Advice please...

CarrieBee

I wouldnt worry, like everyone else is suggesting have a girly wedding night in and try your dress on so they can all see it, they can all have some input into what dresses they want and accessories etc, its your day dont feel bad for anyone else.

I have committed a worse sin, Ive bought my 4 bridesmaids dresses without any of them seeing them or trying them on! lol. its my day, Im paying for them and they were a bargain and exactly what I wanted so it was a case of being moneysaving and job done, sorry girls.. I might try and do what has been suggested and have a girls night in to let them all try them on together, nice idea

Scotsbride

as others have said invite them around to show them the dress maybe you couldf go shoe or acessory shopping so they feel included

dawnebabe

I had a kind of similar thing. I saw an advert for a sale in a local bridal shop, went spur of the moment with my daughter, who will be bridesmaid, saw a bargain Maggie dress & fell in love with it, bought it there & then. Went to tell my mum, who was upset that I'd not taken her along, but then tried the dress on for her & all was forgiven!

I'm sure your bridesmaids will be fine after a 'dress showing off evening' too xx

MrsAtobe

Umm, remind me again whose wedding day it is? If you've found 'the dress' personally, if I was one of your bidesmaids, I'd be glad for you! And rather selfishly, that you could now concentrate on the BM's dresses .

becca0417

Definitely not a problem. One of my bms only came dress shopping once out of the 5 or so times I went. I agree about showing them, bet it is lovely

floss2

I also had bought my dress before we'd set the date, so don't worry - at least you will have all the fun of BM dress shopping with them instead!

White_Sapphire

My bestfriend chose her dress without mewhen I was MoH - she went with just her mum, whichI thought was great as they don't always geton andneededa bonding exercise! I was just delightedthat she foundher dress, asI'm sure your bridesmaids will be too. I second (third? fourth?) the idea ofa dressshowingoffparty followed by accessories shopping!

Have fun xx

Hadley1

Thank you all so much for your kind words and advice.

Maybe you are right, I should bite the bullet and tell them. Just explaing that I want to keep the dress secret. But this brings me to another dilema...:(

As I say i have 4 bridesmaids - my SIL2B, best friend, Step daughter 2 b and my neice. There is no problem with the 1st two, if I tell them I want to keep it secret, they will understand.

My neice is okay as far as she goes, but I do have problems with her parents (especially teh way they have acted over my dad passing). I know if she knows anything she will rush off and tell her mum and it would be everywhere.

Also, my step daughter is lovely, but just opens her mouth and speaks. I am really torm whether to tell her or not. I really want her to be involve, but even if I tell her its a secret, I think she may blab without thinking. Do you think i would be a terrible step mum to be if I just tell my friend and SIL2B???

Sorry for the long posts, but so much going on at the mo..sorting out my dad's bit, questions over what is happening about both mine and my partner jobs oh and, of course, planning a wedding. :rotfl:

sammy_wheeler

ok- if they they tell ppl whats the worse thing that could happen?- people will know you have a dress yes-- but they wont know anything about it- what style it is etc.

i think if you tell a couple but not the others then it may cause more rows

are you really bothered if people know that you have a dress- because that is all they will know- they wont know what colour, style etc

you dont have to show them the dress- just sya that you have it so dont need to go shopping-- but would they like to be involved nearer the time with accessiers (sp!) etc


seems like you have loads to deal with

Hadley1

sammy_wheeler wrote: »

ok- if they they tell ppl whats the worse thing that could happen?- people will know you have a dress yes-- but they wont know anything about it- what style it is etc.

i think if you tell a couple but not the others then it may cause more rows

are you really bothered if people know that you have a dress- because that is all they will know- they wont know what colour, style etc

you dont have to show them the dress- just sya that you have it so dont need to go shopping-- but would they like to be involved nearer the time with accessiers (sp!) etc


seems like you have loads to deal with

Thanks for the advice. I think I have confused myself and everyone.

I never thought about just saying I had a dress... I was thinking I would have to show them.

Seem to be just going round in circles in my head at the mo...

I suppose as well, I really don't want step daughter to know as she will tell her mum - doe that all make sense??????