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Triple P (positive parenting practices)
life_in_termoil
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Has anyone else been on the Triple P course? How was it and has it helped your family?
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In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:
In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:
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life_in_termoil wrote: »Has anyone else been on the Triple P course? How was it and has it helped your family?
yes, yes, yes!! Absolutely fabulous.
It really did change our lives - i now some will find that hard to understand, but it did. Our 2nd son was very hard work - so unlike his siblings. I got to the point where i would not take him out in public, he really was that bad. 8 weeks after starting classes (after 8 2hr PPP sessions) i can honestly, hand on heart say we had (and still do have) a different boy.
I thought it would be a waste of time, and after my 1st session i said i wasnt going back as it was a waste of time lol.
It all seems very very basic, and yes, maybe it is (we had successfully tried many methods with the other children but ds2 broke the mould)
You need to work at it - a few sessions arent going to make any differance if you dont foolow through at home, and at points i felt his behaviour was becomig more challenging - not less, however, by the end of it i couldnt thank the course leaders enough.
This morning i have taken my ds2 to play group, the supermarket and the park all with no (massive) issues. Of course, hes a child and does throw a wobbily sometimes but now i deal with it quickly and effectively using PPP techniques.
We did the course 12 months ago, so its not a 'flash in the pan' route - its long term planning
Infact - i am so much in awe of it i plan on becoming a PPP tutor within the next 12 months or so
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you do need to floow though at home - everyone needs to be 'onside' ie dads , grannies etc
how old is your lo?0 -
i did something similar a few years ago, was called something else then, it did help but not to the extent i needed it to, it did show some other issues my DD had that i could not help with
some people find these courses can be patronising, it can feel like you are being acused of being a bad parent, but its so far from the truth
imo these courses can only work if the parent is willing to take the advice, good and bad, and stick at it
my friend also did this course she has a very different DS now
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Thanks for the replies my kids are teenagers!!! 15 and 13
Both often refuse to go to school, 15 year old often has "temper tantrums" and smashes the house, 13 year old tells me he wishes I was dead, often threatens to jump out of the window, opens the car door when driving them to school etc its all very very mind numbing and demoralising. Hopefully it WILL get better.Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
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Ive also got a 22 year old and a 19 year old who have never ever acted the way the other 2 do!!Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:0 -
Sounds awful! It may be worth asking if your local PC can have a word with your children. I know that some local bobbies are really up for it and see it as a way to cut down on future crimes. The truth is though, that your children are not too young for court or youth detention centres so they really need to buck their ideas up and stop behaving in that way. Do you know what has triggered their behaviour?0
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social services, marriage breakdown, moving countries and a complete breakdown of all discipline.Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:0 -
minimoneysaver wrote: »Sounds awful! It may be worth asking if your local PC can have a word with your children.
Police have been round on 1 occasion when she trashed the house and have had words with her and i wouldnt hesitate to call them again. (so far she hasnt trashed anything of mine since being spoken to by the PC). She can do what she wants to her own stuff as I wont be the 1 replacing it.Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:0 -
life_in_termoil wrote: »Thanks for the replies my kids are teenagers!!! 15 and 13
Both often refuse to go to school, 15 year old often has "temper tantrums" and smashes the house, 13 year old tells me he wishes I was dead, often threatens to jump out of the window, opens the car door when driving them to school etc its all very very mind numbing and demoralising. Hopefully it WILL get better.
I would say you have nothing to lose by going on a triple P course.
I am trained to deliver triple p and i have to say out of all the parenting programes i would say this is the best. it is about empowering parents, arming them with techniques that they can use when they feel they fit. If you decided to go for it you have to stick at it and do all the sessions. The first few sessions may seem like a waste of time but they need to cover positive praise etc as a foundation.
My advice is to go for it! You will learn some techniques and may develop a support network with other parents going through simular difficulties.
Good luck:T:j Proud mum to Jade age 10 years and Baby Ellie born Christmas Day:eek: with a broke heart
Proven to be a little fighter and battling on with her heart condition :j
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life_in_termoil wrote: »Police have been round on 1 occasion when she trashed the house and have had words with her and i wouldnt hesitate to call them again. (so far she hasnt trashed anything of mine since being spoken to by the PC). She can do what she wants to her own stuff as I wont be the 1 replacing it.
i agree strongly with your actions. sounds like they have worked to some degree.:j Proud mum to Jade age 10 years and Baby Ellie born Christmas Day:eek: with a broke heart Proven to be a little fighter and battling on with her heart condition :j
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