OH has just walked out

abacus73

You have so much more control than me OP. If I lived with a selfish, sulky person like that id have been out the door with him. Running as fast as my little legs could take me in the other direction. Wouldn't be going back either.

Life is too short to stick with someone like that. Do have a talk with him and for your own sake stand your ground on this one. Its out of order for him to carry on like this, spoilt brat.

ShAnE

Sadme wrote: »

Thanks for all the support and positive suggestions. He arrived back after a couple of hours, said not a word and went upstairs. Sulked for the rest of the evening and quite frankly didn't have the energy to start a discussion.

Wanted to wait until I was calmer and could discuss this without getting uptight. There are going to be changes though - I simply can't go on like this any longer.

Thanks again for all your help.

Sounds a lot like me, although I don't think I was ever quite that bad.
Try not to hate me for this, but it may give you an insight.
I could be the nicest calmest guy in the world most of the time. But if we got into an argument and I was wrong I was a stubborn sulky child, and would try and twist it into being the OH fault, or just not speak to them for days at a time (not living together at this point). I know now it isn't the right thing to do, but I had so much trouble ever admitting I was at fault, and always wanted to blame someone else. (I always wanted to look like the good guy)

He sounds kind of similar, in that he wants to be seen as the nice guy (tells you not to see your friends who may say bad things about him) and as soon as he does something which makes him not the nice guy, his world comes crashing down.

I don't have any advice on how to fix that, as i'm still working on that part myself, but maybe having the other point of view might help you.