Oooh it's been lovely

euronorris

jetta_wales wrote: »

Just be careful to never let them get dragged into on-line role playing games like Final Fantasy XI or World Of Warcraft. That's when things can fast turn into an addiction and compulsion. I can time the beginning of the downfall of my marriage to the date that Final Fantasy XI was released in the US and he had it imported.

I'm all the happier for it now as I have a new life with a new man and he likes xbox sure but is very much an outdoor person too and we do everything together. Ex on the other hand has a belly, boobs and no life hahaha

Ahh, that's not fair. Not everyone gets addicted to online role playing games.

I love WoW, and so does OH, but we're certainly not addicted. And if he is spending too much time on there, I just ask him to stop and he does.

I think it really depends on the individual.

Winnie_in_Pooh

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I thought the xbox thingies were for spotty adolescents only.

Do grown ups play with them too? :huh:

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:I think "grown up" is a relative term when it comes to xbox thingies

jetta_wales

"be careful" and "that's when things CAN fast turn into addiction"

Not always do but certainly this is the reason for a fast increasing number of divorces these days.

euronorris

jetta_wales wrote: »

"be careful" and "that's when things CAN fast turn into addiction"

Not always do but certainly this is the reason for a fast increasing number of divorces these days.

I would argue that a lot of those marriages were probably already in difficulty before any gaming addiction.

Simply because a gaming addiciton is typically a symptom of a deeper problem. Sometimes it can be an avoidance tactic, if there are arguments at home. And other times, it's a complete escape from real life. That can be because the marriage/relationship isn't doing so great, or it could be as a result of low self esteem (and therefore feeling better and stronger in the game IYSWIM).

Either way, it's always a good idea to try and talk about anything that may be bothering that person, instead of blaming it all on the game. Although I do recognise that sometimes people are so addicted/caught up in themselves, that they refuse to acknowledge there is a problem.

And I'm not saying that you blamed everything on the game, or didn't try any of the above (I haven't got a clue! lol), but I'm sure others have and it would be so easy to do.

jetta_wales

euronorris wrote: »

I would argue that a lot of those marriages were probably already in difficulty before any gaming addiction.

Simply because a gaming addiciton is typically a symptom of a deeper problem. Sometimes it can be an avoidance tactic, if there are arguments at home. And other times, it's a complete escape from real life. That can be because the marriage/relationship isn't doing so great, or it could be as a result of low self esteem (and therefore feeling better and stronger in the game IYSWIM).

Either way, it's always a good idea to try and talk about anything that may be bothering that person, instead of blaming it all on the game. Although I do recognise that sometimes people are so addicted/caught up in themselves, that they refuse to acknowledge there is a problem.

And I'm not saying that you blamed everything on the game, or didn't try any of the above (I haven't got a clue! lol), but I'm sure others have and it would be so easy to do.

Of course there are always lot of different ingredients in any break up but no arguments really in our case not many at all really except over this issue.

He would get up and set things going to run through the day before he left for work then go back to it as soon as he came in and have other things going while checking back to it periodically while supposed to be seeing the kids, having dinner and putting them to bed. Then he'd sit in front of it until usually 2am every night (got to keep up with the link shell events you see and account for those in other time zones). If I tried to suggest an 'early night' you know like husband and wife sometimes do? And no earlier than about 11pm so not even that early. Nope too busy. Then come 2 o'clock in the morning he finally comes to bed and decides to wake me up because now he's done with his game he has interest in me again! Lol sod right off! And even the waking me up bit became a regular occurrence till I shouted to him that I would be a bloody after thought when you're done with your damn game :-) he got the message that time. Stopped waking me up but didn't stop playing.

Divorced on grounds of unreasonable behaviour and he didn't contest it.

I did suggest marrage counselling and promised I would go on the condition he arranged it (to show a little effort at long last) he agree'd but never did it so I knew I made the right choice.

The games even have don't forget your family, job and real life warnings on start up lol.

euronorris

jetta_wales wrote: »

Of course there are always lot of different ingredients in any break up but no arguments really in our case not many at all really except over this issue.

He would get up and set things going to run through the day before he left for work then go back to it as soon as he came in and have other things going while checking back to it periodically while supposed to be seeing the kids, having dinner and putting them to bed. Then he'd sit in front of it until usually 2am every night (got to keep up with the link shell events you see and account for those in other time zones). If I tried to suggest an 'early night' you know like husband and wife sometimes do? And no earlier than about 11pm so not even that early. Nope too busy. Then come 2 o'clock in the morning he finally comes to bed and decides to wake me up because now he's done with his game he has interest in me again! Lol sod right off! And even the waking me up bit became a regular occurrence till I shouted to him that I would be a bloody after thought when you're done with your damn game :-) he got the message that time. Stopped waking me up but didn't stop playing.

Divorced on grounds of unreasonable behaviour and he didn't contest it.

I did suggest marrage counselling and promised I would go on the condition he arranged it (to show a little effort at long last) he agree'd but never did it so I knew I made the right choice.

The games even have don't forget your family, job and real life warnings on start up lol.

Crikey! That sounds like a nightmare Jetta!

You couldn't have done anymore though. You tried, and he didn't. There's nothing else you can do at that point. I'm glad you've found happiness with a new man now though

Thankfully, OH and I have never been that bad. He does get a bit too into it when other stuff is going wrong (like the situation with his brother), but then I insist he moves away from the computer and come talk to me about stuff instead. Thankfully, he's very receptive to that, and it sounds like your ex wasn't. Oh well, he'll figure out at some point that he needs to address a deeper issue.....maybe! lol

Britwife

I would advise changing your credit or debit card number if it was logged with them. Sony fessed up that all personal details have been stolen including credit card details.

Tropez

euronorris wrote: »

Ahh, that's not fair. Not everyone gets addicted to online role playing games.

I love WoW, and so does OH, but we're certainly not addicted. And if he is spending too much time on there, I just ask him to stop and he does.

I think it really depends on the individual.

Agree wholeheartedly.

I have a WoW account and my partner used to have one but she quit once she started her own business, not that she played much beforehand. I haven't logged into WoW for about three weeks, but I've had the account since before the first expansion was released.

I also have an Xbox. That hasn't been switched on since Sunday when a friend was over.

I even have a self-built and very powerful gaming PC with a hefty games library but once again, it hasn't been switched on since the weekend and that was for a couple of hours while my partner was out shopping.

I know some people do play too often and some people do have gaming addictions, but owning a console, gaming PC or subscribing to an online role-playing game isn't a problem. Yes, I've had a few days/nights go by when I've spent several hours on a game - I even remember a friend coming over and us playing through the entirety of Halo 3 from start to finish over the course of a night - but such events aren't regular and they're not the norm for most people who treat gaming the same they treat television, film, books, music etc. A simple way to pass a few hours and entertain themselves.

jetta_wales

Tropez wrote: »

Agree wholeheartedly.

I have a WoW account and my partner used to have one but she quit once she started her own business, not that she played much beforehand. I haven't logged into WoW for about three weeks, but I've had the account since before the first expansion was released.

I also have an Xbox. That hasn't been switched on since Sunday when a friend was over.

I even have a self-built and very powerful gaming PC with a hefty games library but once again, it hasn't been switched on since the weekend and that was for a couple of hours while my partner was out shopping.

I know some people do play too often and some people do have gaming addictions, but owning a console, gaming PC or subscribing to an online role-playing game isn't a problem. Yes, I've had a few days/nights go by when I've spent several hours on a game - I even remember a friend coming over and us playing through the entirety of Halo 3 from start to finish over the course of a night - but such events aren't regular and they're not the norm for most people who treat gaming the same they treat television, film, books, music etc. A simple way to pass a few hours and entertain themselves.

Absolutely but when the MMORG's are more often to blame when people do lose perspective and cross that line into actual addiction.

We've got all 3 main consoles and I especially love Kinect but all things in moderation.

Ironically I met my partner of 3 years now through playing Gears of War lol.

euronorris

Tropez wrote: »

Agree wholeheartedly.

I have a WoW account and my partner used to have one but she quit once she started her own business, not that she played much beforehand. I haven't logged into WoW for about three weeks, but I've had the account since before the first expansion was released.

I also have an Xbox. That hasn't been switched on since Sunday when a friend was over.

I even have a self-built and very powerful gaming PC with a hefty games library but once again, it hasn't been switched on since the weekend and that was for a couple of hours while my partner was out shopping.

I know some people do play too often and some people do have gaming addictions, but owning a console, gaming PC or subscribing to an online role-playing game isn't a problem. Yes, I've had a few days/nights go by when I've spent several hours on a game - I even remember a friend coming over and us playing through the entirety of Halo 3 from start to finish over the course of a night - but such events aren't regular and they're not the norm for most people who treat gaming the same they treat television, film, books, music etc. A simple way to pass a few hours and entertain themselves.

Adam??? :rotfl: