Neighbours becoming a nightmare

Yorkie1

If the conciliatory approaches don't work, video the child doing the damage and contact the police to report criminal damage. It's probably worth telling the mother that's what you will do next time the child does the damage, so they can't say they weren't forewarned.

mangadarkogirl

@Eric's mum, he won't engage with me. I've asked him questions before when he's been on his own and he won't respond or he'll mumble at me. He's only just being allowed to socialise with other children from what I can gather, and he's 5 in a few months.
I've been a nice neighbour, I bring her bins in with mine etc, it's just courteous/what I've been taught. But it doesn't seem to work. I think the fence and explaining it's for my dog is the best thing. My dog is so soft, she is very well trained. But I do worry as he seems to be scared of her. He seems to like my cat, one minute he's stroking him but the next minute he hits him and shouts at him to go away.

Whenever I speak to my neighbour she just goes on and on about herself. I don't mind listening, I do a lot of active listening in my job, but I genuinely find it interesting how she always turns conversation back onto herself. It's just a constant battle to try and speak about anything.

hartcjhart

mangadarkogirl wrote: »

@Eric's mum, he won't engage with me. I've asked him questions before when he's been on his own and he won't respond or he'll mumble at me. He's only just being allowed to socialise with other children from what I can gather, and he's 5 in a few months.
I've been a nice neighbour, I bring her bins in with mine etc, it's just courteous/what I've been taught. But it doesn't seem to work. I think the fence and explaining it's for my dog is the best thing. My dog is so soft, she is very well trained. But I do worry as he seems to be scared of her. He seems to like my cat, one minute he's stroking him but the next minute he hits him and shouts at him to go away.

Whenever I speak to my neighbour she just goes on and on about herself. I don't mind listening, I do a lot of active listening in my job, but I genuinely find it interesting how she always turns conversation back onto herself. It's just a constant battle to try and speak about anything.

her names not 'Tinks' is it:D

muckybutt

One thing noone has mentioned .... keep a diary of everything that he does and that you do in respect of what has happened, that way you have evidence if you ever need to take steps further ie to the police etc.

I know you dont really want to or should have to but personally id go for putting a fence up to segregate your property from theirs, if its shared path then the fence on your border and across the end of the path that leads to your door, same for the back garden.

Dogs she could report you to the council for fouling but cats although classed as domesticated are pretty much free to roam and dump as they want to, council wont do diddly for a complaint that a cat is crapping in someone elses garden.

Id definately keep a diary though.

panchenlama

why don't you stop moaning and just tell her to leave off your stuff. I bet all the stuff you have posted here you have not said to her...grow some and have a word in a firm but fair way.

Spendless

mangadarkogirl wrote: »

@Eric's mum, he won't engage with me. I've asked him questions before when he's been on his own and he won't respond or he'll mumble at me. He's only just being allowed to socialise with other children from what I can gather, and he's 5 in a few months.
I've been a nice neighbour, I bring her bins in with mine etc, it's just courteous/what I've been taught. But it doesn't seem to work. I think the fence and explaining it's for my dog is the best thing. My dog is so soft, she is very well trained. But I do worry as he seems to be scared of her. He seems to like my cat, one minute he's stroking him but the next minute he hits him and shouts at him to go away.

Whenever I speak to my neighbour she just goes on and on about herself. I don't mind listening, I do a lot of active listening in my job, but I genuinely find it interesting how she always turns conversation back onto herself. It's just a constant battle to try and speak about anything.

Is it possible that the child has a disability? As for mum, is she just strange or is it nervous laughter do you think? I'd go for what someone suggested earlier, start up a conversation about how you are bothered about the dog bothering other people so will be putting up a fence.

reformedEffortmaker

panchenlama wrote: »

why don't you stop moaning and just tell her to leave off your stuff. I bet all the stuff you have posted here you have not said to her...grow some and have a word in a firm but fair way.

could you really find no other way to say this?

Norman_Castle

When the child is damaging your property and his mother is doing nothing, you should either ask or tell him to stop and explain to him, why. You will be helping with his socialisation and education. Something his mother seems incapable of.