Adopted or not?

julesh_3

My childhood was very traumatic as my sister always told me I was adopted, not a true family member.She said she saw the documents though didnt say where.I tried to ring my brother to talk about it but sis in law threatened me with police for harrasment lol she always was a diva.;Im so mixed up and mum? hates me.Can I find out if I was treally adopted Im starting to doubt it?just had nasty siblings.

SnowyOwl_2

Contact the births, deaths & marriages registration office of your local council. Tell them you want to obtain a copy of your long birth certificate. They will give you the contact details of where to apply to.

DVardysShadow

Whether or not you were adopted, you were loved, your sister was kept on out of obligation.

Loanranger

Here's the link for how to obtain a birth certificate for an adopted person.

https://www.gro.gov.uk/gro/content/certificates/faqs-adoption.asp

Are you in touch with your father or your grandparents or any aunts and uncles? They would probably be able to throw some light on the story.

Do you think your sister was teasing you about being adopted?
We have a running joke in our family that one of us was adopted by one family member but was actually the child of another of our family members. Everyone understands that this is a joke and not to be taken seriously and only started when the person concerned was about 30 years old and well aware that it was just a joke.
If your sister was teasing you it's a very cruel and malicious thing to say to a child.

Craftyscholar

SnowyOwl wrote: »

Contact the births, deaths & marriages registration office of your local council. Tell them you want to obtain a copy of your long birth certificate. They will give you the contact details of where to apply to.

Apologies to you, SnowyOwl, if this feels like interfering, but just to clarify - if you receive a long birth certificate with your mum and dad's names (the ones who brought you up) etc. then you were not adopted.

An adopted person has a short certificate, but if you have to supply the long one for official purposes like a passport then an adopted person has to use their adoption papers.

An adopted person does have a birth registration and a long cert. but with their birth surname.

Sambucus_Nigra

julesh wrote: »

My childhood was very traumatic as my sister always told me I was adopted, not a true family member.She said she saw the documents though didnt say where.I tried to ring my brother to talk about it but sis in law threatened me with police for harrasment lol she always was a diva.;Im so mixed up and mum? hates me.Can I find out if I was treally adopted Im starting to doubt it?just had nasty siblings.

Your SIL won't let you talk to your bother and your mum hates you?

Is there anyone in your family that you are in touch with and is grown up enough to have a conversation about this? Is your sister usually a complete b1tch or just on this topic?

Tropez

DVardysShadow wrote: »

Whether or not you were adopted, you were loved, your sister was kept on out of obligation.

I have to be honest, it doesn't sound like a very loving environment, particularly as the OP feels her mother hates her.

pigpen

We jokingly tell my sister she was adopted.. because she is nice and we are all not! ... Sounds like this might be the case for you! (that you are nice because your sister and SIL sound like complete b!tches!)

Did your mother never mention when she was pregnant with you anything specific happened, went anywhere like holidays or weddings?? Any details about the time or date of your birth or your delivery?

kelloggs36

If you have your birth cert it will say on it 'adopted' if that was the case.

greenval

The birth certificate issued after adoption DOES NOT say adopted on it !

nottslass_2

kelloggs36 wrote: »

If you have your birth cert it will say on it 'adopted' if that was the case.

The "shortened" birth cert does not make any reference to the fact that a person is adopted. It looks exactly the same as any other birth cert.