivial at all. If you aren't ready to go back to work, then you aren't ready. Just explain how you feel, and what you need. You don't have to justify yourself hun. Big hugs, Sazzyxxxxxxxxx