Sex Education

jamespir

i remeber a freind came in to school and said she walked in on her mum and dad having sex and wondered what was going on her mother explained she was pushing daddys belly down so he could get his trousers on she was very confused by this when asked why she said she seen the man next door blowing him back up ....lol

dizsiebubba

artichoke wrote: »

why does it make you uncomfortable - the kids have been in the bath when i was on the toilet and seen tampons being inserted or sanitary towels being changed.... they saw blood and i explained what it was....

i did not want them to think i was injured or hurt and so explained what was happening....

why does that make you uncomfortable??

It is better to be honest and explain the facts to children from the very beginning...

art

I wouldn't do it when they were in the room, I think there are things that other people never need to see, it doesn't matter how 'natural' it is, naturally people die, but nobody wants to witness that....

Just my opinion but I do not feel comofortable with it and I wouldn't say it is a the right thing to tell/show young children.

delain

dizsiebubba wrote: »

I wouldn't do it when they were in the room, I think there are things that other people never need to see, it doesn't matter how 'natural' it is, naturally people die, but nobody wants to witness that....

Just my opinion but I do not feel comofortable with it and I wouldn't say it is a the right thing to tell/show young children.

:hello:

I also think inserting tampons in front of your kids is a bit odd. There is some serious overshare around at the moment, and this isn't the only thread I've seen (on here and other forums) where people are (imo) going too far!

I'm not saying you can't or shouldn't explain things, by all means show them pads or a tampon from the box but (again IMO) I don't think they ever need to see you inserting/removing your tampons!

artichoke

dizsiebubba wrote: »

I wouldn't do it when they were in the room, I think there are things that other people never need to see, it doesn't matter how 'natural' it is, naturally people die, but nobody wants to witness that....

Just my opinion but I do not feel comofortable with it and I wouldn't say it is a the right thing to tell/show young children.

I have never "shown" them tampons being inserted on purpose - i have just changed them whilst sitting on the toilet whilst they were in the bath (we only have one toilet in our house)...it is something that happens.... and i would not do it in front of older kids - i am talking about babies and toddlers who are in the bath and you sit in the bathroom with them..

and yes death is natural too and they have seen that happen as well...they have held lambs whilst they died following difficult births..and they regularly see chickens being "dispatched" and help with plucking..

My ds age 5 has also assisted me at lambing time and has helped put a harness on a ewe who had a prolapsed uturus... he has seen more of the female reproductive organs (of ewes, sows) than most boys of 5.. and this year he helped with a ewe who prolapsed during the birth of quads and had to pull on a lamb to get it out whilst blood was pouring out of the uterus...

they have seen the whole cycle of life and death it is a part of daily life .... we do not lie to them about anything (apart from santa and the tooth fairy:o) but just tell the truth .... if i hid away and changed my tampon in secret (leaving them in the bath alone at an early age) that would have implied it was a 'dirty or shamefull" thing...

art

jamespir

dizsiebubba wrote: »

I wouldn't do it when they were in the room, I think there are things that other people never need to see, it doesn't matter how 'natural' it is, naturally people die, but nobody wants to witness that....

Just my opinion but I do not feel comofortable with it and I wouldn't say it is a the right thing to tell/show young children.

omg think of there eyes their poor eyes:)

delain

I tend to do the things I need to at times other than bathtime, Tampons only have to be changed every couple of hours at the most, surely you can fit in so that doesn't clash with bathtime? And why does that make it shameful?

Bathtime for my lot when they were that age meant them having a gigle and a splash about, and I always managed to pee/deal with my sanitary needs before putting them in the bath!

hitatotatus

I have talked about stuff in small doses since my boys were small and answered questions with the facts as per biology.
Re "the why is my willy hard?" question, I answered that your body is just checking everything is working for when you are grown up.
I have found they get plenty of information at school, however, would not solely rely on this. My 12 year old last year seemed to get some quite graphic information on all the positions and rainbow kisses!??!! So don't be surprised once they are in senior school.

I always talk to him about using condoms and not to risk a baby until he is ready to support it, ie at least in his 20's in my opinion. However, despite all this, I recently thought to ask him if he knew where he would actually get a condom from - he had no idea! :eek:
This may explain the OP's query re why there seems to be quite a few teens about to be parents.
I thought I had covered everything, but don't ever assume they already know the obvious!

delain

We had it drummed into us at school where free condoms could be had! I think the older/6th form kids could even get them from the school nurse.

I have heard that the ones from the young persons clinic were rather small though, which migth have put lads off, because they may think if it fitted then they have a small one :rotfl:

Gingham_R

delain wrote: »

:hello:

I also think inserting tampons in front of your kids is a bit odd. There is some serious overshare around at the moment, and this isn't the only thread I've seen (on here and other forums) where people are (imo) going too far!

I'm not saying you can't or shouldn't explain things, by all means show them pads or a tampon from the box but (again IMO) I don't think they ever need to see you inserting/removing your tampons!

It's a personal choice. They don't need to and they don't need not to.

kazwookie

bargainbetty wrote: »

My eleven-year-old goddaughter was given two lessons on sex education. After the first, containing the mechanics of it all, she looked at her mother with absolute disgust and said 'I cannot believe you did that. It's horrible.'

After the second, containing video footage of a live birth, she refused her dinner and wouldn't talk about it for days.... ...........

This made me laugh, my niece did much the same thing after the talk at school, came home told my SIL, that is was disgusting and how could she even consider doing that with dad, she then told her dad the same thing.

She is 25 now and we still rib her about it!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: if would seem that she and The long term bf, have no such problems about 'doing it' :rotfl::rotfl: how life changes