Real life MMD: Should he pay for his mistake?

Former_MSE_Penelope

Should he pay for his mistake?

I planned a surprise party for my boyfriend and booked a venue with food and drink for everyone. His best friend was in charge of pretending they were having a guy's night out that day so he wouldn't suspect anything. However, he got the date wrong and now my boyfriend's planned a weekend abroad. He's booked his flights so can't change the date. I'll lose money from the venue, but I think it's the friend's fault for mixing the dates up. Should I ask him to foot the bill?

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I'd probably do it a week earlier/later, and relay it as a "funny story" about how it should have been the next/last week but your mate "ballsed up". Best mates always rib each other about this kind of thing, and it'll be something to chortle about in later years.

Petaldust

billbennett wrote: »

I'd probably do it a week earlier/later, and relay it as a "funny story" about how it should have been the next/last week but your mate "ballsed up". Best mates always rib each other about this kind of thing, and it'll be something to chortle about in later years.

...none of which actually answers the question :undecided

ironlady2022

Can't you move the date backward/forward?

suelizab

If you cannot move the date then i think you should split it between

you . BUT, if your boyfriend has booked this holiday without

including YOU then i would make HIM foot the bill .

Gresp

This friend sounds like an idiot.

When do the other guests think the party is? On the date you booked, or on the date this friend has incorrectly stated?

If the former, try and persuade your boyfriend to cancel his trip (you might have to tell him the full story and ruin the surprise - although hopefully he'll see the funny side) - and make the friend compensate him for flights etc.

If the latter, try and rearrange the booking. If the venue can't do this and you'll lose your money, you've every right to ask the friend to pay up. It's his fault. (Although hopefully you've only given a deposit, and haven't paid in full yet.)

bayness0

To be honest this is a bit of a stupid question. You asked the friend to do this as a favour - somehow the dates got muddled up - you may have given him the wrong dates.

As an aside, if your boyfriend wants to go away without you - dump him.

tallgirld

Is there not an option of changing the date of the party? If not just have the party without him!!

kna

Whilst it's annoying, it's certainly not directly your friends fault, it's easy to get dates mixed up and more checking between you would have avoided it.

In this case I think it's you who should cancel or rearrange as it's the 'lesser' of two costs. Take it on the chin and put it down to experience.

However, I have to agree about the odd situation where your boyfriend has booked a holiday abroad which neither you or his best friend had any idea about!

Primrose

Rather than lose the money, I'd go ahead and hold the party anyway as an early/late birthday present for yourself without your boyfriend. He can hardly complain. After all, he's booked a holiday for himself without consulting you.

_nate

How much were the flights? If they are cheap ones, losing them will cost a lot less than losing money on a venue.

Anyway, the ditzy friend you chose to help shouldn't pay. What a flimsy way of securing your boyfriend for the weekend! If I wanted to go away on holiday, I would prioritise that over a "guys' night out" which could be done any day and hardly needs to be planned in advance.