would you be offended.....

74jax

It wouldn't bother me that my friend picked the same date as my wedding, I would quite like the idea.

If it was a really close friend I would ask why hubby wasn't invited, and take if from there. You can then either go to the wedding as a couple or spend your anniversary together if he isn't invited.

I won't be inviting partners who I don't know very well to my wedding, just becuase I would rather have those who are close to me there and my numbers will be very small.

However the fact that it appears ALL the 8 people you asked if they had a plus 1 actually did.................... yep i'd be fuming, but you really need to have it out with her.

becca0417

Just ask her!

Mrsanders

If I was you I would just ask outright whether you are invited as a family, if you are not I would definately be questioning the friendship between you and your friend. It may just be some sort of mistake.

I know on my invitations anyone that was a family I put "and family" and for anybody who just had partners (some of which I didn't know the names of!) I just put the one name, I didn't like the sound of "and guest" or "plus 1" but anybody who wanted to bring them was more than welcome.

One particular friend from school I didn't realise was in a relationship and she asked if it was ok to bring him, I didn't feel offended by being asked at all and said he was more than welcome, so I think maybe you should just ask, if she says no I would say thats fine and explain that you wanted to spend your first anniversary together, and then forget about her

shellsuit

If it was me I'd ask her outright about the invite just having my name on it.

If she said that was right, that my husband and my son/her godson weren't invited, do you know what I'd do?

I'd tell her to shove her invite right up her backside.

I wouldn't go to the wedding and I wouldn't speak to her again.

You don't treat oldest best friends like that AT ALL.

Like you said, everyone else has +1's so it's not about the space or money.

She's either being a total and utter cow, or she has just put your name down because she thinks you should know your little family would all be invited.

Just ask her. As soon as. Waiting and pondering over it will drive you nuts! x

cord123

My god I would be massively fuming! When I got married we were only allowed 110 guests... I asked my close friends (there are 8 of us) if they would mind if their partners came to the evenings and they were absolutely fine, the aonly partners that got invited were of my friends that WERE married and those that had kids.... I thinkshe sounds totally jealous.
I would ring her up and play dumb... just say hubbys name wasnt on the invite, is that right blah blah blah. And if she says yes then I would say oh well I was speaking to XXX and they are taking someone from work..... if she didnt invite your husband I would take it that she doesnt like him and not go... she is doing it to make some sort of point by the sounds of it....

Idiophreak

I'm with everyone else really, it's not on for her not to invite someone's husband, ESPECIALLY if both her and her fianc!e went to that person's wedding. Every wedding we've ever been to are invited to ours, it's only proper! (plus, we want them all there anyway, but that's not the point )

I also think it's really off for her not to invite her Godson, if there are other children attending.

Having said that...I, like everyone else, can't understand why you don't just call her and ask what the deal is?

Minimoo24

dont blame u i would stand up for my man, i think that mean what hse has done. xxx

Stephb1986_2

Actually I've been thinking about this, rsvp back saying you are attending and then don't turn up. I know it's not nice but neither is she.

Steph xx

Scotsbride

I spend the evening with your family instead More MSE if you take account outfit, accomadation and travel

ellay864

I'd definitely ask her about it...you can justifiably say that as it's your wedding anniversary you'd like to spend the day with him, and say that going to a wedding without him on that date would just feel odd for you. If it was me I'd be tempted to play dumb and make some comment about her not inviting plus ones and how the other women may be OK about it but as it's your anniversary you'd rather not...then see if she admits other partners are invited. Same with the kids thing...make a comment implying you're assuming no other kids will be there and see what she says.
I personally don't have a problem with people not inviting husbands/wives as when numbers are tight I think it's fine for a couple to maybe only invite the people they know well and not necessarily partners. But that doesn't even apply in this case as she does know your hubby and is godmother to your son. Seems really odd thing to do if you've nothing to indicate why she's behaving like this just to you