Memorygirls - The Matrix Re-inspired

maryb

I like the term GUPpies. I call them UFOs (unfinished objects)

thriftyscotslass

Just popped on to wish Clooties Mum good luck. This economy is pants :mad:, dh's company is creaking loudly at the seams again. There is talk of selling buildings, cutting production, downsizing staff - this has been happening in dribs and drabs over the past two years but it looks like it could be a biggie this time, so we are also in wait-and-see land.

Sorry to hear you are low Marru, will check-out the online CBA (luv that :rotfl:).

Just been on an hour walk with ds up some VERY steep hills, completely pooped now with a puce coloured face :eek:. Need to get up and make some chilli for tea but don't know if I'll make it to the kitchen.

Good luck to Firewalker for tomorrow - for both the start of your sabbatical (how exciting) and your camping trip (I last went camping 30 years ago, I think that's all I need to say on the subject ).

Time to stop waffling and go do...

crickett1234

I am so tired.

However, in the spirit of positive thinking, I have made myself a list and I am going to attempt to do some of the jobs on the list. If i manage it, I shall be amazed!! The idea is to be completely tuckered out by the time I crawl into my bed and sleep (and yes, I am going to tidy my room and make it look lovely!

See you round folks!

Memory_Girl

DS1 has asked me to report in here to you all.

He had a fun day with the kids at the school. He even had a male teacher for the first time ever. He was able to help out one of the other teachers who was having a problem with their FLIP camera.

He asked about packed lunches - and there are no kids with peanut allergies just two that we already know who have wheat issues an they would be fine with him taking in food flasks and hot food. They have even said he can use the microwave if he needs to heat anything up. (I think they were pretty impressed at his interest in food and cooking)

All in all he is pretty chipper - and I think he will choose this school for the beginning of next term.

Big relief all round I can tell you - now he wants on to email his Montessori Teacher and tell her all about it.

MG

ETA in a moment of solidarity with Crickett - I am off to beautify my bedroom.

thriftyscotslass

MG (((Hugs))) to both you and ds1 - big changes for you both that I am positive you will both rise with style and flair.

Marru

thriftyscotslass wrote: »

Sorry to hear you are low Marru, will check-out the online CBA (luv that :rotfl:).

Freudian slip, me thinks...

Got the Cafcass report, not happy bunny and I have a migraine of the century to boost, could pretty much cry...

Cafcass wants me to allow DD have weekly phone chat with her dad. Well when exactly? I bring her home at 6 pm and then it is a rush for a tea and getting her to bed at reasonable time. And this is when it is not swimming or beaver night. Or perhaps it should be on the weekend. She sees him every other weekend anyway so aren't I allowed to have the other weekend with her without interruption from the *#!@!!# :mad:

And they said that we should extend the visiting time if a venue can be found for the hand over but there is no suggestion for such venue. I have enough on my plate as it is to try to find someone to look after her during the August bank holiday week, how am I going to find a venue for these visits as well?

I have trouble taking time off from work and DD keeps bringing home letters asking parents to go and participate with their school stuff. How the He11 am I going to do that? An hour here an hour there AAAARRRRGGGHHHH!!! I even stopped my councelling because taking the time off was just too stressfull. :mad:

Off to feed DD, and take some strong painkillers. Sorry about the rant.

ClootiesMum

Well - didn't have to clear my desk but apart from what was on the media we really have no more information. I really think our small dept will be OK at the moment & the good news is the job losses are over 3 years so there will be a fair bit of natural wastage.
And remember the job I did think about applying for - that whole level seems to have gone - so glad I didn't apply.
So I live to fight another day :j:j
But think I will speak to DH this weekend & see if we can cut back on all spending so if this happens again we won't need to panic - I have kind of thought about doing this anyway as it will give peace of mind - so shortly I will join you on the 50 day challenge for Operation Lockdown (sounds good - eh)

Anyhow DS1 - glad you had a good day & enjoyed the school - it'll make the move to secondary easier - honest.

Now off to relax - sadly inside as it's raining....

Thanks for all your support folks - it really does make a difference

SunFlower

Evening all!

Just back from work: I haven't got long as I've got relatives over to got to a wedding tomorrow.

Hugs to all who need them. Sorry to be so general - I feel awful, like I'm not paying you all proper attention - and well done to all of you who seem to be Going Places (JUST WRITE IT, MG!).

I may be reading too much into this, but at the place I'm doing my work experience, one of the other members of staff is doing abroad to get married this weekend. I was wishing her all the best of it etc. when she said to me 'Enjoy your few weeks at *insert name of company*'.

Now bearing in mind that she won't be back until after what would be my last day if I don't get offered a permanent position, I wonder if she knows something that I don't? Or am I really just be too sensitive about the whole thing? *Scratches chin*

Have to go as have to help an aunt. Take care one and all. xxx

Memory_Girl

Marru wrote: »

Freudian slip, me thinks...

Got the Cafcass report, not happy bunny and I have a migraine of the century to boost, could pretty much cry...

Right, first of all. Have a bloody good cry and pop some painkillers................. then a nice deep breath.

Cafcass wants me to allow DD have weekly phone chat with her dad. Well when exactly? I bring her home at 6 pm and then it is a rush for a tea and getting her to bed at reasonable time. And this is when it is not swimming or beaver night. Or perhaps it should be on the weekend. She sees him every other weekend anyway so aren't I allowed to have the other weekend with her without interruption from the *#!@!!# :mad:

What I do with our family is 5pm on a Sunday. DS1 only talks for a few minutes anyways. I dial who he wants to chat to and then leave to cook dinner in the next room. He is usually with me inside 5 minutes mooching for something to nibble on. Its not YOUR responsibility to make her talk - its her fathers job to engage her. When she has had enough she will soon let him know. BTW DS1's dad lasted 6 weeks before the call faded to nothing - but I did my bit, that was HIS decision. Would 5 minutes on a Sunday evening fit you better instead a the mid-week juggling?

And they said that we should extend the visiting time if a venue can be found for the hand over but there is no suggestion for such venue. I have enough on my plate as it is to try to find someone to look after her during the August bank holiday week, how am I going to find a venue for these visits as well?

Again, not your issue. HE wants visits - let HIM organise the venue and let you know where. All you do is smile sweetly, agree with CAFCAS and leave the ball in his court. You concentrate on finding suitable childcare for the important stuff.

I have trouble taking time off from work and DD keeps bringing home letters asking parents to go and participate with their school stuff. How the He11 am I going to do that? An hour here an hour there AAAARRRRGGGHHHH!!! I even stopped my councelling because taking the time off was just too stressfull. :mad:

Personally - I'd get back to the counselling - for your own sake. Write a lovely letter to the school saying that you wish you could contribute more time, but at the moment you are dealing with DD and a difficult family situation, so you hope they will understand that she comes first at the moment. Add if you like, that when things calm down you will be delighted to contribute more time but it simply isn't possible right now .................... third step, stop beating yourself up about this - there's no need to guilt trip yourself because I bet the school isn't giving another thought to you not always being there.

Off to feed DD, and take some strong painkillers. Sorry about the rant.

Now, hope you have taken your painkillers and are planning on a lovely long bath after you've got DD to bed.

Chin up love. Being a single Mom is tough - with or without Idiot OH's. You find what works for YOU and for your DD, but that doesn't mean having to DO it all.

MG XXX

Marru

Thanks MG :A

I have cleaned the litter tray, put washing on, put vegetables in the steamer and had a good rant and cry on the phone to BF. Taking the pain killers now and then off to fry some fish. I didn't think the councelling worked, need to find somebody/something else.