Can anyone recommend a book on parenting?

belfastgirl23

Supernanny is also on 4OD just in case you might prefer to watch a few episodes rather than read a book - also free of course

http://www.channel4.com/programmes/supernanny/episode-guide/series-5

sumsup

i recommend "how to talk so kids listen and listen so kids talk", which i love as it works for all ages, and even for husbands! I have copies of the pages bluetacked to my walls! Also, "10 days to a less defiant child", not just for "definant children" it has loads of gret ideas for generally freazzled parents, and ( the best bit) relly made me feel that I was not alone and not the rubbish parent I feel like sometimes!

good luck

pinkclouds

If you're interested in Attachment Parenting, then I recommend any of Dr Sear's books: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Attachment-Parenting-Book-Sears-Library/dp/0316778095/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1309289545&sr=8-1

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I did a couple of parenting courses through Fegans and it ran alongside the free book they gave us called "The impossible years" I think. From ages birth to 12.

However a friend also recommended 1-2-3 Magic last year when we had problems and we haven't looked back, even now i feel that book has changed my life and i've it out to friends so many times. I think they should issue it when you give birth!!!

Good luck OP

jackieglasgow

I agree with sumsup's choices, and also recommend Steve Biddulph, I find myself nodding in agreement whenever I read his books, most of it is just good old common sense, and really works for me.

meritaten

I had three kids (and did my share of shouting - so you aren't the only one!) my youngest would these days been diagnosed with ADHD at the least - His daughter is ADHD borderline Aspergers.
Those years taught me a lot! most of which comes in handy as I babysit/childmind the grandkids.
The three golden rules
The more you shout the less they listen! you 'get in their face' and speak quietly but firmly.
The punishment is appropriate to age and understanding - I like Jo Frosts approach and use the naughty step for however many minutes their age is in years. and I WILL keep putting them back if they dont stay put! when they are put on the naughty step I make sure they understand why.
I never,ever threaten them with something I am not prepared to carry out! they all know if nan says 'dont do that or I will take it off you' - then I will if they continue'

am I an ogre? nasty nanny? the kids all request sleepovers and time with me more often than I can accomodate them! I love them all to bits and they get plenty of cuddles and kisses and as GD2 puts it 'Good HARD hugs'!

Savvy_Sue

skypie123 wrote: »

Thanks everyone! Lots of ideas of books and areas of support to look at. The kids are 5, 10 and 12 and my eldest is Dyspraxic so not the easiest child at times.

I was going to suggest Toddler Taming by Christopher Green, and I still don't think it's too late in some areas. :rotfl:

skypie123 wrote: »

I know I need to stay calm to get my point across, its just remembering it I will check out those books on Amazon and also contact Sure Start! It almost feels like I've failed at being a parent going to parenting classes. Don't know why I can't do what comes naturally to so many people!

Think about it this way: failure would be realising that you need help, but not being prepared to DO anything about it. And let's face it, we don't think our children are failures because they need help learning the social skills they need to acquire, or the rules of French, or whatever, do we?

jackieglasgow

Toddler Taming is a fantastic book, and I would have suggested it myself it the children had been younger, but you're right Sue, it is also relevant for older kids.