Daughter worried about her friend.

happierdaystocome

I'd say contact Social Services as also this girl is concenting to what is happening there appears from what you have said about her mother to be other issues going on. You can request to have where the information came from anon although I the girl may guess when they discuss the concerns raised with her.

You could suggest to DD that she speak to the schol nurse regfarding what her friend has told her and then the school nurse can speak to the girl/make the referral to SS's

busiscoming2

It is good your daughter can tell you things, you obviously have a lovely relationship.

Maybe a call to Childline to ask for advice? As others have said, I can't see how SS would really be able to help in this situation.

1sttimer_2

This reminds me of an occasion when DD2 was invited to a schoolmates 13th or 14th sleepover birthday party. We didn't know this girl so DH took her to house and wanted to speak to parents/guardian about the party/times etc, but they weren't there! gf said mum had gone to supermarket to get some things and would be back - so DH waited till she came back. It was over 1hr later and she returned only after gf had phone mum!

Dad wouldn't let DD2 stay to sleepover but let her stay for another hr once he knew mum was there. DD was mortified at the time with plenty of pleas and tears but to no avail. At school following Monday, it seemed that mum went out again after DD2 left and left these girls on their own and there was so much falling out and bad behaviour that some of the other friends said to DD2 that they wished their dad's were like hers as they didn't enjoy the party at all.

She was never invited back to any parties and they drifted apart as friends. Years later, she turned out to be a bit of a wild child who went off the rails somewhat.

I think your child seems to have her head screwed on and appears to be very kindhearted - and that seems to be inherited from you.
I would take some of the behaviour with a pinch of salt as some girls only say/do things to be noticed. Keep your ears tuned in and if necessary call someone (who, I'm afraid I wouldn't know) and watch out incase your daughter gets sucked into the girls 'in-crowd'.

FatVonD

That's terribly sad that she has so little self esteem

Violetta_2

Ring the NSPCC for advice , sounds like this young girl is in a bad place, & this attention from these lad's is probably the only "affection" she get's. (I know this isn't really affection but hopefully you understand what I mean. When you feel so bad about yourself , bad attention is better than no attention).