anyone had a temporary split

dramaqueen1973

Hiya

It worked for us, we had a 8 week temp split, at the time I was never wanting him back, but gradually we talked and got back together. Its great now and we know we never want that to happen again so we talk more and we do not take things for granted.

Hope things sort out for you

Drama xx

make_me_wise

I would say a break cant hurt. Only you know what is causing the problems in your relationship. I think being apart will help you step back from the situation and be able to see more clearly whether this is worth fighting for or not.

Depending on how you both feel about counselling, it might help. Something you both need to want to do though. I hope you guys manage to sort things out. I imagine a break up with kids involved is very difficult.

advicepleaseguys

Thank you sincerely for taking the time to read and reply. my heart is heavy. prob best at the moment to grin and bear this week and then focus on enjoyin the time away with kids and take time to seriously consider the future.

xx

glitterycloud

I'm currently on a temporary break from my husband. We have had a stressful year and things eventually took there toll, I was living abroad with my husband and young son, we moved back to the UK and fate kinda played a hand. To get a visa my husband had to return to his home country to apply, I am now living on my own with the time to reflect on the past year and do some mending to myself and some self discovery and my husband is doing the same thousands of miles away, I am extremely grateful for the time apart and I think that when he gets his visa and comes over we can start a fresh instead of splitting permanently due to the stresses and strains we went through.

I think it depends on your situation and want to make it work as to whether a temporary split can work.

Glittery

MessyMare

kitschkitty wrote: »

I think it really depends on what situations and issues are causing problems in the relationship, how good the relationship has been in general in the past.

If there are issues with infidelity, violence or other major problems then I'm not sure if it will make any difference.

If it's multiple stresses and strains that have gotten too much then it may help.

About 6 or 7 years ago hubby and I (before we were married) went through a lot of very stressful situations: family resentments, bereavement, money issues and depression to name a few. We got to the point where we were both under so much stress we were very unhappy. We didn't split up but my hubby decided to move out for a month, to give himself thinking space. It was very hard during that time as we agreed to limit contact as much as possible and only saw each other a few times, but he came to realise he missed me and wanted us to be together, and he came home. We've had ups and downs since then, but over the last few years, things have just got better, and stronger and happier for us.

KK! It's a small world

Back to the OP- my current partner and I split up for a year, and got back together a year ago. It was the best thing we ever did- it gave me time to grow up and enter the real world (I was at university for the first year we were together) and it gave him time to appreciate that he really did love me. A year after getting back together we're happier than we've ever been, buying a house together and really making things firmer and more permanent. It can work for some people, under some circumstances. If you'd asked me two years ago if I'd get back together with someone after a split I'd've said no way at all...but it all depends on the people and how you feel. Time apart can remind you of why you love each other..

Pee

When I split with my ex he came around for dinner a few weeks later. He turned up sober bringing a bottle of fizzy white wine - my preference - whilst I had bought a bottle of red - his preference. I had cooked, which was pretty unusual.

We didn't get back together for lots and lots of reasons but it did occur to me right there and then that if we had both been prepared to make that effort before, we might not have split up.

Splitting up was the right thing for me, but if it hadn't been, I think a trial separation could have worked.

With my boyfriend, the current one, smile, we booked a holiday when we had been together a couple of months and said we'd have a trial get back together if we split up in the meantime!