I know it's the thought that count's but ...

jopsey

I am so annoyed with Sil regarding christmas presents
She has 3 children and every Christmas I ask/get told what Children would like for Christmas each gift is normally around the £15 mark so totalling £45 ,

I have never thought anything about this until I had a little one last year and she sent a toy that was prob worth about £5,fair enough he was only a baby last christmas and didn't read too much into it ,
She has done it again this year I am by no means mean and don't mind buying the children the toys they would like but this is really starting to bug me

What shall I do next year

tkblueyonder

give her kids a fiver each in a card she will get the mesage im sure

pinkfluffybabe

Why not suggest a gift for her to buy your child that is of a similar value to what you are buying for hers?

jopsey

tkblueyonder wrote:

give her kids a fiver each in a card she will get the mesage im sure

I did think that but it would be the children missing out and I would feel really mean to them

tkblueyonder

erm what about your children then....? you are too nice me thinks

jopsey

pinkfluffybabe wrote:

Why not suggest a gift for her to buy your child that is of a similar value to what you are buying for hers?

I did this year but still bought rubbish

in_my_wellies

Does your SIL pass unwanted hand-me-downs on to you? My SIL had three children and the youngest was 3 when my first was born. She passed no end on to me which she could have sold but she refused any payment from us. As she said, much of it had been bought by the childrens' grandmother anyway. Because of this we always spent a bit more on her childen than she did on ours. This went on till they went to uni.

Smashing

jopsey wrote:

I did think that but it would be the children missing out and I would feel really mean to them

They're missing out because they get a present worth £5 instead of £15?

Like you say, it's the thought that counts...

jopsey

in_my_wellies wrote:

Does your SIL pass unwanted hand-me-downs on to you? My SIL had three children and the youngest was 3 when my first was born. She passed no end on to me which she could have sold but she refused any payment from us. As she said, much of it had been bought by the childrens' grandmother anyway. Because of this we always spent a bit more on her childen than she did on ours. This went on till they went to uni.

nothing and never has,we did with a load of SS(now 19) toys to her eldest .
When I read your sig I realise im not the only brainwashed Bob the builder parent:rotfl:

THE_LONE_RANGER_4

we dont buy for sil kids she dosnt buy for ours any more whats the point you spend 15 she spends 15 no point, as your not giving becouse you want to etc

lil_me

I spent 2-3 times what my sister did on each of my children this year, because I could afford to, maybe that is the same situation. She realises now I don't do it to brag, I spend what I can afford and she spends what she can. Doesn't bother me. Giving a gift of whatever amount is because you want to. I don't go off money, I go off what matters. Person I spent the most on by far this year was my Dad, over £400 on a laptop, because I know he needs it, can't afford it and does a lot for me. Not because of what it is and how much it was.