Should I boycott sports day?

Abbafan1972

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**Patty**

Maybe the person that should have been her partner was ill?

Maybe she was nervous at having to do the performance on her own due to having rehearsed it with a partner?

Have you even asked her why?

Do you think you should ASK her if you should remove her from sports day tomorrow?

Which one of you is the child?

thatgirlsam

Do you think it will punish the school if you don't attend sports day or something?

All it will do is punish your dd's if they don't go

Its hard seeing something like that happen to your child... but I bet all of us have witnessed something similar

Don't make a big deal of it... your dd will have forgotten about it very soon anyway I expect

savingmummy

I wouldnt stop her going to school for 1 day, its team building and getting the children to work together and have fun.
What will you achieve by not letting her go in?
I can understand you feeling upset this happened, but i wouldn`t be too worried about it if i`m honest.

thatgirlsam

The thing is your going to make her into a 'victim' if you carry on like that, with a victim mentality - I'm sure the teacher didn't do it on purpose

If it was one of mine I would tell them to suck it up.. thats life

Maybe I'm a bit harsh on my kids!

gingin_2

Sports day is the perfect opportunity for your daugter to forget the day before and hopefully have fun with her friends, either by participating or cheering her team on. When your child falls off their bike and is shaken by it the first thing you do is tell them to get back on it, I see it as being similar in this situation.

There will always be errors made in life, times where we feel we have been wronged but we have to get over it and move on. The teacher made an error for sure but it wasn't deliberate and I'm sure she'll keep an extra eye out for your daughter next time.

KiKi

Maybe they did make sure all the kids were partnered up, but as they were walking in, two girls just did something different and the teacher didn't notice. It happens.

Rather than blowing this all out of proportion and projecting your own upset on your DD, let it go.

I don't get the logic between what happened at the performance and sports day. If your child got upset in a maths class, would you boycott an English lesson? The only people who will suffer will be your DDs, left out again by your actions and anger. Trust me, the school won't feel 'punished' or upset by your DDs not attending, you will achieve nothing.

Let it go, no matter how much it's upsetting you, or your DDs are going to feel the consequences.

KiKi

pigpen

thatgirlsam wrote: »

The thing is your going to make her into a 'victim' if you carry on like that, with a victim mentality - I'm sure the teacher didn't do it on purpose

If it was one of mine I would tell them to suck it up.. thats life

Maybe I'm a bit harsh on my kids!

I'd have done the same.. I would congratulate them for doing it on their own too and not needing a partner.. look at the positives rather than the negative..

I think it is a bit paranoid to think the other parents were looking at you.. of course they weren't... they probably didn't even notice.

ceebeeby

Totally OTT OP. Life has hard knocks sometimes and that was one for your DD. Give her a big hug tell her how proud you were of her and go on to cheer her all the way tomorrow. And don't even raise it at parents evening, you'll end up looking daft if you do.

thatgirlsam

pigpen wrote: »

I'd have done the same.. I would congratulate them for doing it on their own too and not needing a partner.. look at the positives rather than the negative..

I think it is a bit paranoid to think the other parents were looking at you.. of course they weren't... they probably didn't even notice.

Well they might have looked if you gave it a big reaction with a loud gasp or something (sorry abbfan!)

I am really aware of trying to make my children see the good in people and in situations.. so I would have said 'teacher didn't do it on purpose.. get over it, no harm done!'

Its hard when your child is upset but unless they learn to cope with sitautions like that they are going to be upset EVERY time... better to learn coping skills now and be happy if it happens again

If not having a partner during a song is the worst thing that could happen I would say that life was going well

Debbie_A_3

These things happen, unfortunately. Teachers are human. In the midst of a school concert it is so easy to overlook something like this. If you really do feel cut up about it then make an appointment with your child's teacher. But do try to stay positive: if a teacher gets defensive you will not get far. Also ask yourself what you want to achieve. I am a teacher and if I was responsible I would apologise profusely (I hate upsetting people) but I could not promise that something like this would never happen again. It will because, so often, I end up doing too many things at the same time.

I wouldn't keep your daughter away from sports day. Such events can provide many of the talking points between the children over the subsequent days. It would be a shame if your daughter felt cut out from this.