child biting.

davsidipp

:mad:hi my grandson goes to a day nursery every day 8.30 to 11.30 and really likes it but here is the problem another child who attends the nursery has been biting not just little nips but full on sink your teeth in jobs.the first time he did it to my grandson he bit him on his chest and the bite was so severe it lasted 2 weeks this bite was through a t shirt .last week he bit his arm and this week he bit his hand.nursery said they were speaking to his mum again but i do feel this is getting out of hand i said i was angry and it needs to stop .just add this child is doing it to others as well.the first time he did it the mother said it was because her son did not like other children cuddling her son but the other times were due to him not getting his own way with toys.please any thoughts on this matter as it is getting me a little annoyed at my grandson being bitten thanks julie.

go_cat

As a mum when my Ds was around 2 I was on the receiving end of both sides of this. My son bit someone on the arm and i was mortified and my Ds was put on the nuaghty step as soon as he came home from nursery.

I have also been to pick him up from nursery when he has been bitten ...and i was very upset.

What kind of discipline do the nursery have ...is it naughty step / time out what?

It depends on the age of the child involved but sometimes with the best will in the world a nursery can discipline but if the parents won't .......

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

I'd go back to the nursery. My niece is a biter but only bites my DD who now has strict instructions to bite back (but only if bitten first!) She's only had to bite niece once, who, after being bite back looked quite shocked lol

Our nursery dishes out warnings for hitting/biting etc if their discipline doesnt work - after 3 your out of the nursrey (I've never known any one to get to 3!)

*Louise*

I had a similar problem with a child at my sons nursery, but instead of biting, it was my son being hit, kicked, pushed or punched every single day.

After speaking to various teachers and nothing changing, I went to see the head of the nursery and asked what she was going to do about it because I was not having my son picked on every day, and I didn't feel as though he was in a safe environment. Thankfully she then had a teacher assigned directly to this child, who noted down everything and kept on top of his behaviour, which eased the problems.

Even if the parents aren't disciplining the child, it is the nursery's responsibility to watch them while in their care.

Cornish_piskie

The nursery has a duty of care to safeguard your child from potential injury/harm. If the other child is a known biter they should be putting in place a procedure to ensure that other children attending the nursery are safe. Have a chat with the nursery manager and ask them what they can do to keep your child safe - ask to look at their policies and whether they have any staff trained to deal with this sort of behaviour. It's not acceptable and you will find that your child may start to copy this or become clingy and not want to attend nursery. I do feel for the parents of the 'biter' but they can also seek help via their health visitor

At my son's nursery there was a little girl who bit and scratched - my son still bears a scar on his cheek from one nasty incident when she gouged him just a centimetre under his eye . After myself and several other mums threatened to remove our children from the nursery - we were no longer happy to just sign the incident/accident book - the nursery arranged for it's staff to attend specific training on this sort of behaviour, the staff were then able to not only keep the other children safe but also learned strategies to prevent her from biting and scratching. Luckily mum was very much on board with the approach and I'm pleased to say that I didn't have to sign that dreaded book again! :cool:

davsidipp

hi thanks for replies i did not know until today that he has been biting other children and on knowing am slightly annoyed he has not been stopped as i dont see why other children are the butt of his anger.this child is 2 and a half and the mother is not embarresed at all she feels it is the other children which if the parent was decent and said their child was wrong i would understand more but the mothers attitude has got my back up.the nursery have said its the first time they have encountered this problem but i do feel the children need to be safe away from this child as my grandson doe not want to be near him.

Plans_all_plans

I'd tell him to smack him or bite him back personally. I know this might not be a popular opinion, but after seeing my child get hit one too many times at playgroup and the other parent not do anything, I've instructed her to smack back and incidents of this nature have decreased.

Molly41

I dont think its advisable to tell your grand son to bite or smack back! I agree go back to the nursery and very strongly tell them it's not on!
My DS used to bite me. He stopped though when I was carrying him across the park one day and he was in a strop, sunk his teeth into my boob and I dropped him accidentally as the pain he inflicted was horrendous! It is a phase and generally most kids grow out of it!

Cornish_piskie

OP - I would strongly encourage you or grandson's mum to discuss this only with the nursery rather than the mum of the child. Rarely will a mother wish to think that their 'little angel' could possibly be to blame and will more likely think that other children are winding him up and 'making' him behave like this.:cool:

As I said, all nurseries have a duty of care to every child whilst in their premises (and off if on a trip or in outside spaces) - they cannot ignore it as they will be held responsible if, god forbid, anything serious should happen. Remember, they are being paid to look after the children in every way, that includes physical, emotional and social wellbeing. Don't be fobbed off - ask the staff to monitor the situation closely and then if the situation continues, ask for a meeting to discuss it.:)

davsidipp

i know it seems extreme in this day and age but i also agree , the mother does not see it as her problem so what do you do trouble is my grandson wont hit back at the moment so in a catch 22 situation.

davsidipp

Cornish_piskie wrote: »

OP - I would strongly encourage you or grandson's mum to discuss this only with the nursery rather than the mum of the child. Rarely will a mother wish to think that their 'little angel' could possibly be to blame and will more likely think that other children are winding him up and 'making' him behave like this.:cool:

As I said, all nurseries have a duty of care to every child whilst in their premises (and off if on a trip or in outside spaces) - they cannot ignore it as they will be held responsible if, god forbid, anything serious should happen. Remember, they are being paid to look after the children in every way, that includes physical, emotional and social wellbeing. Don't be fobbed off - ask the staff to monitor the situation closely and then if the situation continues, ask for a meeting to discuss it.:)

where have i said i have spoken to the mother i have not but if it does not stop then maybe.first steps will be with nursery manager.