Weekly Flylady Thread 4th July 2011

uropachild

My toots list seems to be getting bigger, rather than smaller... :eek:

Magnificent Monday ~ kitchen!
:j

Tuesday ~ Living Room/s, Hall, Stairs
:j

Wednesday ~ Bathroom, Loo, Study
:j

Thursday ~ Master Bedroom & Landing
:j

Friday ~ child/spare/choose a room...
:j

:T Done :T

All of us up, milked, fed, played with, milked again, fed again, milked fed, played with, milked, in bed.
WM x 2
WL x 1
TD x 1
Messaged K with photos update
D's photos, J's card & parcel to post office

To Do

Baby shower stationery check
Create paperwork/games for shower
Go through wedding photos and discard carp
Message prospective brides & grooms
Draw plan of photo displays in living room
Make leek & potato soup and squash & carrot soup to freeze for kiddos
Pay nursery bill & query additional amount

Toots List

1. Redo window wall rail & shelf in kitchen
2. Paint double doors (living room/kitchen)
3. Rub down filler on ceiling in kitchen & paint
4. Fill in chip on side of fridge freezer cupboard
5. Get rid of big highchair
6. Paint pine mirror white & put up in room
7. Print out photos for two large frames & wallpaper mount
8. Take family portrait
9. Take photos of kids for two frames above sofa
10. Get radiator cabinet & install in room
11. Sort out ribba for kids art wall
12. Paint architrave in room
13. Paint internal doors in room
14. Do word art picture for wall "Life is good?"
15. Do hand prints art using all kids handprints
16. Print two photos for small frames on white unit
17. Put away baby toys
18. Sell unused nappies
19. Paint architrave in office
20. Paint doors in office
21. Paint windowsill in office
22. Finish dolls cot makeover
23. Install pin/white board in office
24. Sort out cupboard to store hobby stuff instead of cleaning stuff
25. Hide back of desk
26. Fill & label crafting pizza boxes
27. Type up inventory of craft stuff for reference
28. See if blind is required at window in shower room
29. Get rid of splodge on wall at top of landing
30. Touch up paint where pram has marked wall in hallway
31. Install bi-fold door in bathroom
32. Install towel rails in bathroom
33. Get loo roll holder for bathroom
34. Replace silicone sealant in bathroom
35. Finish & put up valances i made in bathroom
36. Fix hole in floor in our room
37. Get ceiling plastered in our room
38. Get rid of wardrobe that's in the way of the door & relocate stuff to chest of drawers
39. Put up house number plaque on wall outside
40. Replace light pull in main bathroom
41. Declutter top of our wardrobes
42. Get new memory boxes for kids & label nice
43. Hang long mirror on our bedroom wall
44. Paint internal doors upstairs
45. Clean curtain pole on landing
46. Add frosting to landing window so neighbours don't get an eyeful.
47. Replace DD's photo frame in DS' room
48. Design DD's new bedroom decor and cost out
49. Get better bathroom toy storage cheap
50. Sort through books in airing cupboard
51. Declutter baby bath and seat
52. Empty seagrass gibble from windowsil on landing
53. Type up crafting inventory list
54. Go through preggo file from DS & file/chuck as appropriate
55. Do trust fund application doodah for DS
56. Read leaflet about wills
57. Put kids names down at school

pigpen

Triker wrote: »

Piggers, what about the inheritance he recently got from his Grandmother...can he not contribute to some of the house repairs? You say he bought himself an Xbox...why..he's the father of a baby, with another on the way and there you are struggling to find money???

I bought him the xbox for christmas.. I am not really struggling to find he money it is just a lot of money to find in one go.. The house isn't his, it is mine, I won't be holden to him and I do not expect him to put his money into my house.. Iwouldn't be happy doing it if it was the other way round.

Didn't you say ages ago that you have put him down as a carer for one of the little ones who get the Disability Living Allowance...unless I'm missing something here, surely you are setting a pattern of dependance...with you always being the driver in finding money, supporting others, trying to protect...when he isn't even helping much unless asked.

That was partly on advice from the job centre who said it was a waste of time him going every 2 weeks to be told there was nothing available, because there would likely never be anything available we could survive on.

Part of being a partnership is exactly that, a partner, not a passive observer whilst the OH struggles...like you do. x

Bit tired today...work is workish and I'm glad its friday.

I'm off to work out tea, then hopefully do something fun.

I'm really tired too .. and have balloon feet! Very stylish!

gratefulforhelp_2

greenbee wrote: »

Piggers - sounds like he needs some career advice, but for the moment, any job would do.

Totally agree, the best way to demonstrate ones work ethic is to get a job - and after a reasonable time frame, that's any job.

Frittered_Away

pigpen wrote: »

Computer engineering and he was working for a friend who has his own business and couldn't afford to keep him on. There is nothing at all here that is even a remote possibility.. the 'nearest' thing the jobcentre came up with was a maths teacher.. which obviously he isn't qualified for!

in fact other than the 6 months with his friend he hasn't had a job related to his degree ever.. he worked in his dads shop after leaving uni until going to friends job.

Do you live where I live...?! The OH is in IT and has, after 6 months, gotten himself a job which is 50 miles away! :eek:

Goodintentions wrote: »

...I suppose it is only a tenth of the money FT students have to find!

We don't have to find it upfront though nor do we have to feed ourselves either, that's paid for too!

Good for you for looking though :T it's the first step



My OH isn't coming round til tomorrow now, so you'd think that time might be put towards cleaning, but nah, off t' pub
My list:


Magnificent Monday ~ kitchen!
Level Two
Sweep and mop the floor (Maybe...)

Tuesday ~ Living Room/s, Hall, Stairs
Done :j

Wednesday ~ Bathroom, Loo, Study
Done :j

Thursday ~ Master Bedroom & Landing
Level Two
Finish unpacking (big one :eek:)
Put away the floordrobe

Friday ~ other flatmates' rooms
Level One
Don't forget your half hour you-time.. you have earned it!!!!
Level Two
S&S ALL surfaces

Extras
30 in 30

pigpen

greenbee wrote: »

Piggers - sounds like he needs some career advice, but for the moment, any job would do. As far as potential employers go, willingness to work is the most important thing and you can learn all sorts of useful things by doing something a bit different. We had all sorts of people working in our call centres and for some it was a great way in to a career in the company. I found a law grad in one of them who is now very successful in IT and another person who is managing outsourcing contracts. Lots of people have careers that have no connection with their degree, so he really needs to think about whwt he can do rather than what he can't. And while he is job hunting, voluntary work will earn CV points, provide experience, get him out from under your feet occasionally and hopefully give him some motivation. The longer he is out of work the harder it is going to be for him.

We (his parents and I) have suggested allsorts.. from training to OU to voluntary work to helping in school.. I can't force him to do anything. DD2 even brought him home info on courses she thought he would like form the school careers fair which was really nice. He just lacks so much confidence on top of everything else.. he is a right jobsworth as well so would be a great asset as everything would be done precisely.. but I can't make him do something he doesn't want to..

Personally I think he would do better training in something he is intersted in.

I also don't see how him getting a job would make the cupboards move any easier or stop him having contacct with his 'friend' .. him not being here would probably mean I did 10 times more than I do now.

toochoosey wrote: »

DD has a bob!!! I nearly cried when she had the first cut....It looked soooo short but the end result is lovely and DD loves it, but every time I look at her I feel a little sad, as she looks like she is getting older now(I know she is, but, well, you know!!)

I have S+S'd the kitchen, tidied some shoes and had a quick tidy up in the LR. Ready for DD to be picked up by DSD and then chill for the night!!

Glad she is happy.. you will get used to it I'm sure.. it is only hair and will grow.

toochoosey

Thanks Pigpen xx

I have cooked some food, and scoffed it....dishes are waiting in the sink!!!

miaoww

Friday ~ child/spare/choose a room...
Level One
Declutter foor and vacuum it
Strip stinky bedding, wash and get back on the bed
Don't forget your half hour you-time.. you have earned it!!!!
Level Two
remove any laundry from the room
Wipe sticky marks from everything
Tidy toys/floordrobe into proper places
Level Three
binbag dance
HHI
Wash any curtains/toys that need it
Extras
around the house do..

1. 60 in 60
2. HHC in a room that needs a quick spruce
3. Dust and Deweb and fluffy rooms
4. 15 minutes filing

Having one of those nights - kids will be doing the above tomorrow or i will be helping them by filling anything not tidied up into a bin bag!
I know just how you feel pigpen i leave notes for my hubby as hes had a day off work to go to the dentists ok he had and extraction but that doesnt stop you for being able to empty dishwasher or maybe putting hover around - he managed to eat his tea ok - some initiative would be nice for once- like maybe he could cook tea as hes been home all day! unfortunately my DH doesnt have any light bulb moments:rotfl:

LameWolf

Frittered_Away wrote: »

Do you live where I live...?! The OH is in IT and has, after 6 months, gotten himself a job which is 50 miles away! :eek:

It seems a recurring theme, Frittered. Mr LW was out of work for 11 months (during which time he applied for over 300 jobs!!) after his contract in Bedford ended, then got a temporary position covering maternity leave in Rugby, followed by another 3 month hiatus, then 10 months temporary at a firm he used to work for here in MK, then when that finished, he got a job a 30 mile commute away, in Letchworth. That was 5 and a half years ago, and he's still doing the 30 mile commute. He's an IT professional, too.:o

Dins decluttered, Mr LW's and my exercise decluttered, just clearing the last of our respective email, then he'll decide if he wants to do computer gaming or go to the pub.;) (I'm secretly hoping it's the former, as I really cba to turn out tonight).:D

Dustykitten

Piggers I don't tend to try to give you advice as I'm never sure how it will be received so this is more of an observation. Could your other half be depressed? He has been through some major life changes in a relatively short period of time. Being made redundant hurts and can make you feel useless. Becoming a parent is tough especially as Squeak from what you said took sometime to bond with him. He has then got the added part of suddenly living with a very capable woman and a whole bunch of kids of varying ages. Now I know you have been through an awful lot too and I'm by no means making excuses for him but I'm wondering if he hasn't adapted to how his life has changed; his behaviour tends to indicate that he is resisting the changes by 'opting out' of helping, working engaging.

It was so cold at cricket. Feel a bit better now I've eaten (too much as I was cold and very hungry). Kids are eating now and then I need to try to sort out the kitchen and bedtime. No idea when either DH or DS1 will be home but they are old enough to fend for themselves.

pigpen

Dustykitten wrote: »

Piggers I don't tend to try to give you advice as I'm never sure how it will be received so this is more of an observation. Could your other half be depressed? He has been through some major life changes in a relatively short period of time. Being made redundant hurts and can make you feel useless. Becoming a parent is tough especially as Squeak from what you said took sometime to bond with him. He has then got the added part of suddenly living with a very capable woman and a whole bunch of kids of varying ages. Now I know you have been through an awful lot too and I'm by no means making excuses for him but I'm wondering if he hasn't adapted to how his life has changed; his behaviour tends to indicate that he is resisting the changes by 'opting out' of helping, working engaging.

I think he is a little.. added to the low self esteem and low confidence.. I think it has been a long standing issue rather than a culmination of the last couple of years..