Can NOK get an injunction on behalf of someone with MH Issues?

pinkcandyflossprincess

I think the best thing your friends oh can do is establish his contact with the children first through the courts.
The courts have the power to appoint Physciatrists etc and social workers to get involved if it is in the best interests of the children involved.
I did briefly post on your other thread before but not since ive read a few more developments.
The fact that they are Jehovahs Witnesses really rang alarm bells with me- I have been through something very similar (my exs family were jehovahs). I had never been involved with those type of people before and asumed they were just religeous people.
However to my detriment i found out thats only a minor factor where these people are concerned.
Im not saying that they are all nutjobs- but the family i got involved with was. I have spent 6 years in the courts against my ex and his family and only recently has it came to an end due to him getting a new girlfriend and deciding he doesnt want to see the kids now as hes going to have his OWN baby (as told to the courts:eek:)
gong briefly into his family history they had all been involved in incest, and incestuous rape amongst siblings- non school education, lack of socialization outside of home, mental health issues etc. obviously i didnt find that out till too late and had to escape to a refuge in the end due to them trying to kidnap my baby and trying to beat me up- phone calls to police saying i was schitzophrenic, abusing oh etc-when it was actually him..not me:(
thankfully ive come through it all with my lovely kids but it did nearly break me at some points- The Jehovahs faith covers up abuse very well, they are encouaged not to seek outside help with family issues that should be dealt with by social services etc as the pastor? deals with it instead. they do seem quite happy to phone the police though when it suits them if its about others:eek: they are also from my experience very good at acting in fornt of others with their "meek god fearing folk routine"- outside though its a different matter.
I had an excellent solicitor in wales who had experience of domestic/ mental abuse and of jehovahs families but even she was horrified by what they and he had done.
please get this man to seek legal advice asap- the kids need safety and security , i really think if things are as bad as you say then a visit from social services is in order, they can asess the whole family setup as it sounds like your friend is losing it rapidly and her family are going to be jumping into her shoes with the kids..so where does that leave her oh?
good luck xx

blue_monkey_2

Thanks for asking RR, I have seen her twice today and she seems fine. She has asked her family to leave her alone and been told no alcohol in any circumstances by the councillor. She disappeared last night and came back at 1am in the end.

However, after this mornings call I took some time out from the situaion. I had a good cry over it all and then took a deep breath and have decided to not ask her anything else. I have told her she is here if she needs me, the husband knows where I am if he needs me. If the kids are not collected from school the husband will be told. SS told me to report her missing if she goes missing or if her family take her. If her family roll up and try to remove the children again, the husband will be called (although they would still need to let them go, hoping he can get there before they are ready).

So, i have decided to stop asking her stuff, anything, she knows where I am if she needs to talk to me about anything or needs some time out. I do not want to push her away so she feels that her only friend nags her whenever she sees her. So tonight we talked about *stuff*. Random stuff like TV programs and normal stuff we would chat about when this was not going on. Hopefully the normaility will be good for her. And I'll keep an eye on her that way. I have tried, hopefully a record has been made so if there was ever a concern, that record is there.

I've not seen her husband, if there was a problem he would have been here, I will pass the ino on that I have, someone else suggested it might be worth him reporting it too. It is really hard but, for now, I have done all I can. I was really upset and disappointed, I thought that they would be interested, but maybe she is just another in a line of people that ned help and she is not as important as someone else who needs help.

Thank you for asking. I am watching and will go back to them and the police if it starts getting ou of hand again. But, touch wood, they have left her alone today. We have the weekend to come and we know what happened last weekend.....!!

blue_monkey_2

PCFP, I know nothing about the JW but you could be describing her family. OMG. I am sorry that you had to go through that. I have told him that he needed to get onto his solicitor today but have not spoken to him today (felt no need to tbh), I do not think they know so much about the religion either. That is scary.

pinkcandyflossprincess

blue_monkey wrote: »

PCFP, I know nothing about the JW but you could be describing her family. OMG. I am sorry that you had to go through that. I have told him that he needed to get onto his solicitor today but have not spoken to him today (felt no need to tbh), I do not think they know so much about the religion either. That is scary.

I had the elders (high up in the chain of events i think) knock at my door one day- i told them exactly what i knew about the ex his family and other church members.....they have never been back again:T:rotfl:
I have been into detail once on here about what i went through but its too lengthy (and upsetting)to go back and do it all again but honestly they are very scary people, I wouldnt want my child brought up by them..nooo way:(

blue_monkey_2

No, I would not expect you too PCF. Just glad you managed to get out. xx