Ex & DD's Birthday

gillypkk

babymoo wrote: »

See now if I met a guy who already had kids and decided to date him (as I have done in the past) and he decided he didn't want anything to do with his children I would be telling him where to get off. If he is willing to do that to the children he already has then he's going to do the same with mine in the future. I don't understand jealous girlfriends like that. It sounds like your DD is better off without them both tbh.

i think exactly the same!

who in their right minds dates a man (or woman) who abandons their kids then thinks it will be different when they have kids together?!

clearingout

gillypkk wrote: »

i think exactly the same!

who in their right minds dates a man (or woman) who abandons their kids then thinks it will be different when they have kids together?!

You'd think this was a logical way of looking at it, wouldn't you?!

I do think there is a divide between those women who acquire a new partner through an affair and those who come on the scene once a relationship is well and truly over. The first type seem to be the worst at coping with their partner's past, including children, and don't seem to want the children around. I once read a post (not here, I might add) by a dad who was now living with the woman he'd been having an affair with and she had banned the children of his marriage from their home because they looked like his wife! Sadly, he seemed to think this was normal and OK. In my ex's case, he seems to take great pride in the other woman's child calling him daddy whilst his own children are regularly smacked by her, have their toys taken away, clothes thrown in the bin etc. because they come from my house. Very insecure woman. I just think to myself that he left me. How much more proof that he cares about you do you need?!

make_me_wise

In truth I think the problem some women have with a partners kids from a previous relationship/marriage, is that they are proof he once loved someone else. Too much to handle for extremely insecure types. Lets face it a woman whos relationship starts as being a mistress is just a stop gap till the bloke decides to fill the vacancy with someone new. Its no wonder they are so jittery.