adhd autism dose it get worse with age

hethmar

Oh yes, thats true too - perceptions are way out.

I regularly got called to the school, virtually daily for different problems. I know one day he had a teacher and one of the assistants looking for hours for his watch which he said he had lost on the field. He hadnt even got a watch . Trouble was when he DID tell the truth no one believed him anyway.

He was also clumsy and would take offence easily, blame everyone except himself when something went wrong and cry easily. Heartbreaking.

eve13_2

My sons Apspergers, 26 years old. His lows were 14 (hormonal?) then 19 when he left college. Had a total breakdown then as he's entire world changed. Professionals tried to convince me he was adhd, got narky when I told the they were wrong so told me he was being abused (aloof, didn't want to touched, restless, absoluetely ignorant of any danger, mood swings, melt downs panic attacks etc) sulked when I said what I thought of that theory. Worked with his school to put him into specialist MLD school which worked wonders with him, finally persuaded school to get him properly diagnosed at 14. Diagnosis (correct ones, at any rate!) are very important to get children the support they need. He went to an agricultural college as his obsession at that point was around animal care. Trouble is aspergers is seen as high functioning, but he also has a learning disability, plus other physical problems. He volunteers with children but cannot get a job because of pesky interviews. He doesn't like talking to people he doesn't know- in fact is down right paranoid about it. He is also far too honest, that doesn't go down to well in interviews! So sorry, I don't think things get better, rather than you keep having to face a brand new lot of challenges. All I can suggest is develop a very thick skin, and try to keep a sense of humour.

earwig

Dainty1976 wrote: »

My ds is 5 (Classic Autism - the lowest point on the spectrum and out and out Autism rather than areas on the spectrum - and ADHD) and lies quite a bit - Clin Psych says its not unusual.

The other thing that I have noticed is that sometimes, his perceptions are mixed up and so to the untrained ear it can appear that he is lying when he isn't. For example, if he has hit someone at school, he will swear that it was because they hit him first but some of time its been where he has had to queue or been made (yes, made) to join in carpet time and where he has no awareness of spatial perception and doesnt control his limbs very well he has in fact knocked another child himself or been sat too close and they have leaned into him - which he has perceived as threatening behaviour or a hit from the other child. He cannot be convinced it happened any other way.

this is so true i cant tell you the amount of times i have told him to stop proding his sister in the car yet he swears he hasnt but i guess in his eyes he hast prodded her it just he cant sit stil

l he has had ot do an report on him which said he had no balance and spatial awearness is poor so i should of thought of that :eek:

earwig

thanks for your replys its really helpfull getting all this advice most of my famley just think it ds been naughty and adhd is just an excause for poor parrenting and he just need agood smack :mad:apart from my fil who my ds never dose any of those things for him he dose my dd tells me ds runs rings around him so i dont know why he says it cause it make me feel bad i have had a look at adders such a good site and i will try some of there ideas i got the educational phsycolgist coming to see him soon so mybe there be some more help there thanks again

earwig

hethmar wrote: »

Oh yes, thats true too - perceptions are way out.


He was also clumsy and would take offence easily, blame everyone except himself when something went wrong and cry easily. Heartbreaking.

this is so my son

Savvy_Sue

Rory Bremner was on Woman's Hour yesterday on this very subject - well worth a listen!

earwig

thankyou for that link theres is hope out there still not sure weather to give him meds though:(

holistic_witch

my son aged nearly nine has peaks and can last months. He has ADHD ODD and awaiting aspergers/austic spectrum.
Went on training day tues and yes they can lie as they see it differently they convince themselves its true and real.
example son told teachers his dad had left us and gone to look after the poorly children in africa as they were doing work in this subject he had overheard hubby saying he would be back TILL LATE which he had not heard and got confused with school work. He was actually sobbing his heart out they rang me. So yes they can and do lie but they dont see it that way,
Yes he is on meds they help keep him focused at school but wear off by 2/3 so after school is very hard work
my suggestion would be find your local support group or online group and go on as much of the courses you can get on info is updated regularly so you need to be to. Find other parents in your area it helps to talk to aomeone who has been is going through similar things. Seek advcie from the school nurse they will help where they can or sign-post where cant

Sometimes there is light at the end of the tunnel. Make the hours/days when he is calm count it gets you through the one that aren't

Ali

Savvy_Sue

earwig wrote: »

thankyou for that link theres is hope out there still not sure weather to give him meds though:(

Obviously we can't really advise you on that. But one thing I would say is that if you decide to use meds, it's not a final and forever decision, is it? If you use them, and they don't help, then you can take him off them.

earwig

thanks for you help i think i should wait untill he has been assesed for his autism and if it not all adhd and is autism then mybe he wont need the drugs as they seem heavy duty and he is only six bless him i dont want to drug him if may not need them