Neighbour Problems

cm2011

Hi,

I know this isn't strictly money saving, but we are having real problems with our new neighbours (we moved in a month ago), and need some advice!
Next door there is a young couple with a small child (1 year old, we know as they had a very loud party the other week!). The parents consistently argue, and not only is it loud, which we can deal with, but it sounds violent and ends up with a lot of screaming from the mother and child, and usually the mother shouting at the bloke to never come back.

Today, we were out in the garden, when another argument started. We ignored it as best we could, but suddenly the bloke came round the side of our house, and asked us to either call the police or go round to talk to the woman, as she was threatening to leave the child alone. We didn't do anything, we felt quite intimidated and didn't want to get involved, but it seems now that they are trying to involve us.

Can anyone advise us on the best course of action?

Thanks

Claire

bingy_burge

I would contact the local police on a non emergency number. They must realise that if the police are called they may tell social services and as long as sharon shoesmith is running your local childrens services they should follow it up.

They have asked you to. I would also call local authority if you think the childs welfare is at risk.

phill99

Call social services directly. If they think a child is at risk they normally intervene pretty quickly.

Errata

The bloke asked you to call the police and you wouldn't, despite hearing shouting and screaming on previous occasions? Shame on you.

olias

Does the bloke not have a phone himself..............?

Olias

Suzy_M

phill99 wrote: »

Call social services directly. If they think a child is at risk they normally intervene pretty quickly.

If a child is at risk call the police - they have more legal powers so can take immediate action whereas social services have to go through set procedures.

cm2011

Errata I don't think that comment was really necessary, we didn't want to get involved in something that was not anything to do with us, and were just keeping an eye on it for the time being. I posted on here as I was looking for constructive advice, as I have never dealt with anything like this before and don't know what the best thing to do is for everyone involved.

I have now phoned the local police and reported my concerns, so they have opened a file to investigate.

Thanks to everyone else for your advice.

muckybutt

cm2011 wrote: »

Errata I don't think that comment was really necessary, we didn't want to get involved in something that was not anything to do with us.

I sincearly hope you are not one of those people who turns a blind eye when some one asks for assistance but it looks like you are, so I shall echo Errata's comment, shame on you.

How would you have felt if something had happened to the toddler when your assistance to help was asked for....pretty krap I would hope. Fair enough it isnt your problem and didnt want to get involved but he asked for your help directly and you ignored him ???? how selfish is that :mad:

cm2011

We are not people who turn a blind eye when someone asks for help, but if you knew what the bloke who came round was like (not a very nice man to put it nicely), you would not want to get in the middle of it either.

I am really quite shocked by some of the responses as all I did was asked for advice, we are not at all selfish and am I am quite upset about being accused of that.

After this experience of asking for advice on this site, I doubt I'll be using it again, I did not post to be abused.

Craftyscholar

cm2011 wrote: »

Hi,
Today, we were out in the garden, when another argument started. We ignored it as best we could, but suddenly the bloke came round the side of our house, and asked us to either call the police or go round to talk to the woman, as she was threatening to leave the child alone. We didn't do anything, we felt quite intimidated and didn't want to get involved, but it seems now that they are trying to involve us.

cm2011 wrote: »

We are not people who turn a blind eye when someone asks for help, but if you knew what the bloke who came round was like (not a very nice man to put it nicely), you would not want to get in the middle of it either.

I am really quite shocked by some of the responses as all I did was asked for advice, we are not at all selfish and am I am quite upset about being accused of that.
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To be fair to previous posters you said in your first post that the man asked you to phone the police or talk to the woman - that gave the impression that he was concerned for the child and had asked for your help.

Those who replied had no way of knowing that he was 'not a nice man' they could only respond based on what you had told them.

panchenlama

hey cm2011

i wouldn't have either gone round or called the policy to be honest. I think you're getting a rough ride...

i expect you felt threatened by him and his behaviour and I would have left them to it. Last thing you want to do is get in the middle of that.

I have family in the police and they all tell me about how they get called to domestics and when they arrive everyone has gone back to normal (whatever that is) and don't want to involve the rozzers...