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floralaura

I have often wondered about the legalities of my situation too..
OH owns the home outright, we have a 18mth old Son together and I also have a Son from a previous relationship. We have lived together for almost 4 years. We are not married.
Its OH's house, not mine..but its both our Homes.
It does bother me now but not overly so..I do worry about when I bump OH off for annoying me once too often though (;)) and what will happen. In all seriousness though, I worry about what would happen should he die, he had made a will saying I am the executor and get it all BUT the fool has never signed it/had it witnesses and hes had the thing over 2 years now :mad: He has no other Children, his Mother is a fruitloop and he does have older siblings who could all potentially kick us out if OH died (I think). Theres not a lot I can do though, his home that he bought with his money before we met so I cant 'claim' it as such

*max*

pigpen wrote: »

He isn't bothered... the way it is set up he would have time to gather himself and his stuff and our daughter and go back to his mums.. XH couldn't just boot him out as he has no legal claim on the house.. DS1 is grown up enough to not let that happen too.. or I think he is.. I'll ask him next time I see him.

Please tell me you're joking? What about ALL the other children? Would you put them in the care of your 20 year old son? Seriously, you need to have something sorted out! Not having anything in place, especially with so many dependents, is borderline irresponsible (and I'm being kind here)!

pigpen

*max* wrote: »

Please tell me you're joking? What about ALL the other children? Would you put them in the care of your 20 year old son? Seriously, you need to have something sorted out! Not having anything in place, especially with so many dependents, is borderline irresponsible (and I'm being kind here)!

Their dad would have no choice but to have them... he'd like nothing better *ROFL* .. Legally reagrdless of what happened with my junk he would have all the ones under 16.. the older ones could stay in the house.. nothing needs sorting really. IF he had died it would be entirely different of course.

DS1 gets everything, KH gets the under 16's, the older ones could stay in the house if they wanted or choose to rent it out or sell it or whatever they liked or sorted between them.

OH takes the baby and goes back to his mums.

The only concern I would have is that KH would probably be a !!!!!! and not let the children see the baby. OH would be perfectly reasonable.

I don't have anything else of any interest to anyone.. worthless tat, no assets at all..

Not that I am planning on being deceased at any point.. ever.

*max*

And that's the ex your refer to as k*ob on here? You don't seem bothered about him having your children - whether they like it or not?
I don't know...I think sorting something out for the children, doing all you can to make sure they have a chance to be happy and properly cared for still would be a priority for me. Leaving it to be sorted out after you've gone is just...weird.
I know you don't intend to die - ever! But just in case.

pigpen

The law would put the children straight with him regardless of what I had written on a piece of paper about what I wanted, he is their dad whether he likes it or not. The children wouldn't be asked what they wanted and I think given the circumstances which would bring this about, the loss of their mum, they would probably want to be with him.

It wouldn't be taken into account that I wanted them to be elsewhere. The children would be made to go to him.

If he refused to have them it would be a different matter entirely.. but he wouldn't.

*max*

Well. I just thought you seemed awfully cavalier about it.

pigpen

When he is their parent as much as I am there is nothing I can do about it, it would be the same as him being unhappy about me having them... kind of... without evidence of his abuse of course and police reports and suchlike.. in which case they woud all end up in the care system.. I'd rather they were with him and at least all together!

The best I could do is put a request in a will they have access to the baby once a month or something and even then he wouldn't have to comply.

I have already discussed it with my solicitor and he said exactly that.. The older ones could be asked if they wanted to go to him but if they didn't they may end up in foster homes...

Though.... given the fact he took it upon himself to give DD3 a slapping at the weekend (he sees them maybe 6 days a month) for closing a door he wanted open I am not best pleased and she is refusing to go to his next time they are meant to go too... she is 10!!!! If he can't keep his hands off them for that amount of time I do wonder if they should go at all

*Louise*

It's 'Our' house

Hubby and I are both on the mortgage and deeds so if anything happens to either of us the other will have the house, no issues.

If we ever split....I will be staying put until the kids are older and he knows that

busiscoming2

Its our house with a joint mortgage. When we first bought it my dad gave me/us the deposit and I had a deed of something to protect my (dads) money in the event of a split, but we changed the mortgage a few years ago and as we were married by then, I didn't bother to renew it.

Kimberley82

We are both on the rent, we are about to buy a house which dh is getting the mortgage for, so while on paper it would be his it will be both of ours.