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Pooky

As DSs mum you know what is best for him, there's enough going on in his little life at the moment as it is without potential upset with the dogs. I can understand that she might feel that she wants to see him if she's been close to him in the past, after all she's been a "step mum" of sorts.

Adults can cope with their feelings and will have to do what's best for DS and I would be reacting in the same way as you. Maybe a call direct to her with, this is what's going on (re school and referrals) and this is why you want to keep things calm and stable, would be best, you can get your point of view across and she hears it direct from you and to a twisted version from his parents?

I must admit that when my ex started the "game playing" I made it clear that there was one option and one option only, my way, or the high way. Needless to say its now been 7 years since he saw DDs. Im all for Dads being an important part of their kids lives but on the terms that enefit the kids, not those that !!!! them up!

Hugs to you havering to put up with this on top of everything else x

Please excuse the spelling, my iPad is auto correcting!! Badly!!

benbenandme

Pooky - not sure if you mean phoning the gf?? I dont have a number for her and wouldnt want to speak to her tbh, she's as bad as the crim :cool:

benbenandme

Shes just text me saying shes lost her voice and can I text her instead?? Her voice was absolutely fine at 4pm!! Can't help but think its another ploy to get me to write stuff down .... have replied saying no problem, will call in the week

pinkladyof66

benbenandme wrote: »

Shes just text me saying shes lost her voice and can I text her instead?? Her voice was absolutely fine at 4pm!! Can't help but think its another ploy to get me to write stuff down .... have replied saying no problem, will call in the week

is this the crims mother ?

benbenandme

Yep sorry

benbenandme

Have calmed down a bit now, am in a really good place at the moment and won't let them spoil it

We switched the telly off and ds has got into bed with me, a hot water bottle and his xmas books and a pack of post-its, and we've decided that tomorrow we're going to have a christmas activity day; we're going through the books now deciding what we are going to make / do. Already chosen a few decorations to make, and a couple of recipes to practice We'll make a christmas cd in the morning and stick that on too Might also try and get the xmas cards written. Am enjoying just snuggling together planning it all

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£6 profit from a free bet

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Morning all, so today is christmas preparations day in my house The weather today looks damp and miserable so I'm quite glad we'll be staying in and ds is very excited about it all

Last night I ordered myself a cashmere jumper from tescos, they're reduced to £25 at the moment and you can use your clubcard vouchers in the double up thing, so £12.50 of vouchers covered it :T

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So far we've completed an advent calendar for my dads room, dead proud of ds for doing it its very cute

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£43 profit from a matched bet :j :j £27 of that will go into the holiday pot and get that up to £500, the remaining £16 will start off my sale shopping fund for after Christmas