Am I right?

PudseyDB

I dont understand why you would want to refuse him access - he isnt threatening you in any way is he? From what I understand - he simply ignores you, so why does that bother you so much? Do you speak to everyone who lives or works there?

As long as he fulfils his job then I cant see why you keep complaining about him. Certainly by making repeated complaints, he's more likely to keep his distance.

How does your husband get on with him?

soolin

Goodness, your complaint seems a little malicious to be frank, is there any other reason you haven't stated why you want to get this man in trouble?

With any luck though the TRustees will see that this is a frivilous complaint and merely treat you with caution in future.

ceebeeby

I can understand that you perhaps find it uncomfortable that this man is at most less than polite, but I can't see from your post that he is guilty of anything other than bad manners - certainly not misconduct which appears to be your view.

If you are genuinely not comfortable with the man in your home, then perhaps you could request to the trustees that a different maintenance man come to do any repairs, however, you need to accept whatever their response is, you can be sure that the man in question is probably equally if not more uncomfortable about coming in - especially if he knows you video him / record his actions.

If you genuinely wish to garner a better relationship with him, then if he does come, offer him tea and biscuits and a friendly smile and let him get on with his job without question or comment.

Good luck

Oliver14

I agree with others Ceebeeby has given good advice. I hope you can see how over the top your post sounds. You have made various formal complaints because someone has not said hello in the corridor!

If I was your trustees it looks like you are the problem and have a vendetta against this man. Recording him certainly hasn't helped. As Soolin says your complaint sound frivolous.

You state you have suffered from depression. One of the symptoms of depression is blowing small things all out of proportion. I have been there and done that. So it may be worth a visit to your GP.

Try not to take offense to peoples replies here and take it as it is meant. You need to try and get through this and move on. Some people don't like other people and have to co exist that's what you need to do.

I don't like my neighbour. She doesn't speak to me even if I say hello. So I just get on with my life as it's her problem not mine. If I made a huge issue of it the only person who would suffer would be me. So you need to do the same thing before you seem to be malicious to the man in question as the only person who will suffer is yourself.

pmduk

You should only worry if/when this becomes a case of the guy refusing to undertake repairs to your home.

soolin

Oliver14 wrote: »

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You state you have suffered from depression. One of the symptoms of depression is blowing small things all out of proportion. I have been there and done that. So it may be worth a visit to your GP.

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I missed that bit as I was struggling with the block of text, but you make a very good point Oliver14. It might go some way to explain why the OP sees it one way and every other person sees it differently.

OP please don't take this the wrong way but maybe consider going to your GP and explain that you seem overly sensative and worry that yoru depression is returning. He may well be able to suggest some forms of relaxation therapy or other ways to manage stress and anxiety before it gets out of hand. Depression is a horrible thing, don't let it creep up on you again.

Annieuk75

Can I say thank you for your very honest and frank replies. Can I also apologise for the long rant, when I started I couldn't stop, also after reading it again parts of it do not make sense. I would therefore like to highlight a few points.

Firstly, all staff are trained to make the first acknowledgement and greet the tenants. My husband is only aware that someone is approaching him, not who. he can walk past me if he hasn't seen what i am wearing that day. Is it very unnerving if someone does not say hello or does not respond when you say it first.

Secondly, I agree with you all: I don't care if he doesn't speak to me. What bothers me is the lies. I never wanted to make an official complaint. I approached the deputy manager to have a quiet word with him, it was management that asked me to make an official complaint. The point is, when he was first asked he should have admitted that he ignored me, then we could have sat down all together and dealt with it. The problem I have is that he continues to tell senior management that he talks to me, yet point blank ignores me. My husband and little boy held the door open for him the other day, and he wasn't polite enough to say thank you. This is someone who used to come over and talk to us. Used to have a chat with my little boy.

Thirdly, the incident with the neighbour. I had a problem with a neighbour's dog jumping up at my sons bedroom window. (we are on the ground floor) I tried to reason with the neighbour, who swore at me and shouted. I then got upset and shouted back (I know I shouldn't have risen to it, but I was trying to protect my child). The maintenance man only observed the end of this and judged me (as many of you have). He also never observed the same neighbour sticking the 'v' sign at my sons bedroom window.

I hope you can understand where I am coming from, this is not a playground game. I just don't like people who are rude and lie about things I have said.

nomoneytoday

You can't please all of the people all of the time.
Some people disagree with my views or opinions, and I with them. That's their loss

Tiddlywinks

Annieuk75 wrote: »

Firstly, all staff are trained to make the first acknowledgement and greet the tenants. My husband is only aware that someone is approaching him, not who. he can walk past me if he hasn't seen what i am wearing that day. Is it very unnerving if someone does not say hello or does not respond when you say it first.

You do not have a visual impairment so you know who it is - the worker does not want to engage with you - just accept that!

Annieuk75 wrote: »

... I had a problem with a neighbour's dog jumping up at my sons bedroom window. (we are on the ground floor) I tried to reason with the neighbour, who swore at me and shouted. I then got upset and shouted back (I know I shouldn't have risen to it, but I was trying to protect my child). The maintenance man only observed the end of this and judged me (as many of you have). He also never observed the same neighbour sticking the 'v' sign at my sons bedroom window.

This is all in the past - just let it go, move on....

As to judging you, that's an interesting phrase you have used - no-one has judged you here, they have given an opinion. Indeed, you invited an opinion... the title of this thread is "Am I right?".

Annieuk75 wrote: »

I hope you can understand where I am coming from, this is not a playground game. I just don't like people who are rude and lie about things I have said.

You have made this issue into a long running dispute and you are now having to live with the fall out. You need to see this for what it really is and not keep harping back to the past.

You are not seeing this rationally and this may be indicative of something that you may wish to discuss with your GP.

Annieuk75

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

You do not have a visual impairment so you know who it is - the worker does not want to engage with you - just accept that!


Fair comment...so is it acceptable to treat my husband like that?