my fathers will

Tiddlywinks

ricardo62 wrote: »

its a proper will and i think a copy is at the solicitors ? one other ? if i become a carer for him has anybody an idea of what i might recieve per week i think i might also be able to get income support as well as carers allowance ?

RadoJo wrote: »

Just to warn you that your latest post asking about being a carer for your Dad comes across as being more interested in how much you can get out of him than a genuine desire to look after your dad's interests. If this is not the case, you may wish to either edit your post, or start a new thread on the benefits board as your latest post does nothing to dispel the idea that money is your primary motivator when it comes to your father's care and you may find some harsh comments coming your way.

What do you care most about? Your father's health and wellbeing in his final days or your own finances?

Frankly, you sound grasping and calculating and you should consider your priorities... your father is still alive and you should want the best for him and worry about the rest later.

This is not a game of chess where you need to move all of your pieces into place, this is real life - and your father should be your most important consideration!

ricardo62

sorry i should have explained i suffer from autism , and the way i put things is sometimes either black or white its just as hes going to be living with me i want us both 2 have enuff money to live and be able to heat the home and i was only asking what the amount of money we would be entitled to by law ? sorry if i come across like that but thats why i dnt have any friends and find it hard to intergrate with people its so ive been told by my doctor what autism does .. a example is i have a tropical fish tank and i will sit and stare at it for hours on end literally , and im always asking queastions on random subjects and keep checking on things around the house my girlfriend is a senior support worker looking after people with learning disabilitys and she says she tinks ive got o c d as well ??

Tiddlywinks

ricardo62 wrote: »

sorry i should have explained i suffer from autism , and the way i put things is sometimes either black or white its just as hes going to be living with me i want us both 2 have enuff money to live and be able to heat the home and i was only asking what the amount of money we would be entitled to by law ? sorry if i come across like that but thats why i dnt have any friends and find it hard to intergrate with people its so ive been told by my doctor what autism does .. a example is i have a tropical fish tank and i will sit and stare at it for hours on end literally , and im always asking queastions on random subjects and keep checking on things around the house my girlfriend is a senior support worker looking after people with learning disabilitys and she says she tinks ive got o c d as well ??

Hmm, BUT you need to understand that your father is NOT your meal ticket!

He is a person who deserves respect in his final years.

Are you capable of caring for him? Is your motive love or money?

Fire_Fox

There are strict regulations governing what someone with Power of Attorney or Executorship can and cannot do, whilst you may not be able to stop your sister the law has powers to freeze her assets and prosecute. Depends how far you want to take it with the police really, please understand no action can be taken until your sister has actually broken the law. Being autistic is it possible you have taken something she said a little too literally, perhaps she made a joke in poor taste? To be honest tho at this stage this is your father's money and should be being spent on his comfort and wellbeing even if that only leaves enough to pay for his funeral.

If you intend to live with your father it would make more sense for you to hold the Power of Attorney. Are you sure you want to take on the extra stress of caring if you may have obsessive or compulsive traits? Stress is a massive trigger for OCD, you could end up being totally unable to care for either of you. Please get yourself properly diagnosed, there are medications or techniques that can be used to control the negative feelings.

Fire_Fox

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Hmm, BUT you need to understand that your father is NOT your meal ticket!

He is a person who deserves respect in his final years.

Are you capable of caring for him? Is you motive love or money?

And maybe you need to understand a little more about autistic thinking?

ricardo62

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Hmm, BUT you need to understand that your father is NOT your meal ticket!

He is a person who deserves respect in his final years.

Are you capable of caring for him? Is you motive love or money?

i love him and i want him to live for loads more years ,i want to go fishing wiv him and hav bbqs on the veranda i will look after him the best i can you cant judge me ??

Tiddlywinks

ricardo62 wrote: »

i love him and i want him to live for loads more years ,i want to go fishing wiv him and hav bbqs on the veranda i will look after him the best i can you cant judge me ??

So why no threads started about caring for your father?

Why are all your threads about you and how to get money from your father or the state?

Edited to add: have a read of all previous posts from the OP and then you will see what I mean. The OP has had his father buy him a mobile home, pay for various bits and pieces yet he still calls his sister an "evil witch" for taking money.

ricardo62

thank you firefox , i have cared for him for the last 10 yrs when i was living with him before he sold his house and moved in with the witch!! i am capable of caring for him better than my sis even my gf whos a support worker says i would and am better than her ,at caring and lukin after him i dress him feed him and wash him my sis does nothing but takes the money he pays her 500pnds a mth housekeeping and she also gets her carers money plus my 80pnd a fortnight and she has her mortgage paid off! i give him his pills every morn and night , so yes i can cope but i just want us to be able to live and afford the electric and gas and food so i only wanted to know what we might get coming in from benefits were entitled to ???

Fire_Fox

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

So why no threads started about caring for your father?

Why are all your threads about you and how to get money from your father or the state?

Edited to add: have a read of all previous posts from the OP and then you will see what I mean. The OP has had his father buy him a mobile home, pay for various bits and pieces yet he still calls his sister an "evil witch" for taking money.

Perhaps because this is MoneySavingExpert and this is the Moneysaving in Marriages, Relationships and Families board? Which part of autism, black and white thinking and taking things literally do you not understand? :wall: A preoccupation with maths/ numbers/ money/ electronics/ rules/ routine and difficulty with small talk, empathetic thinking and change is quite 'normal' for those on the autistic spectrum. Please do some research, autism is a hell of a thing to get your head around if you have not witnessed it first hand.

ricardo62

im sorry if i come across all wrong ? i cant help it but my father wishes are that i get his i s a,s so isnt it right that his wishes are carried out theve had there money early dont you think its wrng they should get mine as well what my dad has left me ???