Not happy with results of breast augmentation

newtotrading

EssexHebridean wrote: »

Perhaps re-read your original post that the OP was commenting on then? I hav to say that I read your and Nicki's posts and felt that you were bang out of order. I think you both owe the OP and his girlfriend an apology TBH.

Newtotrading I hope things work out for your GF - it's good that she has the support she clearly does from you - and I'm certain that she realises and really appreciates it too.

Thank you EssexHeb, much appreciated

Although we may well be asking waaaaaaaaay too much wanting an apology from people who already have their opinions set in stone, after making them within seconds

newtotrading

welshdent wrote: »

Nicki the point I personally made is you have no idea if it's the girlfriends wishes or not. I and others felt you were coming on a tad strong to the op. Based entirely on what the op said you can not make the assumptions you have made. Now if they came on and said "I got the missus to get her boobs done and now I don't like them" I'd agree with you entirely - but they didn't. I do think you gave good advice and personally I am really not a fan of the way society seems to encourage such procedures - I won't use the term treatments because that implies something needed fixing. I simply feel taking a few words on an Internet forum and jumping to the conclusion that the boyfriend is the driving force is unfair. My best mates new wife will soon be on her 3rd pair of implants. The first 2 were placed before they met but he will now be "helping" fund the 3rd because of their joint accounts etc. That doesnt mean he is encouraging her or pressurising her. In fact she is the one very much wanting them re done!

Welsh, I think this is what Nikki read it as though. Obvoiously the Chrsitmas present I bought her that she picked out was 'forced' upon her by me too :rotfl:

McKneff

newtotrading wrote: »

People 'assuming' your male on these boards has nothing to do with it, flyboy didnt 'assume' I forced her into it too just because he's a guy did he? Your inital post, along with Nikki's basically shot me down in flames for being supportive, and caring about my partner. DO NOT assume things about me please, as only 2 people here have, and you've both been told to cool down by pretty much every other poster. Whatever your probelm is with me caring about my gf, or wanting her to be happy can stay your problem. I have absolutely no idea why you assumed i'd forced or bullied her into anything?

er, excuse, but can you point out where in any of my posts i assumed you had forced or bullied her into anything.

No, thought not.

welshdent

Getting back on track

I would say the first thing you need to do is see what the now "enhanced" (;-)) better half signed up for. She needs to see what sort of idea she was given and what she was told to expect. The contracts will be well worded and as such I am sure they have thought of many areas to wriggle out of especially if the surgery was undertaken under the umbrella of a larger company.
Establish exactly what it is that your partner is not happy with and see if it a) falls within what is deemed a reasonable outcome or not and b) is there provision to alter it.

I dont know the first thing about a boob job and I am going to resist my urge to make any of my more kevin and perry like comments about boobs ... but I do know one thing about surgery and treatment planning. put 5 practitioners in a room and you end up with 10 different treatment plans and management strategies. I wouldnt pin too much on them doing the 2 procedures together. If it went further then you would get 10 surgeons saying they DO do them that way and 10 saying they dont and both camps equally being able to offer evidence of successful outcomes.

The key as I see it is a) look at the contracts and b) establish exactly what isnt liked with the outcome. Hope that helps

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newtotrading wrote: »

Glad your op went well, and your pleased with the result, and i'm glad you wasn't forced into it like some women are (or all in the case of some posters on here)
Will keep you updated on our story and thanks for your help

I think anyone who has actually sat in a room with a Patient Advisor, then a Surgeon and in my case on 4 seperate occasions whilst doing all my research, would realise that this does not happen :rotfl:

Not to mention the Anaethetist, Nurse and Surgeon on the day all questioning your motives and that you are 100% sure!

Maybe Years ago but not now, they know

Good luck! Just out of interest... It wasn't the Hospital Group was it? See so much bad press about them on before mentioned forums.

Nicki

newtotrading wrote: »

Your inital post, along with Nikki's basically shot me down in flames for being supportive, and caring about my partner.

I made ONE comment in a long and detailed post, and it was far from shooting you down in flames. Your reaction to it is very interesting though.

I am just narked to be honest that over 700 people have viewed this thread to get a kick out of thinking about a boob job, several have posted meaningless posts on it, and only a very small number, of which I am one and the first, has actually given you any worthwhile advice on what you have asked, and yet I am the bad guy.

I shall leave you to the voyeurs now then. Good luck to your girlfriend with the appointment.

EssexHebridean

In fairness Nicki there has been very few comments from people just readig the thread for a "Phwoargh!" moment - those sort of people usually comment, and it wasn't only the OP who felt you were implying something out of line in your first post either was it - the majority of those who came after you said the same! As for the advice, you did indeed offer some excellent advise and input, but I suspect the OP and his girlfriend may well have been too hurt and upset by the conclusions you jumped to in your first paragraph to read much further.

newtotrading

Hello again all

Right, an update. We (by that I mean my girlfriend, and I went along for morale support, there was no arm twisted behind her back, no gun to the head just in case the feminists are out again) and saw a new consultant, a lady. She seemed really nice, saw the problem straight away and was shocked. Filled in some forms agreeing to corrective surgery and said would call my gf back with detials etc this Tuesday. No call recieved by 3pm so Gf called the clinic, was told the lady was not in today, but in Friday (today). Gf phoned this morning 9.30am, was told the lady is in surgery and is very busy, 10 ops today and the receptionist said she will be calling my gf back, not the consultant.

Is this acceptable?

Gf was told her in detail what was wrong at the consultation, including measurements and other bits, also was told she has a capsular contracture in one implant/breast. We are both worried sick, and obviously want it putting right, as soon as possible.

Thanks again everyone

newtotrading

All

Phoned again yesterday morning (Monday) was told would be caled back later in the day, no call. Gf phoned back at 3pm and was told would be called back before they closed yesterday, no call. Getting increasingly frustrated, and concerned, has anyone any advice please?

Flyboy152

newtotrading wrote: »

All

Phoned again yesterday morning (Monday) was told would be caled back later in the day, no call. Gf phoned back at 3pm and was told would be called back before they closed yesterday, no call. Getting increasingly frustrated, and concerned, has anyone any advice please?

I think it is about time for your partner to start proceedings against them. Personally, if they screwed up with the initial procedure, I wouldn't be comfortable letting them have another go.

She needs to prepare a letter to them spelling out everything that has gone on and listing everything in chronological order, this letter should be entitled, "Letter before Action." Include telephone conversations, e-mails and letters. She needs to tell them that she no longer have confidence in their ability to carry out their duty of care towards her and that she expects them to compensate her for the full amount it will cost to have it put right by a skilled and competent practitioner. Then she needs to calculate what expenses you have both incurred and she also needs to quantify the monetary costs of the inconvenience, pain and distress this has caused. This "Letter before Action," might be enough to spur them into action and she might need to take any further action.

Once she has done this and they ignore her threats, she will need to instruct solicitors to act on her behalf (she could self-represent, but this might not be the wisest option). But, before she decides on what representation she needs, she should go to a solicitor who will give her a fixed fee interview, they will examine the evidence and let her know if she has a case. Her first port of call should be her household or motor insurers; it is very likely that she has some sort of legal insurance, which will this eventuality.