Can l be arrested for this?

Stella66

IronWolf wrote: »

You wont have criminal proceedings against you, but he could sue you for the amount as you have no right to his belongings.

I would write to him, with proof, giving him 2 weeks to arrange for his property to be removed from your house or you will dispose of it as appropriate. Then you have a defence should he try to sue you.

I left a message on his phone, send a message on facebook, phoned his friends who he call regularly, even called her cousins, sister and his dad who m l knew he contacts. My question now is about the balance still owing, l know he will turn up at some point because somehow he always thinks he can manipulate me. That is when l want to get the car keys, but not sure about how the cars TDA someone mentioned here applies.

Kohoutek

Stella66 wrote: »

Thanks all for you advice. He has not turned up yet or made any contact despite the fact that l have sent messages on his facebook, email and mobile. Anyway l have now sold all the items in the flat, changed the locks and given them back to my cousin.

That's a very stupid and reckless thing to do. I hope you know that the fact he has not responded to your messages is not a defence to theft or unlawful eviction, however unlikely you think it is that he will report you to the police.

Egg_custard_2

Stella66 wrote: »

The rent, l suppose l have to let it go because it will raise tenancy issues.

What does this mean? If you mean you don't want to pursue unpaid rent because that could prove your ex had a verbal tenancy agreement, I would have thought he could prove that anyway if he wanted to because of any previous payments, any bills / letters to the address etc.

You said in your first post that he went without even telling you. How did you find out? Did he tell you he didn't intend to return? I'm sorry he owes you money, but surely there are better ways of getting it back. If you're not sure how to go about claiming it back through the courts I'm sure you can get some help with it.

jjlandlord

Stella66 wrote: »

He will put them on the table while he ask why the keys to the flat are not working, then l can get them. I wont physical grab them from him because l wont be able to. But l can get them from him one way or the other. The question is can l keep the car? I cant claim the money through the cause because l dont know where to send the papers, so if l keep the car he can bring the money and get his car back.

You will end up in hospital, and frankly you will have deserved it.

taxsaver

Whilst at the time of your first post I had some sympathy with your position, I do not any longer and I suspect many here will agree with me.

You appear to me to be a very vindictive character with a malicious streak and I think he is well shot of you. The old saying of 'a woman scorned...' springs to mind!

I do hope that he does return and that he follows correct procedure in bringing justice to bear on you for your actions.

Stella66

taxsaver wrote: »

Whilst at the time of your first post I had some sympathy with your position, I do not any longer and I suspect many here will agree with me.

You appear to me to be a very vindictive character with a malicious streak and I think he is well shot of you. The old saying of 'a woman scorned...' springs to mind!

I do hope that he does return and that he follows correct procedure in bringing justice to bear on you for your actions.

Sorry but lm not looking for sympathy here but advice from those who know. Call me what you want, but you have no idea of what lm going through personally and financial right now.
We have a 5 year daughter who is epileptic, the reason why l had to help him out was for my daughter's sake. We have been living together for 8 years, and we broke up. If l wanted him l could have kept him in a room in my house, but rather l wanted him to move on.
Its not his facebook affair that worries me, its the fact that he owes me money, he had the opportunity to pay but he choose to run instead. He did not even tell him he was going away, mutual friends told me.
Our daughter had a seizure on Tuesday evening, l have two other children. He would normally go in the ambulance with hereand l would look after the other two. On Tuesday, even the ambulance people didnt know what to do, so they had to call for a second ambulance to carry the other children.
Had he at least told me he was going l would have made arrangements so l know what to do. So its fair enough to tidy up the past and move on. If l kept his stuff in the house, that would have meant more bills, especially not knowing when he will be coming.

Yorkie1

There are many people on here who know and have advised you on here that what you did was wrong and could well get you into serious trouble. Yet you went ahead and did it anyway.

Now you plan to continue the course of conduct, using illegal methods to gain retribution.

Fine example you're setting to your children.

Other people have to manage without a partner's support, through bereavement or split up of relationships. Most of them don't resort to criminal behaviour.

You just lost any sympathy from me with your self-righteous attitude. Your child's illness has nothing whatsoever to do with your previous decision to go ahead with this so don't use them as justification.

Kohoutek

Stella66 wrote: »

Sorry but lm not looking for sympathy here but advice from those who know.

Why did you ignore the advice "from those who know" then?

geoffky

you appear to be a nutter...why oh why did you not listen to reason....you reap what you sow..

taxsaver

geoffky wrote: »

you appear to be a nutter...why oh why did you not listen to reason....you reap what you sow..

... we can but hope!