whos invited not invited

Disney_Pluto

Mojisola wrote: »

Your Mum will just have to say that the couple are organising the wedding themselves and she doesn't have any say in it.

I'm surprised that they have 120 "friends" to invite - I couldn't raise anywhere near that number!

Thank you for that. Maybe we are just worrying that people will get really offended when they will actually be more understanding.

I dont know 120 people let alone friends ha ha.

Disney_Pluto

trying_2_b_good wrote: »

The fact that he doesn't speak to them on the phone & they're not blood relatives is probably the reason why he's not planning on inviting them (esp. if it's £50+ per head, as many weddings are!).

Have you asked him if he's inviting these people, or are you just assuming he's not? It may be he just hasn't thought of them?

The posts above seem harsh now - but I'm sure you'll agree with them once you're engaged and planning your wedding!!

I guess its not exactly that they are not invited because as you say its like £50+ per head so its understandable they dont want to invite people they dont talk to often its just worrying that these people will be upset they arent invited. Ive only ever been to one wedding so maybe people dont just expect to be invited?? Dont really know.

Mum saw the list of people and just said oh so so and sos not coming and he just said nope. So mum obviously was just like oh ok. As ive said its ultimately up to them its their big day no one elses.

trying_2_b_good

It's a problem that most people face unfortunately. I'm sure they'll be disappointed and would like to go - but I'm also sure that they will understand and will look forward to hearing all about it & seeing the pictures!

Disney_Pluto

trying_2_b_good wrote: »

It's a problem that most people face unfortunately. I'm sure they'll be disappointed and would like to go - but I'm also sure that they will understand and will look forward to hearing all about it & seeing the pictures!

Hopefully that will be the case. I dont know how people normally respond to this sort of thing.

Thanks for some of the answers. I feel as if its come across as us trying to change the guest list and thats not the case at all.

sammy_wheeler

dont think the above posts were harsh- just think we are all trying to say the same thing- which is its not ur wedding- and they have only just got engaged- maybe havent thought of the ppl who u and ur mum feel should be invited- or dont feel they should be there as hardly see them-- either way- i think just leave them to sort it.
hope we have helped in some way

McKneff

To be honest, I think its too early to even think about it if they have only been engaged a week. I cant imagine for a moment that his
grandmother wont be included so just wait and tell your mum to stop worrying about it.

Guest lists change so just wait and see.

sammy_wheeler

i did my guest list- only provisional- but its not changed- within about a month- we got engaged in feb last year- and i wanted to see rough numbers so i could see what size of venue-- then booked it all 1st july- and went looking for venues in the june


yes its early for them to do a guest list- but if they are excited then they will do hehe

Disney_Pluto

sammy_wheeler wrote: »

i did my guest list- only provisional- but its not changed- within about a month- we got engaged in feb last year- and i wanted to see rough numbers so i could see what size of venue-- then booked it all 1st july- and went looking for venues in the june


yes its early for them to do a guest list- but if they are excited then they will do hehe

They are really really excited as we all are. They have done the same as you have done a guest list so know rough numbers so they can find a venue.

Good luck with your wedding.

PootleFlump_3

Whilst I agree that its nobodys business but theirs, given that you parents are contributing to the wedding I would have thought that your brother could have at least said that their contribution can go towards X number of people that your parents would like to be there. I dont for one minute think they should make plans just to please everyone else but think that would be a nice gesture. We are paying for our own wedding but my mum and dad are giving us a contribution. My mum would like her 2 best friends to be there and my dad wants his best friend and whilst they wouldnt be overly upset if I said no, its something I want to do so Ive said no problem whatsoever (which I would do even if they werent giving us a contribution). Everyone is different I guess.

Mama_Cat

Just a thought - perhaps the prospective bride has a large family or very close friends she would like to be there too? So there has to be some give and take on both sides.

As previous posters have said, guest lists do change. We've got less than four weeks to go and we're still trying to finalise ours!