School starting age, please advise

Spendless

jellyhead wrote: »

How did you manage that? I'd have loved my eldest to do that, and I asked but was told it wasn't possible. He stayed in nursery for 2 terms then went into reception after easter so he didn't miss out on reception altogether. It was still hard for him but he had a great time in year 1 and caught up fine.

Is your son a school year behind where he should be? I'd be happy for my eldest to have done that, even right up to teenage years. They take their GCSE's too early anyway, he has already finished most of them at age 14 and the final year of school is just about resits in most of the subjects. He's doing okay and will get enough GCSE passes for college, but there's more to school than that.

Jellyhead there's a child at my kid's school who is 2 weeks younger than my son (spring birthday) but did 2 years in Reception. There were 2 kids kept in for futher time in Reception, 1 cos he ahd missed a lot of schooling following the break-up of his parent's marriage and changed schools, he moved to yr 1 after 1 extra term and the other I'm talking about it was discovered he was autistic (though I'm not sure if that was during his 2 reception years). He's stopped in the year below ever since, but there are other autistic kids in that school in their correct school year, so why he remains a year below I'm unsure. His mother is ahem very vocal shall we call it. :oso I think it's a possibility she fought for this from the start. I bumped into an old 'schoolmate' last Autumn as we were applying for Secondary school places, she also has an autistic child but in a different school and she was saying she could either apply for him to do an extra year in yr 6 or send him to a special (needs) school. She didn't think mainstream Secondary would suit him.

Also we have some friends who moved to Spain several years ago, then a couple of years ago they moved back. Their son has a mid Aug birthday and the Spanish school system runs differently (intake year is Jan-Dec and they start a year later) that meant when they emigrated he repeated the year he'd just done in England, but when it was time for him to move to Secondary he was kept back a futher year as his Spanish wasn't good enough. A year on and they returned to U.K and their son was the right year age wise for yr 9 (but ahd missed 2 years of Secondary school education). Initially they placed them in a school with ermmmm plenty of spaces, and that school agreed to put him in yr 8, but when on appeal they won putting him in the local school to where they live that school moved him into yr9. They asked if he could go in yr 8 insteead, but it was refused, something to do with how funding works.

jellyhead

I was vocal about it, but I was told that they just do not keep kids back in our LEA. He was statemented in nursery, so if it had been an option the statement would have helped there. I spoke to the child development centre, school and nursery about it. I didn't want to send him to reception, I had always wanted to hold him back but was told by everyone that it was just not possible.

I've never met a child who stayed back (although they used to do it when I was at school myself). I have met kids who go to school part time though.

A few weeks ago I jokingly asked if my youngest could stay in year 1 for an extra year, and they said they don't do that. He's been referred to the child development centre because he is not ready for year 2. I'm no expert, but I think if he were just a few weeks younger and in reception he wouldn't be considered to have any issues.

If I ever have another child I'm planning an autumn birthday

Spendless

jellyhead wrote: »

I was vocal about it, but I was told that they just do not keep kids back in our LEA. He was statemented in nursery, so if it had been an option the statement would have helped there. I spoke to the child development centre, school and nursery about it. I didn't want to send him to reception, I had always wanted to hold him back but was told by everyone that it was just not possible.

I've never met a child who stayed back (although they used to do it when I was at school myself). I have met kids who go to school part time though.

A few weeks ago I jokingly asked if my youngest could stay in year 1 for an extra year, and they said they don't do that. He's been referred to the child development centre because he is not ready for year 2. I'm no expert, but I think if he were just a few weeks younger and in reception he wouldn't be considered to have any issues.

If I ever have another child I'm planning an autumn birthday

Not without issues either. It is assumed you are the cleverest, when you may not be! (coming from someone with a late Sept birthday). Aim for the middle instead.

jellyhead

My nephew is the oldest in his year, but he needed the catch-up classes for reading in year 1. He says nobody expects him to be clever, but they do expect him to be mature, which is a struggle.

Come to think of it, you've seen my gigantic 5 year old in photos. He's 1.3m tall and wears age 9 clothes. He towers above the rest of his class but he's the youngest - imagine if he were the eldest in reception year instead, lol! Maybe I'd have a small kid next time though

KiKi

Soniclord wrote: »

Well firstly hard to understand your post as it's not gramatically correct or makes sense!

*grammatically.
*nor.

KiKi

Soniclord

bestpud wrote: »

The OP said they'd have opted for school had they realised, as they wouldn't then have moved house.

Clearly they regret moving house but are now doing the best they can with the situation they are in.

Correct and correct.

What some people don't realise though is I've made the decision I think is best for right now.. And of course I'm doing the best with the situation i'm in, and don't need criticising for it (i'm not saying you are) because of the decision I've made.

So to wrap it up for me, I've made my decision, I've done nothing wrong and that's all I've got left to say on the matter.

So thanks for everyone who has supported me and who have given sound advice, for those who judge/criticise unjustly well you know what to do..