Should I boycott sports day?

thorsoak

You are making a mountain out of a molehill - get over it! If you make it into a big thing, then so will your daughter - and do you want her to feel that she is a "victim"? No-one would miss you at sports day - but your daughter would miss her friends, and taking part in it!

And as for all the parents looking at you - they were too busy looking at their own children - unless of course, you were making a scene!

pigpen

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Well they might have looked if you gave it a big reaction with a loud gasp or something (sorry abbfan!)

Why would you unless you are being dramatic?

I'd think.. ohh wonder where their partner is.. wonder if they are off ill.

And even if you did.. it would probably because they thought you were a bit odd not because your child was performing a song on stage.. most parents probably don't even know whose child is whose..

balletshoes

If your daughter felt left out while doing the song in the concert because at the last minute she found herself without a partner, and thats why she was welling up, I would think she'd feel even worse about missing sports day with her friends?

Seeing your child upset is upsetting for any Mum, but surely you know this wouldn't have been done on purpose, and that really this isn't a big deal? In your shoes thats what I would be telling my DD, to reassure her and to play it down.

Mupette

Good grief sorry but you'll be wanting compensation next.

Stop being silly, poor girls will enjoy tomorrow, it's the taking part which is important.

Lunar_Eclipse

Don't do it!

Sports day (well actually, school) attendance has nothing to do with what happened today. You are angry and trying to direct that anger at the school, when in actual fact you will only be punishing or affecting your children.

Talk to your child's teacher, without her knowledge, if you feel very strongly about what happened today, but please don't start making your children feel and act like victims. It sounds like your daughter was (understandably) upset, so I would talk it through with her to validate her feelings and discuss how well she did considering those feelings. Sweep her up and kiss her sadness away ... and she'll run faster tomorrow with her cloak of love! ;-)

patchwork_cat

Grow up. Boycott sports day because of a mistake or confusion, yes that is really sending a good message to your children

lisawood78

There was a show for my niece year last week (end of key stage 1). One boy was in the same situation, a song and small dance where they were meant to be in pairs but his pair was obviously not there. He just did it alone, no fuss or bother. Nobody stared or laughed or pointed or cared really.
Bit overdramatic to miss sportsday IMHO.

madrhino

Just had to say that not all children have lots of friends at school and some children finds social activities like sports day a bit tough. Maybe OP is keeping her daughter off to give her a break from that pressure after she had an upsetting concert.

POPPYOSCAR

I understand you being upset for your DD as I would be as well.

However, I do not see the logic behind you keeping your children away from sports day. I would just have a quite word with the teacher and explain how upset your DD was.

Molly41

Sports day might be her chance to shine. I would talk to the teacher though and ask why she was by herself during the performance and that she was upset.