Should I pass up this opportunity?

claire16c

Mischa8 wrote: »

I'm talking about tuition fees etc rather than living costs. Either way mum and dad paid for his food and other costs whilst he was at home.

Also, I think like others have said, regardless or not of whether he wants the job he should go along for interview purposes, experience.

Looking at OP's other post it seems as if this job would be *desk job* which he has stated in a previous post he does not want, or would not prefer.

Well we all know which we'd prefer wouldn't we? I'd love not to be a legal secretary stuck at my desk but there you are, I am.

The OP doesn't seem to realise that if even if he does take the job, if it doesn't work out then resign.

It seems as though his parents also may have a hand in him *standing on his feet* and progressing rather than hang around waiting for him to decide what drops into his lap.

And I'm not being harsh just realistic.

I suppose he could have used his part time job to fund the tuition fees if you are able to pay the 3k upfront?

Yes I agree interviews are good experience I think he should go too.

I actually love working at a desk job! Aslong as I can get off it once in while to do something different

Oldernotwiser

Mistral001 wrote: »

The reality is that you probably can pick and choose your job at the minute and you probably will be able to do that for the next few years. There is nothing wrong with that. You should not feel guilty about that nor let others bully you into feeling guilty about that.

Nobody can pick and choose jobs at the moment and taking a year out to do nothing may well hold back someone's career for years.

Oldernotwiser

Mischa8 wrote: »

I'm talking about tuition fees etc rather than living costs. Either way mum and dad paid for his food and other costs whilst he was at home.

Hang about - the OP said that he supported them rather than the other way round!

However, if he really supported 4 people and himself without taking out his student loan, that must have been some well paid part time job!

Personally, I have my doubts..

Mischa8

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Hang about - the OP said that he supported them rather than the other way round!

However, if he really supported 4 people and himself without taking out his student loan, that must have been some well paid part time job!

Personally, I have my doubts..

If you add it ALL up, holding down a few part-time jobs, supporting the family AND studying at Oxford (a point the OP makes clear several times and also belittles other unis) it looks as if a bit of skimming over the truth has been done here.

My brother's fiancee has been to Oxford and her friend (got a 2:0 and 2:1 respectively) - I don't seem them trashing other unis at all. Bad form TBH.

The attack dog mode of OP also doesn't serve him well. If he's like this to random people on a message board (started off polite though) then god help him in the real world regardless of what degree or which uni it's from.

mountainofdebt

graduate123 wrote: »

When i say family I mean my disabled father and my younger siblings. I lived at home for university so have no debt, and live off my part time earnings. And I don’t want advice from people like you who are seriously arrogant as well as ignorant! If you need to pick on people to make yourself feel big, then you are a very sad person. Please leave me alone and go sort out your mountain of debt.

Arrogant? Me? Don't make me laugh.

You still have choosen not to answer my question as to who you expect to fund this jolly / recovery period - or what ever you want to call it so I expect its the taxpayer - otherwise you would have had great delight in telling me otherwise.

Tell you what - I'll give you the answer that you were obviously wanting to hear...yes of course you should have a break - have as long as you want off.

Now does that make you feel better?

graduate123

You can pay upfront, and I’m not denying that I got a bursary from my uni, but I don’t and shouldn’t feel guilty about that.
My original post was a polite request for advice, however when it got attacked unfairly, I became angry as many people were unnecessarily judgemental and unkind. If Oldernotwiser and Mischa8 don’t believe me, that is their problem, not mine, they have clearly run out of excuses for their behaviour. Same goes for Mountain of debt, whom is obviously having a few problems of his/her own, so I will offer my pity and reply no further.
Thank you to everyone else.

mountainofdebt

Er - no I'm not. Why assume I am - is it simply because I haven't mopped your weary brow and said there there of course you must have some time off?


You're missing my point entirely - I don't care whether you had the whole three years fees paid for you, or whether you worked to pay for them yourself. You asked if you were justified in having some time off before looking for work - I asked, and you have refused to answer, who do you think should pay for this 'break'? Must have studied politics the way you've ducked and dived the question.

bristol_pilot

People do need a bit of R&R after 3 years of study - that is what the period between final exams and graduation is for.

After that - I agree with others, the sooner you get started in the world of work the better. The more time you take off after graduation, the more it will potentially weaken your applications for graduate jobs. Just as a 'heads up' - at my place, if a graduate has graduated more than 2 years ago they are not considered for graduate entry at all, and if they graduated more than 1 year ago there is a 'questionmark' raised over their motivation.

katie89

You may find your self in the position I did - finding that after about three weeks after graduating I was bored having nothing to do, and itching to find a job that presented more of a challenge than my part time/ gone up to full time uni job did!

I'd at least go to the interview, find out a bit more about the role, and then decide if you want the job if it is offered to you. If you decide to turn it down, at least it is good interview practice. Good luck!

SarEl

graduate123 wrote: »

I would not be so judgemental of people, when you do not know what experiences they have had! If you think university is not stressful then you must have attended a 'not so good' one. I attended a top university, and nearly had a breakdown with the amount of work, and I have had part time jobs, and supported myself as well as my family. And if you are so busy I dont know why you are replying to MSE threads!

Oh, what a terrible shame for you. Well that makes it ok then. Oh wait - no it doesn't...

I studied at Oxford for my law degree, and for one of my Masters degrees, and for my PhD. The latter two of which I did part-time whilst also working in a highly stressful more than full-time job whilst bringing up a family. Admiitedly my second Masters degree I did full time at a "not so good university" - Yale (well they can't help being American ).

Perhaps if you found it so stressful attending a "top university" you should have attended one that you were better suited to and wasn't quite so demanding that you needed a rest after three years.