Not happy with results of breast augmentation

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OP I think it is lovely you are supporting your partner through this. I myself have had a breast augmentation and I was single and did it for myself! I have heard of the 2 operations being done together regulary so don't think this is an issue. A lot will depend on who she had the Op with and their aftercare policy. Have you posted on any of the specific Cosmetic Surgery forums (So Feminine, Breast Buddies, MYA forum?) You will find people on these in similar situations who will offer advice and support. Guess I was lucky, I got a fab result, no complications and can hand on heart say it was the best thing I ever did!! Good Luck :j:j:j

Flyboy152

Nicki wrote: »

"we" don't have an appointment with the clinic, and "we" don't stand anywhere! The appointment is for your girlfriend, and it is entirely her decision whether she wants further surgery or not, irrespective of who paid for this surgery or encouraged her to have it in the first place.

As for remedies, that depends on many factors. Was the contract with a clinic or an individual surgeon. Was the surgery negligent, or just the results not what she would have hoped. Was the outcome she now has explained to her as a possibility of the surgery at the outset? Would she be happy for the same surgeon to operated on her again to try to correct it?

Those are the main legal issues. She also needs to consider whether a further operation could make things worse not better, whether she wants further surgical pain and recovery period, whether she can afford more time off work for corrective surgery.

Personally, if I were your girlfriend, I'd go along in a fortnight and just listen to what the new surgeon says, and think about it carefully for a few weeks after that. Then if I wanted more surgery, and the clinic was not offering to do it for free I would explore with a lawyer whether there was any case to force them to do so, and if not, to require the original surgeon to do it free of charge or pay for someone else to do it. I wouldn't be going in to a medical consultation to fight the odds, as I wouldn't then be getting the best medical advice about the situation, and the doctor you see will probably not in any case have the authority to agree free treatment, this will be decided by the owner of the clinic.

McKneff wrote: »

Being female, i thought the same thing

'What's all this 'we' business'

And does she know youre posting on here about her? Its her business to be honest

Well, perhaps it's because he supports his partner in everything she does and wants to make sure that he is there for her when she needs him. It can't be had both ways when men are told that they don't show enough support to their partners and then in another breath being told that they should ignore their needs.

Elle7

What has made her unhappy? Some things are fixable, such as size for example, but AFAIK most places won't fix this for free, although possibly slightly reduced, unless they made the mistake. Other things, such as rippling, are much harder to fix, and a second operation may not fix this. Scarring etc could be made worse by a second operation.

The solution depends on the problem, I suppose. My sister had quite a lot of trouble with her op, but its hard to be specific with advice without knowing why you are unhappy.

McKneff

newtotrading wrote: »

Whats with all the mens haters out today? Like I told Nikki, 'we' are a couple, so we work together, she's not a feminist or man hater and we deal with all things as a couple

She does indeed know that i'm positng on here, in fact she asked me to for your information.

Just out of interest, why does 'being female' mean you automatically 'think the same thing'? I'm intrigued as to why being female is an excuse to assume all men bully their partners into surgery.

I said 'being female' because 99% of people on the boards, because of my user name, presume Im male, I have no idea why, you tell me.
Anyway, as far as I can see there are no 'men haters' Ive been married to the male of the species for 43 years:D and I still love him to bits.
Having said all that, I do feel for you and your OH, and I wish you both all the best and that things turn out well.:)

EssexHebridean

McKneff wrote: »

I said 'being female' because 99% of people on the boards, because of my user name, presume Im male, I have no idea why, you tell me.
Anyway, as far as I can see there are no 'men haters' Ive been married to the male of the species for 43 years:D and I still love him to bits.
Having said all that, I do feel for you and your OH, and I wish you both all the best and that things turn out well.:)

Perhaps re-read your original post that the OP was commenting on then? I hav to say that I read your and Nicki's posts and felt that you were bang out of order. I think you both owe the OP and his girlfriend an apology TBH.

Newtotrading I hope things work out for your GF - it's good that she has the support she clearly does from you - and I'm certain that she realises and really appreciates it too.

Nicki

Sorry, but no apology coming from this quarter!

I stand by my position that it is the girlfriend's decision only as to whether to go for further surgery. OP can be supportive but he shouldn't get any say in this, and I bet if he accompanies his girlfriend to the appointment and is pressing for more surgery, that the consultant they see will also want to be satisfied that she has made the decision without any external pressure. And just a lucky guess obviously that OP paid towards the surgery...

I gave a lot of advice in my first post, and how the OP chooses to present himself at the appointment is as important as the legal set up to the outcome. But if he wants to take umbrage and ignore the lot, that's up to him.

welshdent

Nicki the point I personally made is you have no idea if it's the girlfriends wishes or not. I and others felt you were coming on a tad strong to the op. Based entirely on what the op said you can not make the assumptions you have made. Now if they came on and said "I got the missus to get her boobs done and now I don't like them" I'd agree with you entirely - but they didn't. I do think you gave good advice and personally I am really not a fan of the way society seems to encourage such procedures - I won't use the term treatments because that implies something needed fixing. I simply feel taking a few words on an Internet forum and jumping to the conclusion that the boyfriend is the driving force is unfair. My best mates new wife will soon be on her 3rd pair of implants. The first 2 were placed before they met but he will now be "helping" fund the 3rd because of their joint accounts etc. That doesnt mean he is encouraging her or pressurising her. In fact she is the one very much wanting them re done!

Flyboy152

Nicki wrote: »

Sorry, but no apology coming from this quarter!

I stand by my position that it is the girlfriend's decision only as to whether to go for further surgery. OP can be supportive but he shouldn't get any say in this, and I bet if he accompanies his girlfriend to the appointment and is pressing for more surgery, that the consultant they see will also want to be satisfied that she has made the decision without any external pressure. And just a lucky guess obviously that OP paid towards the surgery...

I gave a lot of advice in my first post, and how the OP chooses to present himself at the appointment is as important as the legal set up to the outcome. But if he wants to take umbrage and ignore the lot, that's up to him.

Yeah.......right!! You have got to be kidding, haven't you?

newtotrading

Deleted_User wrote: »

OP I think it is lovely you are supporting your partner through this. I myself have had a breast augmentation and I was single and did it for myself! I have heard of the 2 operations being done together regulary so don't think this is an issue. A lot will depend on who she had the Op with and their aftercare policy. Have you posted on any of the specific Cosmetic Surgery forums (So Feminine, Breast Buddies, MYA forum?) You will find people on these in similar situations who will offer advice and support. Guess I was lucky, I got a fab result, no complications and can hand on heart say it was the best thing I ever did!! Good Luck :j:j:j

Thanks Joanne, had a quick look on the more specific forums LYB in particular but will try those other ones you mentioned (obviously I will clear it with my gf first, and get her written consent, in front of an independant witness to keep Nikki and McNeff happy :rotfl:)
Glad your op went well, and your pleased with the result, and i'm glad you wasn't forced into it like some women are (or all in the case of sopme posters on here)
Will keep you updated on our story and thanks for your help

newtotrading

McKneff wrote: »

I said 'being female' because 99% of people on the boards, because of my user name, presume Im male, I have no idea why, you tell me.
Anyway, as far as I can see there are no 'men haters' Ive been married to the male of the species for 43 years:D and I still love him to bits.
Having said all that, I do feel for you and your OH, and I wish you both all the best and that things turn out well.:)

People 'assuming' your male on these boards has nothing to do with it, flyboy didnt 'assume' I forced her into it too just because he's a guy did he? Your inital post, along with Nikki's basically shot me down in flames for being supportive, and caring about my partner. DO NOT assume things about me please, as only 2 people here have, and you've both been told to cool down by pretty much every other poster. Whatever your probelm is with me caring about my gf, or wanting her to be happy can stay your problem. I have absolutely no idea why you assumed i'd forced or bullied her into anything?