Seperating from husband - advice on benefits, tax credits, etc

RAS

You have remembered the 15% of his salary that you are entitled to as Child Support?

anonyhousemouse

Yup, thank you. Thats the thing, once that has come out of his wage, he'd struggle to pay for a place on his own, and equally that 15% wouldn't pay the mortgage here either if I was to stop here myself.

RAS

Have you actually checked on www.turn2us.org.uk what help you can get once he has "left"????

anonyhousemouse

Never heard of them before so thanks for that - I'm off to have a look through there

FBaby

anonyhousemouse wrote: »

Yup, thank you. Thats the thing, once that has come out of his wage, he'd struggle to pay for a place on his own, and equally that 15% wouldn't pay the mortgage here either if I was to stop here myself.

But that will be his problem and as a separate couple, not one for you to dwell on. At the moment, either things stay as they are (him paying the vast majority of the bills) because he can't afford to move out, or he asks for 50%, you can't afford it, and therefore you move and claim what you are entitled to as a single parent.

karenx

I think the quicker someone moves out the better. You want things to be normal for your daughter but you will be leading a lie and confussing the poor girl. She will live with her mum and dad but they arent together and wont be doing anything together. Children arent stupid, she will know something isnt right. You are best to be up front with her and say that altough mum and dad arent together or living in the same house you both still love her.

As it stands, tax credits etc will probably still see you as a couple. Living under same roof, probably doing shopping together or at least u will buy for him or vice versa. Bills etc both going to same adress. Might go out as a family to do things.

paddedjohn

why if you are living together do yo feel you need more benefits? you say yourself you have been like this since november.

anonyhousemouse

paddedjohn wrote: »

why if you are living together do yo feel you need more benefits? you say yourself you have been like this since november.

Simply because when the time comes for me to pay literally 50/50 split of all the bills, I simply won't be in a position to do that without help from child tax credits or working tax credits or whatever on my £6500/annum wage.

Since November things have been trundling along essentially like nothing had happened aside from him moving himself and his stuff into the spare room but financially things were as they always had been since we got married. But changes are a-foot now.

Thanks for everyones advice. All I need is the magic lotto numbers to come out soon and everything will be fine again (logistically and financially anyway at least).