Is this normal behaviour?

rachbc

Its really hard to - say in isolation I would say its not a worry - my dd isn't especially affectionate - wipes off kisses, pushes me away sometimes when I go for a hug, doesn't run up to me at nursery when I pick her up (though tbh I am pleased she is happy enough to want to stay).

However taken with some of the other questions you have I woudl agree its worth a chat with your HV - you do seem to have lots of worries about what is/ isn't 'normal' behviour that they would help you answer better than strangers on a forum whether these are your anxieties or something to be genuinely concerned about

OrkneyStar

skintchick wrote: »

How old is your DD? You say you are a SAHM, can I ask why she goes to nursery? Just to try and get a handle on it before I reply. Has she previously been affectionate or has she never been much of a cuddler?

I am a SAHM too and my three (nearly 4) year old goes to nursery. Not sure about rest of UK, but in Scotland every child is entitled to 12.5 hours nursery education, term starting after their third birthday. This is normally spread over 5 x 2.5 hour sessions. This year (nursery year) we are doing 3 but will do 5 after summer (pre-school year). Most children will then start 'proper' school (primary 1) at 5 (although they can start from 4.5 to 5.5 depending on when birthday is).
Nursery does not always mean child-care nursery and may well be part of the education system.
Not sure what OP's situation is, but just to offer this info .

jetta_wales

Have you actually tried to ask her why and talk to her about it? I know she's young but she sounds very decisive in her actions and it might be worth trying to decipher from her why that is and explaining that it really does make Mummy very sad because you love her sooooo much.

andy.m_2

speak to somebody professionally equipped to give you a sensible and reason based response, but be prepared that the response may require modification of your own development, behaviour and expectations of a young un.

About a year ago I was clashing with my eldest Son, 2 at the time, I looked within and found that the problem was with my own expectations of him.
Cue modification of my dealing with him and we are now the best of friends.

skintchick

OrkneyStar wrote: »

I am a SAHM too and my three (nearly 4) year old goes to nursery. Not sure about rest of UK, but in Scotland every child is entitled to 12.5 hours nursery education, term starting after their third birthday. This is normally spread over 5 x 2.5 hour sessions. This year (nursery year) we are doing 3 but will do 5 after summer (pre-school year). Most children will then start 'proper' school (primary 1) at 5 (although they can start from 4.5 to 5.5 depending on when birthday is).
Nursery does not always mean child-care nursery and may well be part of the education system.
Not sure what OP's situation is, but just to offer this info .

Thank you. Yes I do know this, but just because something is on offer doesn;t mean you have to take it, and nursery can bring with it behavioural problems as they don;t get one-to-one care you can offer at home. But I also know many mums want a break, or need to do chores they find hard with a LO around, so I was trying to understand the OP's situation before I posted my thoughts.