CSA 'GOOD CAUSE' rejected - do I appeal?

astonsmummy

erm actually i did understand it!
I just dont understand the point of it in this thread!

magyar

astonsmummy wrote:

You would have to have a good reason (which the op has) or be completely mad to want to deprive yourself and children of any money received from benefits.

I apologise for suggesting that the above meant that you didn't understand the point.

And, finally, a point in defence of Asteroth (who's quite sensibly vanished!) is that if you understand why the CSA may have come to this otherwise unfathomable conclusion then this helps prepare a case for the appeal.

Prudent

It does take quite extreme circumstances for the csa not to pursuse a claim. I guess from their point of view, anyone can claim to be afraid of abuse from their ex. They work on the premise that the nrp, not the tax payer, should take responsibility for supporting the children. They do not have to live with the psychological affects of the abuse and it is about numbers.

I have an abusive ex, who did not want to support his child and tried to intimidate me into backing down. At times the csa were so incompetent this inself also caused huge stress. I did nearly give up pursuing a claim (I am not on benefits, so had a choice), until a friend pointed out that my daughter was missing out on things she could otherwise have. I felt very guilty and decided to pursue my claim. It took over four years to get a statisfactory regular payment, but I can now give her chances she wouldn't have had.

magyar

Can I just add that, as a non-resident parent who has dutifully paid every penny due to my ex, it heartily agree with this point.

Of course I sympathise with people in the position of absuive ex'es, but I know people who the CSA has bled dry, despite them being caring people who just want to provide what they can. Their incompetence is often legendary, but let's not forget they have rules and procedures.

astonsmummy

I have to apologise as i did not read asroths posts properly and thought he was saying the op was no different to a benefit cheat, but i still got the point he was trying to make just i got it in a different way!

ritac1

Okay, thanks everyone for trying to help.

I am getting the feeling that maybe it would be easier to just lose the benefit, since I have no bruises and have only received threats of violence then I obviously cannot prove that I would 'suffer unduly' as they call it.

Up to 40% would be up to approx £23 and I would pay this amount to maintain the relative peace my children and I are experiencing at the moment.

...... and trust me, I would dearly love for my ex to have to face up to his responsibilities but in this instance the bully will win.

astonsmummy

ritac1 wrote:

Okay, thanks everyone for trying to help.

I am getting the feeling that maybe it would be easier to just lose the benefit, since I have no bruises and have only received threats of violence then I obviously cannot prove that I would 'suffer unduly' as they call it.

Up to 40% would be up to approx £23 and I would pay this amount to maintain the relative peace my children and I are experiencing at the moment.

...... and trust me, I would dearly love for my ex to have to face up to his responsibilities but in this instance the bully will win.

dont give up too easily hun, i know what you mean,, the thing these people dont realise is sometimes your just too scared to call the police.
It's such a shame that the honest people are penilised because of all the dishonest people out there.

magyar

I'm ever so sorry you have to end up like that. I'm sure you've thought all this through, but bear in mind that a threat of violence is just as much a criminal offence, so if you have any written evidence of this, then that should be put to the CSA.

ritac1

No evidence, my ex is too clever for that.

magyar

Well, I would say "I hope he can live with himself", but I suspect the answer is "perfectly well". You're shot of him which is something.

I still think you should go through the appeal process anyway and also talk to CAB, see if they can add any advice.