Pocketmoney Discussion Thread

kazmeister

I want to get the kids involved (as I dont see why I should do everything myself!) but how do I motivate them.

Daughter is 8 and isnt interested in keeping her room tidy as its BORING but has now started asking if she can earn pocket money so she can buy 'fashion clothes'.

Son 15 next week, isnt too bad, if he wants to go out with his mates sometimes he'll come and grovel for dosh other times he'll go to his dad.

What can I realistically expect them to do and how much should I be paying.

Any thoughts ?

Penny-Pincher!!

DD gets £1 a day if she:

makes her bed
keeps her room tidy
takes plates out after meals and puts in DW
empties DW at the weekend
cleans the car fortnghtly inside
sweeps through downstairs once a week
has started doing dinner on a Wednesday:eek:
does her HW each day

She gets this monthly direct to her bank account but normally if she has a few lazy days (most months lol)gets between £20-£25pm. She is 13 this year.

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Gingham_Ribbon

kaz, there are some helpful threads on this in the families board. I'll move this over for you a little later on.

Becles

I don't pay my children to do anything. I believe they should all muck in and help so they learn to understand how a house is run.

Mine are 10 and 8 and they are responsible for keeping their own rooms tidy. Everyday morning they make their own breakfasts and have to make their beds. At tea time, they are responsible for setting the table and clearing it afterwards. When they get toys and games out, they have to put them away when they are finished.

They also helped out a lot when I was ill during pregnancy and learned how to hoover, put washing in the machine, clean the bathroom and stuff. I don't expect them to do that all the time, but it's handy knowing they can help out when needed.

kazmeister

Hi Becles

Thats very much how I'd like it to be but I get so stressed when they either ignore me or refuse to do it (mostly the little one). I feel like I've tried everything.

Kimitatsu

Mine have a list of chores on the fridge:

tidy bedrooms
Help walk dogs
put shoes away
put dirty clothes in the wash basket
lay table/clear the table
Do homework

They get £3 a week to spend and £3 goes into their rainy day fund, they are 10 and 8.

Works quite well for us and the chores are reviewed regularly.

Good luck

ailuro2

Well if the 8yo likes clothes,that is your 'lever'

Have a chat about who does what chores, and say if she finds tidying her room boring fair enough, but some things have to be done, even though no-one likes doing them....and mention that washing and ironing her clothes boring too...and why not have a Mum on strike week so she sees the point, if she doesn't pick up on it first time around.

fwiw my 8yo girl tidies her room once a week, sets the table and takes the recycling out.

Becles

kazmeister wrote: »

Hi Becles

Thats very much how I'd like it to be but I get so stressed when they either ignore me or refuse to do it (mostly the little one). I feel like I've tried everything.

If they refuse to do their jobs, threaten to refuse to do yours.

They'll soon help if they think you're not going to cook tea, wash their dirty pants etc

peace-babies

at 8 i would tidy my room, sort my clothes out (dirty ones would go in washing pile clean would be folded put in wardrobe), put the pots away and would flick the duster around when my mum asked i didnt get pocket money for it but any treats i may have wanted (clothes, magazines etc.) i was given or it was noted i had helped for larger more expensive purchases.
at 12 I used to get 4 pounds a week for cleaning my room, helping wash the pots, dusting and hoovering the living room. This went up to 5 pounds just after i was 13. If i didnt do the chores i didnt get pocket money or any other treats. When i was 14 i got a saturday job so pocket money was stopped, didnt mind much as i was earning proper money! Mind you my mum worked a lot and i didnt need her to ask as i did it off my own back and if i didnt the threat of my telly being removed and got me off my bum quick enough, still does now at 20!!!

3KIDSNOMONEY

is anyone else like me and feels like they bang their head against a brick wall when asking the kids to do anything at all. even the basics of putting dirty washing in the basket. probably my fault really as i always think that if i want something done properly then i have to do it myself.

probably doesn't help that my husband is as bad as the kids.