Don't know how to help my best friend. :(

January20

barbarawright wrote: »

There is a very similar story over on the DFW boards - maybe she is already seeking advice?

Darlyd said she had directed her friend to the DFW board. I've read that thread too and I'm 99.9% it's the the OP's friend.

Darlyd

January20 wrote: »

Darlyd said she had directed her friend to the DFW board. I've read that thread too and I'm 99.9% it's the the OP's friend.

Yes 100%.

*max*

darlyd wrote: »

Will be honest though, she does go out for meals a lot with friends, but she uses that money for the debts.

I don't understand this sentence...

hot.chick

I'm sorry - but why is she with this man???

I'm sure this isn't a very helpful post, but why is she breaking her back for a guy who seems to not care less if they are upto their eyes in debt and could end up out on the street.

He's letting her foot the bill coz she is... people treat u how u let them, he's taking the P*SS

(I'm sure this isn't helpfull but it makes me mad when people let themself get walked on!!!)

Darlyd

*max* wrote: »

I don't understand this sentence...

DOH me.

Supposed to of said, she goes out for meals with friends and DH, he either pays or she pays using the money that is meant for the arrears. (yes I could scream)

erdd2

darlyd wrote: »

Will be honest though, she does go out for meals a lot with friends,

Do the friends pay?

Darlyd

hot.chick wrote: »

I'm sorry - but why is she with this man???

I'm sure this isn't a very helpful post, but why is she breaking her back for a guy who seems to not care less if they are upto their eyes in debt and could end up out on the street.

He's letting her foot the bill coz she is... people treat u how u let them, he's taking the P*SS

(I'm sure this isn't helpfull but it makes me mad when people let themself get walked on!!!)

Am with you on that. I feel like screaming and shaking her.

But I will be honest, he is a teddy bear, he is soooooooooo laid back, (hence these problems) and he is her comfort blanket. (but no excuse). So I think that is why they are still together.

She has left him before, when things got bad, we stayed in the premier inn together, he never contacted her, I could not believe it. She then went back, and was OK for a while, promises promises.. Now look?

His mum and brother have been funny with her, and DH was sneaky with his mum and brother (when they were slagging her off), which caused massive arguments, hence us meeting up in premier inn.

Darlyd

erdd2 wrote: »

Do the friends pay?

They all pay for themselves. It's when they meet up for charity events, as she does a lot for charity. Mainly hog roasts for cancer.