Selling a half share in a house

postingalwaysposting

Ames, excuse me if I am being dense but can't you just say 'sell now or pay me the benifits I will lose until you do sell?'. If they agree about you being on benifits or not, you are entitled to them and they are forcing you to give them up. If they won't agree to that then I would be seeking legal advice. Family or not how are you supposed to live on thin air?

paddy's_mum

Ames wrote: »

He's definitely doing what he can to slow things down - throwing away post and things.

A lot of his motives come from thinking he was screwed in the divorce (which to be fair, he was) and wanting us to make it right.

He's had this plan to buy the house from the day mum was diagnosed with cancer

THIS is what this is all about - a sense of bitter entitlement and no logic in the world is going to alter that!

Ames

Thanks Pap x

Well I've just had a really long talk to dad. Mainly it was about the diabetes - he's had it for a few years so he was offering advice.

We did talk about the house though. And as usual, I've fallen (as has dad) for the 'divide and conquer and I'll get my own way' tactics of sister. When will we learn.

He's getting his house valued on Monday and then we'll know whether his plan is viable. If it is, he'll put it straight up for sale, and make a written offer on mum's. As it'll be for about the probate value, this should be fine for the DWP.

He's planning to buy the house to save EA fees - but still sees that a solicitor is vital for the conveyancing.

The waiting till April thing appears to be BS.

He still wants to put in a new kitchen, as the old one is rotting and the taps don't work. But he doesn't expect it to add value, just help the house to sell. Of course, that's just plan B for if him buying isn't viable. I'm still uneasy about the insurance thing, so I might look into buildings insurance for it. He's put in loads of kitchens/bathrooms in his time and never had a problem, but I still don't want to risk it. He did point out that it could burst a pipe while left empty until it can be put on the market in mid November (after probate comes through and the London Gazette ad is put in). So that makes me more keen to sort out insurance.

He's been keeping an eye on the local market, and houses like his have been selling really well.

He's not expecting me to go without benefits, if need be it goes on the market. So that's the two of us against sister.

I explained though that with everything else going on I'm still going to engage a solicitor to take stress and pressure off me.

So things are looking more positive - I'm not going to lose my dad after all this, even if sister does cut me off.

Yorkie1

Well done for having that conversation with him and I bet you feel a quite lot of stress off your shoulders.

Tomorrow is another day and things look much better than they did at the start of today. Hope you sleep a bit better tonight.

Ames

Yeah, I do feel a weight off my shoulders. I think I'll sleep really well today, I'm exhausted after the emotional rollercoaster.

Just wish I knew if I was ok to drink, I'd really love to open a bottle of wine right now!

GDB2222

Ames wrote: »

On top of everything else, my GP has just told me I have diabetes.

Fantastic news! You've just been diagnosed with a disease which is extremely serious if it's untreated. OTOH yours will be treated, because it's just been diagnosed, so you should be able to avoid the complications that go with untreated diabetes, eg blindness.

Type II diabetes is usually well-controlled with tablets and a change in diet.

Ames

Thanks GDB, I'm starting to get over the shock and realise the positives. As you say, it's been caught early - 7 months ago my bloods were all normal, so it's exremely early. My GP said I shouldn't even need meeds, just carry on with the healthy eating diet I've already started.

It's early enough that there wont be damage to my eyes or feet, and since it'll be monitored none of that can go undetected.

I'm trying to look at it as a wake up call rather than a major disaster, not to mention a lucky escape.

GDB2222

Brilliant. If it can really be controlled just with diet then that's an excellent result. A wake-up call, as you say.

ViolaLass

Sounds like yesterday was a very positive day for you - I'm pleased you and your dad appear to be on the same page.

woolly_wombat

Ames wrote: »

He's getting his house valued on Monday and then we'll know whether his plan is viable. If it is, he'll put it straight up for sale, and make a written offer on mum's. As it'll be for about the probate value, this should be fine for the DWP.

I'm still going to engage a solicitor to take stress and pressure off me.

So things are looking more positive - I'm not going to lose my dad after all this, even if sister does cut me off.

Good luck Ames. DO make sure you get legal advice and DON'T let anyone do anything to the house.

You can't just sell your share of the property on the open market.

However, if the worst comes to the worst I understand you can insist on the entire property being sold on the open market and apply for a court order under the Trusts of Land and Appointment of Trustees Act 1996. The court would almost certainly order a sale.

All the best.